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waterspout4
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by cjb88
Ladies, I'm just curious... What would you have done if you saw a woman walking around the park with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth... and she isn't far away from all of the slides and swings, she is right there and everyone can smell and breath it?? (this happened the first time we went, and I wasnt sure what the etiquette was)
I will always politely ask her if she could smoke a bit further away from the children.
If she chooses to stay where she is, I would take my child away from the playground and really get loud with mean comments.
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
smoking, I would walk somewhere else.
totally rude...but I lay low on the drama and aggravation.
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| Posted 6/14/09 8:18 PM |
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Daisy07
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by julz33
Posted by cjb88
im surprised that you contained yourself... The minute the woman went over to the buggy, i would have said, excuse me, but that is ours. end of story. you dont know these people from a whole in the wall...
ITA!
And if it was my son tryng to take a ride in another childs buggy I would tell him NO WAY.
Same here.
C, that was really nice of you to let them use it for that long. I would have said something right away, and I'm usually pretty passive!
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| Posted 6/14/09 8:28 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
I wouldn't of had a problem with the child using it, but I would of went over and just let the mom know it was my buggy, and would of took my stuff out of it so nothing would go missing! I feel kids learn things from watching there parents, and I wouldn't want my kids to see me being mean to other kids by taking a toy away that they wanted to play with, a buggy is a big thing to bring to a park, so it was normal for other kids wanting to use it, I've seen it happen many times before!
I would of wiped it down with antibacterial wipes after big time!! LOL
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| Posted 6/14/09 8:34 PM |
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pickles16
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by InShock
Totally unacceptable! 
That's totally NOT proper playground etiquette.
I agree totally!!!!
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| Posted 6/14/09 8:50 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
i think it is rude.
a parent should ask first if its ok- especially with the flu running around
what I would do- is get one of those stroller netting - they sell it for $5 at BRU. and when I get there take it out and put it over the buggy.
when I went with my sister and her two kids to the park a kid did run upto hers and start playing with it- getting on it- but they didnt do laps around the park in it- it stayed put where it was -
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| Posted 6/14/09 9:02 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by greeneyes361708
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what would I have done?
I would have automatically said "That's ours" the moment they put their paws on it.
Same here. I would never ever even THINK of walking around with someone else's buggy. NEVER. I don't even understand why someone would do it 
I feel the same
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| Posted 6/14/09 9:13 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by cjb88
im surprised that you contained yourself... The minute the woman went over to the buggy, i would have said, excuse me, but that is ours. end of story. you dont know these people from a whole in the wall...
ITA.
Having said that, If I found myself in your shoes I wouldn't have been surprised, nor upset that the kids went into the trunk, that's what kids do, BUT what would've made me pizzed was that the other mom let it happen. The kids probably don't even understand the concept of mine, yours and sharing because the other mom obviously doesn't give them any boundaries.
I can't tell you how many times my dc has gone for another kids toy and my response is always "no, no, that's not yours" or "you have to ask". I couldn't even imagine letting him use a toy without asking. People are f'n rude
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| Posted 6/14/09 9:14 PM |
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babymakes3
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
I don't let my DD use other children's toys without getting the okay from the child or parent first. If it was full of other toys, I would make sure those toys are put back before returning it.
So, yea, I think it's rude that they took it without asking and they scattered all the toys.
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| Posted 6/14/09 9:17 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
I would have told the mom right away, sorry but he didnt' bring that for your kids! Just because you brought it to the park doesn't mean you have to share it!
ETS I wouldnt let DS touch someone elses toys, I can't even imagine! there are plenty of things to play with at the park, hands off!
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| Posted 6/14/09 9:54 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
That is ridiculous! If someone did that to us I would have gone up to them and taken it back - pretending DS wanted it or we had to leave and I would have angrily commented out loud so she could hear about his toys.
I have experienced similar although not nearly as bad incidents. I very often take DS to the park in his buggy and there are always kids that go up to it - go thorugh the trunk, and play with it while we are on the playground. It always irks me - especially since it always seems like the kids that are sick  Once a little girl even picked out his sippy cup and started drinking from it. The worst part is that the moms (or nannies) just sit by gabbing away and completely do nothing. I would NEVER let DS rummage through other peoples things!
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| Posted 6/14/09 10:10 PM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Wow you were very good if you ask me. I think I would have said something when they started to use it. That is rude rude rude and cant believe she had the nerve.
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| Posted 6/14/09 10:13 PM |
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Whooooaaaaaaa... NO FRIGGEN WAY!!! I would hav lost it as soon as she touched my stroller!!!!
Not for nothing - I usually am not a germ phobe, but with everyone getting sick lately, that alone would pisss me off!!! And I would be VERY verbal about it!!!!
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| Posted 6/14/09 10:54 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
If it is normal park behavior, I've never encountered it.
I wouldn't let me kids use someone else's wagon & drive them around. It's one thing to pick up a bucket - and if the child who owns the bucket gets upset, then you give it back immediately.
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| Posted 6/14/09 11:48 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
WOW??? I can't even believe that happened!!! The nerve!!!
I must say I have never had anything like that happen to me. I come to the playground with toys and I usually try to keep them by our stroller after they are done with it but if it is out and some kid comes up to it they usually have a parent following who says not to touch it. Then, if I like the kid, I say it's OK. Of course my kids also want other kids toys too but I ALWAYS say No, it's not ours! If then the parent of the kids with the toy in question says it's ok to play with it I let my kids go ahead. Although as a rule i am not at all a fan of touching other children's toys or them touching ours.
Recently my son saw a toddler bike at the playground and he was dying to use it. I kept on saying not to touch it and he would step away but his eyes were just begging for it. Nobody was using it but I knew whose it was. So, asked the mother if it was OK for Benjamin to use it and she said absolutely. He was so happy I was glad I went against my rules. When I saw that they are getting ready to leave because the owner of the bike was done with his swing ride, I had Benjamin drive it to them and thank them and he was the picture of politeness. I was so proud of him!
I am not sure what I would have done in your situation. i am not very aggressive at all. I fact I wish I was, but I am not. I think I would have gone up to them eventually and politely asked for it back because my children wanted it-and they probably would have too.
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| Posted 6/15/09 12:12 AM |
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KangaMom
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Not nice at all
Message edited 6/15/2009 10:52:33 AM.
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aliwnec10
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Oh i SO would have said something.  That lady has some nerve!!!!
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:00 AM |
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MommyofG
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
You are very nice!!!! I would have ran over there and said excuse me this is ours. Then I would have looked at the mom and say- would your children like to try it?
but then too what if the child got hurt? then what, the mom is going to blame you for letting them use it?
its so hard with something like that, other toys I wouldnt care.
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:03 AM |
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jambalady
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by cjb88
im surprised that you contained yourself... The minute the woman went over to the buggy, i would have said, excuse me, but that is ours. end of story. you dont know these people from a whole in the wall...
ITA. I understand that a child does not know any better, but if the parent just allowed this behavior without saying "no, that's not yours", I would have no issues telling her that that was my buggy.
All it takes is a simple acknowledgement that the toy is not their child's, and that permission has to be asked to play with other people's things, then I would be totally fine with letting their kids use it.
I always apologize when DS goes over to other kids toys.
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:04 AM |
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steph4777
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by DivaDisaster
I understand that children are curious and want to play with what others have but with that said...as soon as my daughter went over to play with something that belonged to someone else I would stop her and relocate her to something else. I would let the person who owned the item be the one to say "oh she can play with it". I would NEVER just let my child go and use something that didn't belong to her without permission. I would have been so shocked if someone did that...and you showed some AMAZING restraint. Now you know for the future to say how you feel!
I totally agree.
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:12 AM |
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adeline27
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
Posted by browneyedgirl
what would you have done? i thought i was being nice by letting her use it for so long. but now i feel taken advantaged of. the emptying of the toys thing is what is really bugging me. am i right to be annoyed? is this normal playground behavior for moms of other children? obviously DS is 11 months old so we just started going to the playground this spring, but i would never use and take apart someone else's toy without talking to the mom first--or at least getting acknowledgment from her first.
Becareful next time, you will be so surprised at how parents react to certain things. I'm a newbie mom, I have an 18 month old and I've taken my son to the park here and there and I swear some parents are oblivious.
Also this situation happened to me except for I was the one that had my son use someone elses buggy 2 (same toy too lol) Let me explain though...My DS and I were playing on the playground when we saw a mom pulling her baby in the buggy 2 ride. I wished she had left it outside the fence (still visible to her) but she pulled it in and of course my son runs up to it and wants to play in it (we have the same toy at home) I didn't want him to play with because I didn't feal it was right so I told him no, it's not ours and I tried forcing him to something else to play with. At 18 months of course he starts flipping out so the mom was very nice and told me not to worry that he could play with it. The whole time which was only about 3 minutes I felt really uncomfortable simply because it's not like I knew her and I was worried about my son braking it (you never know) 3 minutes into playing with it he decides to roll it in the sand box to play with it. And that's when I said that's it. I took it and brought it to the mother who was in seperate swing area with a gate and I told her that thank you but I just didn't feel comforatable with my son playing with her son's toy.
The woman smiled and said thanks. My son flipped out (I felt so bad ) and I couldn't get him to go on any other toy so we had to leave the park. We were only there for 10 minutes.
I kind of wished she parked it to the side of parks fence where it would still be visible to her and not accessible to the little ones (little ones that can't understand that it's not theirs to play with) I just felt to leave it right there in the open it made it hard to get little ones away from it. They don't know it's not theirs and it made me really uncomfortable because I knew there was going to be a problem.
I'm sorry this happened. It's tough situation but you were just being nice and the parents of the other kids should have been more careful. Believe me if that was me I wouldn't have done that to your child's toy  I just don't feel it's right to have your kids play with other kids toys. I was so worried about this toy I wasn't enjoying myself at the park at all and we unfortunately had to leave because he got hysterical when I took it away.
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:23 AM |
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NS1976
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
I hate the playground!
With that said, I would have been angry. I dont let Megan just go and take anyone elses toys. Has she tried? Of course, she's a kid..but I just dont think its right. Had it happened to me..I would have let the kids ride it for a few minutes and if the mother said nothing like in this situation, I would have asked for it back.
I have encountered such unacceptable behavior at every playground I have ever taken Megan to, its crazy!! Small kids playing all alone on the equipment while the parents sat and chatted the entire time, bigger kids running around like lunatics pushing my smaller kid in the part of the playground that isnt even for them, taking her toys, etc. It just annoys me. Apparently the kids who are at the playground all the time seem to think its fine to take toys that dont belong to them but when I was growing up we were taught that if it didnt belong to us, dont touch it. Its different than sharing. If we are exchanging toys..sharing something we brought for something they brought, thats different. I may sound like a B$%^& but its my kids toy and I really dont want a stranger touching it. Ok..now I sound awful. 
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:26 AM |
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
WOW, I'm shocked.
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:29 AM |
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adeline27
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
I just want to add that I honestly always have my gaurd up at playgrounds because a lot of other parents don't watch their kids. Especially older kids playing on the little tots toys. Like HELLO go play on the other side. Some kids can be very pushy and running around smacking into little toddlers. I can't stand it. Going to the playground is like going to the movies there is a lot of disrespect.
I remember another time going a mom was having a conversation with me and while I was listening my eyes were totally on DS and what he was doing. I felt bad and I'm not sure if I looked like I couldn't be bothered with her talk but I had to keep my eyes on my son (sorry!) I don't eve think she looked at her kids once in 15 minutes.
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| Posted 6/15/09 11:41 AM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: i found this so rude...thoughts on what happened at the park?
i never really thought about the other kid getting hurt and her blaming me or my toy. now i'm definitely not letting anyone else play with it--not worth the chance.
there was no other place in this park to park his buggy. there was a chainlink fence and i parked it right next to it. it's an "open" playground so there's no place to put it away from the other kids.
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