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hotsauce345
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I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
DH and I have been together so long that nothing is ever really "special" anymore. Every holiday is "just another day" to him. but this is my first mother's day. I know we don't have money...but I'd love something handmade, or a cheap crafty frame, necklace...art...anything to remember my FIRST mother's day.
I hate that he isn't thoughtful...He'll outright ask "is there anything you want?" to which of course I just say "ehhh I know we don't have money" and he says " I figured maybe we'll just go out to breakfast". Thats his answer for EVERYTHING! Why can't anything be special or a surprise?
I hope he proves me wrong...but knowing how those hopes have worked out for me in the past I'm pretty sure I'll be let down.
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I know it doesn't help how you are feeling, but know that you aren't the first, and won't be the last to feel this way 
I have been let down for countless birthdays and holidays.
I just suck it up and remember that even though he sucks at showing it, he really does love me and this day in age, that's something to hold on to! 
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| Posted 5/10/12 6:23 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Thank you! That actually did help, you are SO right!
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| Posted 5/10/12 6:27 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
IF I don't tell DH specifically want I want, it won't happen. I think there are many, many men like this.
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| Posted 5/10/12 6:29 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by SweetTooth
IF I don't tell DH specifically want I want, it won't happen. I think there are many, many men like this.
 I tried to hint and show him this necklace I liked...it was only $25...and he just goes "oh thats cute, that's your style" doesn't take note of the website, nothing...HELLLLLLLO even if he just had a picture of DS enlarged for our wall...it's not like I'm here asking for high end jewelry or coach bag or something!
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| Posted 5/10/12 6:37 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I guess I just feel like the things that I want are more thoughtful that material and I feel that by telling him it will no longer be a thoughtful sentimental gift...it'll be the gift that I asked for
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| Posted 5/10/12 6:40 PM |
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whoababy11
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
i know it isnt very romantic, but you may just need to tell him straight out: "this is what i want for mothers day" and then send him a link to the necklace. this is what DH and i do, because he is not very creative when it comes to gift giving. and like i said, it is not romantic, but if he wraps it and presents it to you with a card, it might make you feel good.
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| Posted 5/10/12 7:14 PM |
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apwmjc
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I hear you. Dh asked what time brunch was on mother's day. I said 1:30. He said oh good I could work overtime then I told him it was my 1st mother's day & would like him to spend the day with us. Ugh....men!
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| Posted 5/10/12 7:43 PM |
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Jacksmommy
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
DH thinks that because I am not his mother and DS doesn't really understand it, he doesn't need to celebrate it! I totally understand how you feel b/c I make every event special for him! Men stink sometimes!
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| Posted 5/10/12 9:42 PM |
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WenRC
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I have to actually tell DH what I want. I told him for Mother's day I want an orchid plant and he told me he wants a bottle of booze for Father's day. If I don't get my orchid he's not getting his whiskey...lol!
Never assume they will "get it" -all hints go right over their heads.
ETA: We just had a baby, I'm not working right now, and we are in the process of buying a house so a lot of "anniversaries" this yr will be el cheapo.
Update 5/12/12...DH got me my Orchid :) it's exactly what I wanted!
Message edited 5/12/2012 12:28:16 AM.
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| Posted 5/10/12 10:09 PM |
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Bella01
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
You are not alone!!! My DH is the same way! He just doesn't get that all I want is a gift he put thought into not just taking me to breakfast! I want something from the heart. It may not make you feel better, but just know that I am in the same boat as you!
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| Posted 5/10/12 10:13 PM |
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bella321
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
No advice but
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| Posted 5/10/12 10:28 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I hear you, I'm expecting a whole lot of absolutely nothing.
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| Posted 5/10/12 10:53 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I understand how you feel. My DH isnt the romantic/event planning type. He is good at buying gifts but not into having a special family day. It does make me feel bad sometimes but he is just not the mushy type. If I wanted to take our baby boy to a sporting event when he was old enough, that would be more his speed or going to eat of course.
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| Posted 5/10/12 11:01 PM |
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luckysmom
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I know my DH won't do anything special. We'll be coming home from Dutch wonderland with the kids that day. But even if we were going to be home he wouldn't do anything special. He already gavely gift last week, which kinda p!ssed me off that he have it to me already. He used to be much better at these things before we got married and bought the house 
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| Posted 5/10/12 11:06 PM |
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Don't people know this at the start of a relationship whether their partner is into commericalized holidays and such?
I can understand the disappointment, but don't most people know this ahead of time?
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| Posted 5/10/12 11:14 PM |
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WhatNow
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
this is my first mother's day. I know we don't have money...but I'd love something handmade, or a cheap crafty frame, necklace...art...anything to remember my FIRST mother's day.
You need to tell his just what you wrote! They are NOT mind readers, you know! Make sure he realizes this is your FIRST mothers day and you want to remember it, in a good way!!! 
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| Posted 5/10/12 11:16 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I agree with what the other girls here have said - you absolutely need to tell your DH you want a card from your DC to you. If you want flowers say I would like you to go to the grocery store and pick up a bouquet of flowers (It does not have to be roses. At my local grocer a small bunch of flowers is $3.99.) I know that there are 99 cent cards or he could go on the computer and use a printer to make a card for less than that if money is super tight.
If you want something hand made, tell him that too. I find that my DH will not do anything in the gift giving department without me explicitly saying I want X. After almost 7 years of marriage, I realized that he just does not want to disappoint me. Unfortunately doing nothing would be the most disappointing, but for him he feels that he does not want to get the wrong thing so nothing is better than wrong. For me, it is better to get something than nothing, but I don't think he sees it that way. At this point I tell him what I want and it makes both of us happy. Good luck! Happy 1st Mother's Day!!!!
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GioiaMia
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I know its not the same BUT. . .I just tell him. . . this year I got an ad in the mail for 15% off gift certificates to my favorite spa. I took the ad, cut out all the rest (because no I dont want 20% off body waxing as a gift lol) and left it in his mail pile. fingers crossed he got the hint lol
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LotsaLuv
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I planned out my Mothers day for DH, he is not the planning type. He asked me what I wanted and I told him. He's just not that guy, but he has so many other awesome qualities that helps me overlook the ones he doesn't have.
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JenMarie
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Honestly, you need to tell him how you feel. Men are not thoughtful creatures like us women. Just tell him you know money is tight, but you'd appreciate it if he made an effort to make your first Mother's Day special, even if it's something inexpensive, hand made, etc.
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babyfever08
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
First off I know how you feel. DH has not remembered any special day since we got married. Some people tell me to tell him what I want, but that's not the point. I've done that too, and still didn't work. He always says he was too busy.  I honestly don't expect it anymore.
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| Posted 5/11/12 8:44 AM |
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jax1
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by SweetTooth
IF I don't tell DH specifically want I want, it won't happen. I think there are many, many men like this.
Definitely agree. I feel like with a lot of men you have to just tell them upfront what you want, or it's hard for them. I told my husband I want a massage from this place I like, for him to make me breakfast, and to LET ME SLEEP IN!!! If I didn't tell him, I don't know what he would do...something, but I know it's just easier with him to tell him. He makes up for it by always writing me such beautiful letters in his card, but he doesn't really surprise me often with things like I do with him all the time. Again, I think it's a male thing...at least for most of them.
Tell him you want something handmade or different to make this a special 1st mother's day.
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| Posted 5/11/12 9:52 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by SweetTooth
IF I don't tell DH specifically want I want, it won't happen. I think there are many, many men like this.
DH is like this.
Last year for my first mother's day I showed DH the mommy necklace I wanted- I researched it, showed him- did everything short of ordering it myself.
It's just the way he is....some guys are just like that and they will never change...
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| Posted 5/11/12 9:54 AM |
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Budjeg11
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Your DH is taking you to breakfast.. would be nice!
Seriously, my DH is super thoughtful with gifts SOMETIMES , and other times totally not, but is NEVER into planning anything.
I will be dissapointed this year too I fear and my bday is a few days after mom's day... so double dissapointment is in my future =-))
Maybe they'll surprise us=)
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