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RocPin
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
My DH is the same way.
I had to send him the Amazon link to what I wanted otherwise I wouldnt have gotten it. Hes just not a great gift giver so I have to guide him. Im ok with that since I know I will always get something I want.
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Bridex100
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
We're hanging out with my parents on Mother's Day so I don't expect DH to do anything.
I would be upset if he did not at least get me a card.
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| Posted 5/11/12 11:07 AM |
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nancyg
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I agree you should tell your DH what you want. But if you don't get anything handmade maybe you could spend part of the day doing a simple craft. You could do it all together and take pictures, and make a mess and have fun. Could be something as easy as making painted handprints to remember how small your little one is on your first Mother's Day.
Hope you have a great one!
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| Posted 5/11/12 12:26 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I know it can be hard to tell DH directly "I want this....." because you want him to WANT to do it without any pushing.
Can you possibly have someone else like a friend or family member talk to him to say "Oh well your wife said she would like this....maybe you should make a big deal out of her first mother's day."
My DH is pretty good with stuff like that, but I also make sure that I tell my mom to mention things to him and they are close enough that she will speak up. She will drop hints to him and make sure he's going in the right direction.
Is there anyone who can do that for you if you don't want to tell him directly?
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| Posted 5/11/12 12:35 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by MrsPJB2007
I know it can be hard to tell DH directly "I want this....." because you want him to WANT to do it without any pushing.
Can you possibly have someone else like a friend or family member talk to him to say "Oh well your wife said she would like this....maybe you should make a big deal out of her first mother's day."
My DH is pretty good with stuff like that, but I also make sure that I tell my mom to mention things to him and they are close enough that she will speak up. She will drop hints to him and make sure he's going in the right direction.
Is there anyone who can do that for you if you don't want to tell him directly?
I think you hit it right on the head for me. I think for me the GIFT is more in him WANTING to make my first mothers day special.
He has it really easy with me bc I don't like flowers (overpriced and die quickly, so i feel they are a waste) I don't need cards (unless of course my son made it). I like cheaper crafty heartfelt jewelry rather than "the latest craze" at an expensive jewelry store (unless it's like our 10 yr marriage anniversary...then sure...buy me something nice!). I like fashion but am more the type to "recreate" a look for less than I am to buy some crazy expensive item with logos all over it. I think I'm pretty simple!
I just think if I HAVE to ASK for it...it loses it's specialty and then whats the point?
Although...I should report...Last night out of nowhere he said "alright so, are you really ok with just going out to breakfast or did you want something?" and I kind of put my head down while looking at him with a grin and he's like "ok, I got my answer...you want a gift" so it opened up an opportunity to talk about it and I told him how I felt and that I'm not looking for anything crazy but being that I'm a mom now and this is my FIRST mother's day...I would like something personal to remember that. I don't care if it comes in the form of a handmade card...but that would make me happy"
So in the end...Yeah, I guess I still did have to tell him...but he did ASK so I guess thats a nice start!! at least he asked!
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| Posted 5/11/12 1:39 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by cncforever
Don't people know this at the start of a relationship whether their partner is into commericalized holidays and such?
I can understand the disappointment, but don't most people know this ahead of time?
people change, times change.
I guess after years of me putting our home, our wedding, our finances, preparing for baby, etc etc etc before my need to feel special he stopped feeling the need to do things.
He used to go all out for christmas...but our priorities have changed. It's been 12 years...we no longer live with our parents or in a cheap apartment...there is a mortgage and bills and a baby to put before ourselves...and I am notorious for putting everyone & everything before my own happiness. I'm the type that would say "oh just buy DS a gift...i've been wanting to get him XYZ" but every once in a while I'd like something small to feel appreciated...I'm only human.
ETA: He's thoughtful in other ways...like he brought me gatorade, toast w/ jelly and pound cake in bed as soon as he got home from work when I had a stomach virus on monday. I didn't ask him for it...he took the baby and let me sleep for the rest of the day. THAT was simple & sweet.
Message edited 5/11/2012 2:37:43 PM.
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| Posted 5/11/12 1:56 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
DH and I have been together so long that nothing is ever really "special" anymore. Every holiday is "just another day" to him. but this is my first mother's day.
I hate that he isn't thoughtful...He'll outright ask "is there anything you want?" to which of course I just say "ehhh I know we don't have money" .
You DESERVE to feel special on Mother's Day and any day you celebrate be it birthday, Christmas, etc.
Stop making excuses for him. It doesn't matter how long you have been together, special days don't stop being special bc you've known someone a long time. I have known DH for 17 years and we have been married almost 10 yrs - birthdays, Christmas, and now Mother's Day and Father's Day are all special days for the both of us and we show each other that through words, gifts, cards, anything.
If he asks you what you want, don't say you guys don't have money, you are giving him an excuse. Tell him what you want! Tell him you want him to put some effort into making your day special. Tell him you want a card, a card from your DS, maybe a plant to put in your garden, etc etc. None of these things is expensive, it really is so much about the thought.
I really hope you have a great Mother's Day. If anything, in a few years your DS will understand holidays and birthdays and I'm sure he'll come home with artwork and "gifts" for you that will melt your heart.
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| Posted 5/11/12 2:03 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I wanted to follow up with you about your feelings. I asked my DH and he said perhaps email a few different things to him and let him pick one of them. That way you are giving him guidance, but not saying get me this. That way you still have the element of surprise, and he gets to pick something he knows that you will like. HTH
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BellaRock
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
 My DH can be the same way. I call him Mr. Roboto because he seems so disconnected to the emotional aspect of all this.
If I don't tell him I would like xyz for the holiday he wouldn't do it. Sucks but he's been this way for so long.
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| Posted 5/11/12 7:44 PM |
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KwaaksNest
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
I usually by my own gifts for the major holidays/brithday and write my DS name on it like its from him
He always gets me great things 
But i learned to roll with the punches,
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| Posted 5/11/12 8:41 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: I have a feeling DH won't be doing anything special for me for mothers day.
Posted by KwaaksNest
I usually by my own gifts for the major holidays/brithday and write my DS name on it like its from him
He always gets me great things
But i learned to roll with the punches,
 I gotta remember that for my 30th / christmas
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