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JTK
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
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curliegirl
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by curliegirl
Get me out of my bubble because I didn't really notice!!!!!
I don't reply to someone just because I "know" them, I reply to topics that interest me or that I can help with.
I am an equal opportunity replier!!!
But there are a few who I skip over, I';ll admit that....
ETA
Let's not turn this into NFR, because that's where this situation is RAMPANT.
When I was on the pg board it was awesome, and most of thos women are here now, so let's keep it going!!!!
And there's some great moms coming!!!!
and for what reason do you "just skip over them"?
because maybe I don't care for that person for my own particular reasons.....no biggie.....we all have posters on this board and others that we care not to read about..
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Janice
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
I definitely notice those posters who go out of their way to say something nice to everyone's baby (julia's mom melissa comes to mind)
If someone is like that, I do make an extra effort to make sure I go back and add a comment.
I have noticed a slight change in the board. It seems like some people get bored with everyday jive, so more controversial things are discussed.
Which is fine...but I tend to see many of these discussions as one sided. they all end the same. Every topic.
I notice a lot of defensive parents on these boards, which makes very little sense to me. As a parent, I can't get enough info. CIO, attachment, organic, daycare, sah, shots, autism, bfing, circumsizing...people are so quick to shoot down what other's have to say. Its not really a competition or a debate. Its what a parent does, read it, learn from it, decided if that is something your may want to bring into your life.
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curliegirl
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Its not really a competition or a debate. Its what a parent does, read it, learn from it, decided if that is something your may want to bring into your life.
This is exactly what PG was like when I was on it......while NFR was busy blowing everyone's heads off, PG was having rational, 2-sided conversations and really having a great time there!
Those women, and some to come, help me figure out this parenting thing, and I appreciate them for it.
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lvdolphins
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
I absolutley love looking at all the pics of all the children.
I try to reply to many. It may be a simple  or how cute, but, I do love looking at them.
I like posting pics of Bryan because I like to share. He is my pride and joy and of course I love him to pieces.
I don't go by who I am friends with and who I am not friends with, like I said, I like looking at all of them.
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PrincessP
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by InShock
Posted by PrincessP
Honestly...I mentioned a few months back to split the boards into over 1 and under 1. 
Also, if you did this, how would we all learn from each other? It's the range of experiences on this board that makes it what it is (IMO)!
My point is by time I read the poss they are on the 3rd page bc there are SOOOO many people on here. Its ok to split and to move onto new boards. IMO...if you needed or wanted any info, once the boards are split...you could go onto that thread to get the info you needed. Its not like the threads wouldnt be public anymore. I mean if I need to find a recipe, I wouldnt look on parenting just bc I know the parents.
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Sassyz75
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
I totally agree with the OP. I totally don't post photos that much anymore b/c really it comes down to "why bother"... the only reason why I did it today was b/c it was too cute.
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pinkandblue
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by Sassyz75
I totally agree with the OP. I totally don't post photos that much anymore b/c really it comes down to "why bother"... the only reason why I did it today was b/c it was too cute.
I don't know, I do not post to get responses, rather to "show off" my dd but that is just me  
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Bxgell2
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by pmpkn087
Plus, it's no secret that the parenting board just isn't what it used to be. It's really sad 
I really have no clue what you're talking about. I mean, yes, when LIF started out we had a small, close-knit group of mommies, mostly who had just come from pregnancy, with babies around the same age, and now, because LIF has been around much longer, there are SO many more posters. But, I don't see that as a bad thing - I love the diversity in ages of children - all the more oportunity for even more advice, tips and feedback on issues we are all facing as parents, no matter what age our children are.
And, it's true, as some of our children age, we become more confident in our parenting skills, and need this board less as a source of information like we did when our babies were collicky, gassy, screaming little cherubs...
But, at the end of the day, I sense the same vibe here as the very day LIF started - a group of very supportive, helpful, kind parents who are willing to go above and beyond to extend themselves in any way they can.
So, yes, it has changed, but in many ways it hasn't - and the changes that HAVE taken place, are only for the better.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
I am definitely guilty of looking and not responding. It has nothing to do with the poster, though. It just has to do with me not having time to respond or me thinking it doesn't matter if I respond or not. However, after reading this and seeing that some people take it negatively, I will make a better effort to respond. No one should have to feel like an outsider here. We're all moms, and while we might not all be best friends, or whatever, we can all take pride in the fact that we share the commonality of being moms. So, I will stop being lazy and post on everyone's threads
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PrincessP
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by prncss
I am definitely guilty of looking and not responding. It has nothing to do with the poster, though. It just has to do with me not having time to respond or me thinking it doesn't matter if I respond or not. However, after reading this and seeing that some people take it negatively, I will make a better effort to respond. No one should have to feel like an outsider here. We're all moms, and while we might not all be best friends, or whatever, we can all take pride in the fact that we share the commonality of being moms. So, I will stop being lazy and post on everyone's threads
LAAAAAAAAAZZZZY 
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PrincessP
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Stupid question...I hear alot of "not liking the parent"...did you meet the parent to not like the parent? or is it due to words in threads? BC in all honesty...people are soooo different at gtg's. I know some cant get to them or what not but I have yet to meet a "mean mommy".
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Diane
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by Janice
I definitely notice those posters who go out of their way to say something nice to everyone's baby (julia's mom melissa comes to mind)
If someone is like that, I do make an extra effort to make sure I go back and add a comment.
I have noticed a slight change in the board. It seems like some people get bored with everyday jive, so more controversial things are discussed.
Which is fine...but I tend to see many of these discussions as one sided. they all end the same. Every topic.
I notice a lot of defensive parents on these boards, which makes very little sense to me. As a parent, I can't get enough info. CIO, attachment, organic, daycare, sah, shots, autism, bfing, circumsizing...people are so quick to shoot down what other's have to say.
Its not really a competition or a
debate. Its what a parent does, read it, learn from it, decided if that is something your may want to bring into your life.
I agree
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Bklyngrl
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by twinboys425
I love all the pics too.. but i agree with OP.
sometimes i guess my boys just arent cute enough..
they are adorable!!! i try to reply to all of the pics posts - - all the kids are so cute. i know for me personally it is timing esp. if i'm at work etc... and hope no one's insulted. i don't post pics because until recently my home pc was horrible and now i'm still learning how to get camera/computer savvy!
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pmpkn087
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by Sassyz75
I totally agree with the OP. I totally don't post photos that much anymore b/c really it comes down to "why bother"... the only reason why I did it today was b/c it was too cute.
But see, now I'm the one to suffer because I love seeing little Maddie  So does Steven
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pmpkn087
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by Janice
I notice a lot of defensive parents on these boards, which makes very little sense to me. As a parent, I can't get enough info. CIO, attachment, organic, daycare, sah, shots, autism, bfing, circumsizing...people are so quick to shoot down what other's have to say. Its not really a competition or a debate. Its what a parent does, read it, learn from it, decided if that is something your may want to bring into your life.
This is, I think, what may be different for me. I don't feel like there is ever a healthy debate anymore like there used to be. Now it's more like "this is wrong, this is right."
Perhaps it's me who has changed, and like Beth said, I don't come to this board looking for advice as much as I used to.
Now that I know everything 
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pmpkn087
Life is good...
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Sassyz75
I totally agree with the OP. I totally don't post photos that much anymore b/c really it comes down to "why bother"... the only reason why I did it today was b/c it was too cute.
I don't know, I do not post to get responses, rather to "show off" my dd but that is just me
See, Steph, I don't think it's a matter of needing to hear that your child is cute. Or needing that "validation" as someone else said. From my posts I'm sure you can guess that I really don't care one way or the other what people think of me or my child. I think it's more a matter of respect. I would be NICE is people at least acknowledged your pictures with a or even a  if they really don't like them.
And for the person who made the point about infrequent posters putting up pics they shouldn't expect a response...I can see where you're coming from but this happens to frequent posters as well. And, that's not a good excuse because how does someone become a frequent poster if they never feel welcomed because their posts get ignored?
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CunningOne
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by -Lisa-
I hear what you're saying, but I don't think its odd or unfair of the more active posters to get a larger response. I'm more likely to look at/respond to the posts of people I "know" - babies who I've watched grow up (online), moms I've met or shared pregnancy with, etc, rather than just another cute face on the screen.
And while I agree that there are "cliques", I don't think someone who doesn't post a lot should expect the same response as someone who does. If they're not posting, they're not commenting on other people's picture threads either...it goes both ways.
ITA - well said.
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Bxgell2
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by pmpkn087
Posted by Janice
I notice a lot of defensive parents on these boards, which makes very little sense to me. As a parent, I can't get enough info. CIO, attachment, organic, daycare, sah, shots, autism, bfing, circumsizing...people are so quick to shoot down what other's have to say. Its not really a competition or a debate. Its what a parent does, read it, learn from it, decided if that is something your may want to bring into your life.
This is, I think, what may be different for me. I don't feel like there is ever a healthy debate anymore like there used to be. Now it's more like "this is wrong, this is right."
Ok, now I see what you're saying - and, yes, for some reason just in this past week or so there have been some annoying, repeated threads, but I guess I don't see it as much of a breakdown of the Parenting board, because we all voiced our differing opinions respectfully without blowing up like it would on other boards, like NFR.
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by prncss
I am definitely guilty of looking and not responding. It has nothing to do with the poster, though. It just has to do with me not having time to respond or me thinking it doesn't matter if I respond or not. However, after reading this and seeing that some people take it negatively, I will make a better effort to respond. No one should have to feel like an outsider here. We're all moms, and while we might not all be best friends, or whatever, we can all take pride in the fact that we share the commonality of being moms. So, I will stop being lazy and post on everyone's threads
This is exactly me as well. I had so much time when I was home with Jack all last year but now that I'm working again....I have to juggle. I feel like DH gets neglected when I'm on here posting, so I do more lurking than anything these days. I will also make more of an effort. We do have the most gorgeous babies around!!!
but I do want to add that I totally see Stephanie's point and agree that things are different and this place can get clicky. It's almost as if those that don't really "see" it are those that get a million replies to their posts. Just saying..
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Sassyz75
Turning a new page
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by pmpkn087
Posted by Sassyz75
I totally agree with the OP. I totally don't post photos that much anymore b/c really it comes down to "why bother"... the only reason why I did it today was b/c it was too cute.
But see, now I'm the one to suffer because I love seeing little Maddie So does Steven
awe...
that's soooo cute....
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lbelle821
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by lbelle821
well, I typically don't get a lot of reponses from my pictures or any other type of post I do. Recently I came to realization that especially when I'm running short of time I pay attention more to posts of people I am familiar with and ones that I've met before. So I'm guilty of it. However, if I am sitting down with time I DO respond to all relevant posts, especially picture ones. Usually during the weekdays I can pop on for a few minutes at a time because I am at work, like now, so I can't possibly respond to a lot. Usually it is weekends when I have them time but unfortunately not a lot of people post on weekends. Oh well.
Just to add a little more to what I said above, even when I'm short of time I do also post on topics where it seems that the poster needs immediate help or on a topic that I know something that no one else has said (if I've read it). A lot of times though the posts are covered because there are so many mommies here. And a lot of time the responses say the same things so I don't want to repeat anyone else. I also try and post to ones that have no responses because I hate when that happens to me. I know we shouldn't take it personal but that's hard sometimes. One more thing, sometimes I just look and don't respond because i know i won't have time to respond to everything and the last thing I want it someone to see that I'm posting to threads and not theirs.
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chelle
It's a Good Life
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by pmpkn087
Plus, it's no secret that the parenting board just isn't what it used to be. It's really sad
I really have no clue what you're talking about. I mean, yes, when LIF started out we had a small, close-knit group of mommies, mostly who had just come from pregnancy, with babies around the same age, and now, because LIF has been around much longer, there are SO many more posters. But, I don't see that as a bad thing - I love the diversity in ages of children - all the more oportunity for even more advice, tips and feedback on issues we are all facing as parents, no matter what age our children are.
And, it's true, as some of our children age, we become more confident in our parenting skills, and need this board less as a source of information like we did when our babies were collicky, gassy, screaming little cherubs...
But, at the end of the day, I sense the same vibe here as the very day LIF started - a group of very supportive, helpful, kind parents who are willing to go above and beyond to extend themselves in any way they can.
So, yes, it has changed, but in many ways it hasn't - and the changes that HAVE taken place, are only for the better.
VERY well put! 
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chelle
It's a Good Life
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
Posted by chmlengr
Posted by -Lisa-
I hear what you're saying, but I don't think its odd or unfair of the more active posters to get a larger response. I'm more likely to look at/respond to the posts of people I "know" - babies who I've watched grow up (online), moms I've met or shared pregnancy with, etc, rather than just another cute face on the screen.
And while I agree that there are "cliques", I don't think someone who doesn't post a lot should expect the same response as someone who does. If they're not posting, they're not commenting on other people's picture threads either...it goes both ways.
ITA - well said.
ITA with this too!
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MsMBV
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Re: I love seeing pictures of all the babies...
I have seen it happen to mommies with high post counts too. I don't post a lot of pictures, so I don't think about it personally, but I have noticed that there are some posts that have high counts & no responses.
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