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Goldi0218
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Re: I love smart kids
Let this be a lesson to me. I should stop going to Hibachi steak houses and find other forms of entertainment.
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MsMBV
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Re: I love smart kids
Posted by Palebride
Maybe it's the teacher in me, but I think that seems like a great teaching moment for the mother. Instead of explaining why it's ok to have a drink and then drive....which the daughter will most likely remember and could cause her harm one day....as a mother, I would have told the daughter she was right, thanked her for caring about me, and stopped drinking.
Even though the mother is an adult and can drink when she wants to - I think she should be more concerned with setting the right example for her daughter, rather than enjoying a drink with dinner.
ITA. Although I know the mother has a right to have a drink, to me it seems like she thwarted her daughter's attempt to be concerned & instead taught her how to explain her way out of it.
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| Posted 8/21/07 12:16 PM |
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JessieQ
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Re: I love smart kids
Posted by prncss
I think that at that age, it should just be cut and dry. If you drink, you don't drive. There should be no teaching inbetween on that subject as far as I'm concerned.
I agree completely with this.
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| Posted 8/21/07 12:18 PM |
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Palebride
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Lori
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Re: I love smart kids
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Palebride
Maybe it's the teacher in me, but I think that seems like a great teaching moment for the mother. Instead of explaining why it's ok to have a drink and then drive....which the daughter will most likely remember and could cause her harm one day....as a mother, I would have told the daughter she was right, thanked her for caring about me, and stopped drinking.
Even though the mother is an adult and can drink when she wants to - I think she should be more concerned with setting the right example for her daughter, rather than enjoying a drink with dinner.
ITA. Although I know the mother has a right to have a drink, to me it seems like she thwarted her daughter's attempt to be concerned & instead taught her how to explain her way out of it.
Exactly. That's what I was trying to say! Not that it's wrong for a responsible adult to drink...but to make excuses for it to a child is the problem I as I see it. Especially when the child is clearly aware of what is going on around her!
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| Posted 8/21/07 12:18 PM |
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saraH
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Re: I love smart kids
Posted by Palebride
Maybe it's the teacher in me, but I think that seems like a great teaching moment for the mother. Instead of explaining why it's ok to have a drink and then drive....which the daughter will most likely remember and could cause her harm one day....as a mother, I would have told the daughter she was right, thanked her for caring about me, and stopped drinking.
Even though the mother is an adult and can drink when she wants to - I think she should be more concerned with setting the right example for her daughter, rather than enjoying a drink with dinner.
I agree with this.
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| Posted 8/21/07 12:20 PM |
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MarisaK
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Marisa
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Re: I love smart kids
Aside from the mother's sh*tfaced friend (which is a whole other story) and just speaking on the subject of the mother having ONE drink with her dinner - I think this is being blown way out of proportion -
I'm not saying the kid was wrong for being concerned and speaking up, I'm saying the mother was completly justified in EXPLAINING to her 10 year old that the one drink she was having with dinner would not impair her ability to drive home later on ......... - I don't think she was 'making excuses' for herself, as a responsible ADULT, she had one drink with her dinner - I just don't see why the grown up has to put her drink down b/c the 10 year old child told her she should ........There are things Grown Ups are 'allowed' to do that children are not, having an alcoholic drink with dinner is one of them....... -
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| Posted 8/21/07 12:40 PM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: I love smart kids
I agree with the kid. I was 10 years old when I recognized that certain adults in my family were alcoholics. Being 10 didn't make that point untrue...and years later those same people wound up in AA, thankfully. The mom set a terrible example by explaining away her sake consumption. Instead of teaching her child responsiblity and maturity, she taught her how to rationalize to get what she wants.
And it sounds like the mom's lesson in alchohol content was incorrect. A bottle of sake is not equivalent to half a glass of wine - it's got the same alcohol content but it's a lower volume of liquid. Just like 1 shot = 1 glass of wine = 1 can of beer.
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headoverheels
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Re: I love smart kids
Posted by eroxgirl
I agree with the kid. I was 10 years old when I recognized that certain adults in my family were alcoholics. Being 10 didn't make that point untrue...and years later those same people wound up in AA, thankfully. The mom set a terrible example by explaining away her sake consumption. Instead of teaching her child responsiblity and maturity, she taught her how to rationalize to get what she wants.
actually you make a good point... normally i wouldn't think twice about a mom having aglass of wine with dinner... two is probably too much... but i wonder if this child said what she did because of seeing her mom drink in the past. maybe she understands that when mom drinks, mom acts "weird," and this child was able to put 2 and 2 together with what she had learned in school or wherever about drinking and driving.
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| Posted 8/21/07 1:17 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: I love smart kids
Message edited 11/10/2011 7:52:31 PM.
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| Posted 8/21/07 1:20 PM |
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alnem
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Re: I love smart kids
Posted by Goldi0218
I actually had no problem with the fact that the mother and b/f were drinking. That is what adults do. But the kid noticed the mother, who was driving, had more than one drink and could possibly become impaired. Looks like the child showed better judgement.
ITA!!!
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| Posted 8/21/07 1:40 PM |
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MrsT
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Katrina
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Re: I love smart kids
I'm trying to recall a time where my parents had alcohol in front of me as a child and I do not recall one time - ever.
My dad does currently have a glass of wine here and there (his new wife is a drinker) but I cannot recall one time ever as a child seeing my dad or mom drink. I know they did drink when I was a child though since I have been out with both of them to their hang out spots since turning 21. I even had my 21st birthday party at a club my mom frequented. She got me a huge discount to rent the place.
I am not saying that parents should hide the fact that they have a drink or two but the part that bothers me is the other kid that witnessed all of this and that the mother tried to explain that drinking and driving is okay in certain circumstances.
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| Posted 8/21/07 2:11 PM |
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bomb-blast
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Re: I love smart kids
That kid's got more sense than the Mom...not surprising.
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