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LSP2005
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
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Posted by MrsProfessor
I write a blog.   I write about home organization. There is a definite line though between oversharing and putting enough out there so that people relate. Being honest is important and this woman was definitely honest- maybe too much so. Nothing is better for me than when people tell me they relate, or share a tip of their own, or try an idea I shared. And maybe that's what she wanted- to see if anyone understood her. Or maybe she just wanted to brag about the strength she showed in the face of her great sacrifice. 
I LIVE for home organization, not even kidding..........I really enjoy organizing everything I can get my hands on in my house.  What is your blog called..............if you don't mind sharing. I'd love to see it!!! You can FM if you'd prefer! 
I would love to know what your blog is called as well. I am in desperate need of some home organization. You can FM me also. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
oh please share. I love home organization blogs.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
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How my cell phone charger is not long enough to reach when I need to charge while sitting on the couch.
OMG me too. Drives me insane.
um.. I had this same problem with my samsung & DH bought me a cell phone charger extension cord from amazon. Changed my life! 
.... and you just changed mine!
this exists?
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by JennP
I didn't read the comments so you might be right about people being jealous.
However, I also wouldn't automatically label her critics as jealous - especially the people on here, whose posts I did read. As far as this thread goes, I don't see jealousy. I see people just calling out someone who sounds like an asshole.
It's her tone.
If she had said "I don't think we could swing a third even though I would love one, but we have our dream home and two beautiful kids, so life is good" no one would bat an eye.
But she doesn't do that. Instead she starts off self righteous, describing her choices and hinting that they are superior to that of others. Then she goes on to lament said choices and make it sound like she's got a real struggle on her hands.
I just think that if there are two ways to say something and one is obnoxious and one is humble, people who pick the former are people I don't need to listen to.
Yes- she has no perspective. There was very little there that expressed gratitude for her 2 healthy kids, for the fact that their hard work paid off (hard work does not pay off that way for everyone!), for all the good in her life. It's sad really, I wonder if she'll realize how fortunate she is.
Some of the comments were actually heartbreaking- more than one woman dealt with infertility and wasn't able to have any kids.
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LSP2005
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by JennP
Posted by Hofstra26
People need to spend less time being envious and putting other people down and more time worrying about themselves and trying to figure out how to make their own lives better. Just my two cents.
I didn't read the comments so you might be right about people being jealous.
However, I also wouldn't automatically label her critics as jealous - especially the people on here, whose posts I did read. As far as this thread goes, I don't see jealousy. I see people just calling out someone who sounds like an asshole.
It's her tone.
If she had said "I don't think we could swing a third even though I would love one, but we have our dream home and two beautiful kids, so life is good" no one would bat an eye.
But she doesn't do that. Instead she starts off self righteous, describing her choices and hinting that they are superior to that of others. Then she goes on to lament said choices and make it sound like she's got a real struggle on her hands.
I just think that if there are two ways to say something and one is obnoxious and one is humble, people who pick the former are people I don't need to listen to.
you are so right. It is absolutely the tone of her article. It is just about taking a step back and realizing how truly blessed and fulfilled her life is. No one has everything perfect. But to me this is a journal entry, not meant for the internet.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by LSP2005
Posted by kmr6107
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by MrsProfessor
I write a blog. I write about home organization. There is a definite line though between oversharing and putting enough out there so that people relate. Being honest is important and this woman was definitely honest- maybe too much so. Nothing is better for me than when people tell me they relate, or share a tip of their own, or try an idea I shared. And maybe that's what she wanted- to see if anyone understood her. Or maybe she just wanted to brag about the strength she showed in the face of her great sacrifice.
I LIVE for home organization, not even kidding..........I really enjoy organizing everything I can get my hands on in my house. What is your blog called..............if you don't mind sharing. I'd love to see it!!! You can FM if you'd prefer!
I would love to know what your blog is called as well. I am in desperate need of some home organization. You can FM me also. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
oh please share. I love home organization blogs.
I am hoping it will be what you all are looking for- it's not a typical blog, I don't think. I focus a lot on simplicity, but am not hard-core about it. But there were three prior bloggers who also had great stories and tips. It's thesimpleyear.com.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
If you're gonna publish something, it should contribute something to the conversation. Too many people don't realize that they're not as deep or special as they think they are. Like people said--perspective.
I don't think a lot of people know how they come across.
And she did seem to emphasize how much smarter and more responsible she was than others her age over and over again.
Also, if you put it out there--people will judge. I think if you want a child that badly, and that's the "sacrifice" you make for material comfort...maybe you need to rethink your values and how much you really value having a child after all. JMO.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
I didn't read it in the tone that the majority here apparently have, nor did I find her to come off as being "superior" or "smarter" with her choices. I read it as the writer discussing something that isn't talked about for the very reason she's being criticized. I'm sure she gets the comments about how she and her family have the "perfect" life: two kids, beautiful home, she has the option of being a SAHM...but what many people don't realize is that they did have to make a choice and in her opinion, a sacrifice, not to have another child, to maintain their current lifestyle where they are.
I didn't take her article to mean that she's not sympathetic or ignorant of other people's issues or problems. She just wrote a brief essay about her "hidden" choice.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by LotsaLuv
I don't understand why she is receiving so many negative comments. DH and I decided 2 would be enough for us (if we are blessed with a 2nd), and a lot had to do with finances. We like to take family vacations, live in a nice house, in a nice area. We want to give our children some extras, and a 3rd would put a financial strain on that. If we really wanted a 3rd, I guess we could sell the house and downsize with a smaller mortgage, but I can see her dilemma.
I think the people commenting are reading more into her having nice things, "The American Dream", and that isn't right. The article was about her being torn between having a 3rd child and having to downsize her life, or being happy with what she has. People face this type of situation more than we know.
Same here. I can totally see where she's coming from. My mom still talks about how she wanted 3, but my father said they had to stop at 2 because of the financial impact. If they wanted to live a certain lifestyle, then 2 was all he could afford. It's been no different in our house.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
I think the problem with the article, and with a lot of the world is a feeling of entitlement.
i.e. people feel that if they're "middle class" they SHOULD be able to have multiple kids, big house, vacations, late model cars in the driveway, etc, etc, etc However, that's just not the case.
Life is about tradeoffs. The amount of "stuff" you can have is simple math. Money in - money spent = what's left. If she really wants a 3rd kid she needs to increase the income or cut back the spending.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
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I don't get the point of why she shared that information with the world, but I also don't see the point in all the anger of the comments..
this woman's story has nothing to do with anyone else - its a "struggle" that she and her husband are dealing with. If anyone chooses not to have kids, its their own private choice, and has zero to do with anyone else who may not be able to. Just because another woman can't have kids, and this woman can, doesn't mean that she should!
but on a lighter note.. FWP indeed
I agree
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
You have to read all of the comments. They're one funnier than the next.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by MrsProfessor
I write a blog. I write about home organization. There is a definite line though between oversharing and putting enough out there so that people relate. Being honest is important and this woman was definitely honest- maybe too much so. Nothing is better for me than when people tell me they relate, or share a tip of their own, or try an idea I shared. And maybe that's what she wanted- to see if anyone understood her. Or maybe she just wanted to brag about the strength she showed in the face of her great sacrifice.
Thanks for posting!
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by MrsProfessor
Posted by LSP2005
Posted by kmr6107
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by MrsProfessor
I write a blog. I write about home organization. There is a definite line though between oversharing and putting enough out there so that people relate. Being honest is important and this woman was definitely honest- maybe too much so. Nothing is better for me than when people tell me they relate, or share a tip of their own, or try an idea I shared. And maybe that's what she wanted- to see if anyone understood her. Or maybe she just wanted to brag about the strength she showed in the face of her great sacrifice.
I LIVE for home organization, not even kidding..........I really enjoy organizing everything I can get my hands on in my house. What is your blog called..............if you don't mind sharing. I'd love to see it!!! You can FM if you'd prefer!
I would love to know what your blog is called as well. I am in desperate need of some home organization. You can FM me also. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
oh please share. I love home organization blogs.
I am hoping it will be what you all are looking for- it's not a typical blog, I don't think. I focus a lot on simplicity, but am not hard-core about it. But there were three prior bloggers who also had great stories and tips. It's thesimpleyear.com.
Thank you for giving us the name of your blog. It looks very interesting. It's late tonight but I am looking forward to reading it more in depth tomorrow.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by BlackJack96
I think the problem with the article, and with a lot of the world is a feeling of entitlement.
i.e. people feel that if they're "middle class" they SHOULD be able to have multiple kids, big house, vacations, late model cars in the driveway, etc, etc, etc However, that's just not the case.
Life is about tradeoffs. The amount of "stuff" you can have is simple math. Money in - money spent = what's left. If she really wants a 3rd kid she needs to increase the income or cut back the spending.
Exactly this. And I'm pretty sure if they were surprised with a 3rd child, their life wouldn't fall apart. If that's what you want, you can make it work. She could tutor weekends for extra cash.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by Chatham-Chick
Posted by LotsaLuv
I don't understand why she is receiving so many negative comments. DH and I decided 2 would be enough for us (if we are blessed with a 2nd), and a lot had to do with finances. We like to take family vacations, live in a nice house, in a nice area. We want to give our children some extras, and a 3rd would put a financial strain on that. If we really wanted a 3rd, I guess we could sell the house and downsize with a smaller mortgage, but I can see her dilemma.
I think the people commenting are reading more into her having nice things, "The American Dream", and that isn't right. The article was about her being torn between having a 3rd child and having to downsize her life, or being happy with what she has. People face this type of situation more than we know.
Same here. I can totally see where she's coming from. My mom still talks about how she wanted 3, but my father said they had to stop at 2 because of the financial impact. If they wanted to live a certain lifestyle, then 2 was all he could afford. It's been no different in our house.
I agree with these posters.
I don't see the tone that others are getting from this article. I think her point is, she planned really hard to get the life that she has and make sure she had everything covered, but when she got what she "wanted' she feels that she really wants a 3rd kid and is somewhat trapped by her other decisions.
I think some of the people on here and in the comments are really freakin harsh about things considering most of us on LI have had to deal with this sort of feeling with regards to things in their life. whether it be having to sacrifice our ideal retirement savings or college savings in order to live by family, or live ni a nice area with a good school district, or have to have both -parents work in order to pay for the nice house in the good district. I'm jealous she can make what she has work, I just feel less bitter about it than some it seems.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
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Posted by MarisaK
I didn't read all of the comments ..........
I don't disagree with her approach, or think she's an insensitive a$$hole .......
I just don't think your entire life story needs to be put out there on the internet . You put it out there and people are going to internalize it, comment on it, rip it apart etc.
If you're good with that ........well, then OK - but I just don't see ANY reason for this diary entry to be out in the universe.
I understood what you were saying and ITA, people don't need to put it all out there and obviously when you do you open yourself up to be ripped apart. But that being said, I think those who commented were missing the point of the article and they sounded like idiots in their responses.
I agree. I actually liked the post.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
This one has me rolling:
"Reading this made me want to find this woman's home, hop on her riding lawnmower, and MOW a giant penis in her front yard."
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Seawolf
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
I think part of the problem/issue is that people that are "entitled" don't even REALIZE they are, ala Idiot Paltrow.
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
http://badsandy.com/suggestions-for-sarah-scott-who-bought-her-dream-home-instead-of-having-more-kids/?utm_source=piwtpitt-fb&utm_medium=piwtpitt-fb&utm_campaign=sarahscott
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Re: "I made a huge sacrifice to have my dream home" article
Posted by MrsProfessor
Posted by JennP
I didn't read the comments so you might be right about people being jealous.
However, I also wouldn't automatically label her critics as jealous - especially the people on here, whose posts I did read. As far as this thread goes, I don't see jealousy. I see people just calling out someone who sounds like an asshole.
It's her tone.
If she had said "I don't think we could swing a third even though I would love one, but we have our dream home and two beautiful kids, so life is good" no one would bat an eye.
But she doesn't do that. Instead she starts off self righteous, describing her choices and hinting that they are superior to that of others. Then she goes on to lament said choices and make it sound like she's got a real struggle on her hands.
I just think that if there are two ways to say something and one is obnoxious and one is humble, people who pick the former are people I don't need to listen to.
Yes- she has no perspective. There was very little there that expressed gratitude for her 2 healthy kids, for the fact that their hard work paid off (hard work does not pay off that way for everyone!), for all the good in her life. It's sad really, I wonder if she'll realize how fortunate she is.
Some of the comments were actually heartbreaking- more than one woman dealt with infertility and wasn't able to have any kids.
This 100%.
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