I need potty training advice for a spoiled stubborn child.

My DS is watched by this woman out of her house. She watches around 5 kids. Anyway, she started getting him to go on the potty and he has done it twice so far (pee and poop) on 2 separate days. Whenever she says lets go potty he runs in the bathroom all excited to go.

He is such a well behaved child for her and does what she wants including eat. Im am super happy that he is well behaved for her.

Now, for us he is the exact opposite. He never eats and carries on a lot. I have told my husband that we created a monster by giving in to him because since day the he was born he was difficult.

So now when we come home and I tell him to go on the potty he down right refuses. I dont want to force him because he might resent it but at the same time he has gone the past 2 days at his babysitters house. So I was excited hoping that he will start going at home.

Giving him food treats just wont work because he gets snacks already and he doesnt like M&Ms or chocolate. I attempted to buy a sticker chart yesterday but BRU doesnt carry it. Ive told him that if he goes a few times we can go pick out a toy, but he is still not interested.

How do I get him to try the potty for US? He is only 2 1/2 so its still early but i figured that if he is excited to do it at the babysitters then why not continue to do so over here.

Its because he is super spoiled but i feel that we cant force this. KWIM?

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I haven't been through potty training myself yet, but my mom trained my brother by putting a couple of cheerios in the potty and letting him "aim" for them.

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This may or may not work, but DS is like this at daycare. An angel there and a brat at home. When I tell him to do something and he doesn't want to do it, I get my camera and start video taping and tell him I am going to show it to his teachers. He tells me no, not to show the video to him, and I tell him he better do whatever I asked him to do and he does it. Now all I need to do is say I'm going to get the camera and he instantly behaves.

The thought of his teachers knowing he's not an angel scares him, and this information has worked wonders.

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You can print a sticker chart off line (google search) - they have ones with 5-7 spots to start then longer ones.

You might want to get a good listening chart too - to reward his listening.

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This was probably the wrong way to go about it, but I had a super stubborn child when potty training and this is what eventually worked.

I had short term goals and a long term goal. I made a prize box. Every time she went pee or poop on the potty, she got a prize. The box had small toys and stickers. I also told her that she had to keep it up everyday because if she did she would get the big girl crown (she's really into princesses). Maybe you could try something similar? IDK, potty training was the hardest thing so far.

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we are training right now in earnest.

he poops on the potty just fine but is stubborn with pee.

so if I tell him to go to the potty and he resists, I pick him up, bring him there and place him on the potty. he has to sit there for a few minutes. if he doesn't go fine, but he has to try it.

this morning he peed on the floor twice (this is his thing, it seems. every morning he pees twice lol) the first time, fine, we clean it up. put pants on. ok. the second time he peed in his booster seat. NOW you will sit in your wet pants while I clean up the rest. you can't just piss on yourself.

it's partially MY fault b/c I tend to not be so vigilant about bringing him to the potty often enough, but he tells us about poop. so he has to learn to tell us about pee too. but I think you should bring him to the potty if he refuses to walk their himself.

I don't worry about resentment. he will resent me for a lot of things as the years go by...but I think pissing in his pants at school will trump forcing him at 2. Right now the only "prize" he gets is applause and fan fair. I don't want to get into the trap of him expecting a gift for something I expect him to do. but I am debating a sticker chart. so we'll see.

HTH. good luck!!! it's a lot of work!

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I just taped pieces of paper to the wall, have one row for poop, another for pee and they put stickers on when they go. I didn't see a need to get an actual "chart."
DS is not really interested at all, DD will do anything for stickers LOL. I am not forcing the issue, IMO when they are ready, they will do it.

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prizes did not work, cheerios did not work, pull ups did not work.


The only thing that worked was putting him in straight underwear one day. he was pee trained by the evening and had onu two tiny accidents during the day. Poop trained took a few more days. But overall the process was fast and easier than i thought.

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Posted by LeShellem

This may or may not work, but DS is like this at daycare. An angel there and a brat at home. When I tell him to do something and he doesn't want to do it, I get my camera and start video taping and tell him I am going to show it to his teachers. He tells me no, not to show the video to him, and I tell him he better do whatever I asked him to do and he does it. Now all I need to do is say I'm going to get the camera and he instantly behaves.

The thought of his teachers knowing he's not an angel scares him, and this information has worked wonders.

Omg this is awesome! My DD is too young to get this yet- but I am putting this in my arsenal!

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You describe my ds as well. He turned 3 recently. Has peed on the potty when he darn feels like it. I feel so stressed out about it we gave up for now. My younger son is just as stubborn and spoiled , so we have created 2 monsters. We are way too soft and I feel bad forcing him to use the potty Kwim ?

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Also, keep in mind, that if you have a *TRULY* stubborn child, NOTHING may work.

DD is 5, in K, and still has "accidents" most days, usually several in one day. Doctors are involved, school psychologist, positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, rewards, scheduled visits to the bathroom, etc, etc..

She only has "accidents" when she's upset about something, or doesn't want to do something (like going to gym class). We never know why she is upset about things. Sometimes it could be as simple as being told to stop working on her art project so the teacher can do a different subject.

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I have had a lot of luck training 2 kids (my own and the one that I babysit for) by simply going cold turkey. Once I knew that they understood the potty concept and had control, I just got rid of the diapers and let them walk around naked waist down.

A lot of people don't like to do that and yes, it does get messy but in my experience after 2-3 days they "get it" and get sick of making messes in the house.

I made my DD and the girl that I babysit for a potty chart. It was super simple. Just drew a picture of a potty on construction paper and every time they went they put a sticker on the chart. Worked like a charm.

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Im in the process of PT DS#2.. DS#1 was a nightmare too. They are big on the "i was too busy playing to go potty" So whenever they had an accident while playing... id take the toy they were playing with away until they went potty again with no accident. We also have charts.. i made my own out of construction paper and smiley stickers i get at walmart. I make a chart and after 10 stickers he gets to pick a small present (i get stuff from the dollar section or party city) He also gets a present when he poops in the potty. I mean the stuff costs maybe a dime or quarter each so its ok. Some days he does great, some days its accidents all day. DS#1 only JUST stopped having accidents at the end of the summer, bc I told him 1000 times that in kindergarten he doesnt want to be the boy with pee in his pants. And mommy wont be there to change him. So he was 4.5 at that time. DS#2 was just 3 in august so I know I may be in for the same fate