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TiggerBounce
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I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Troy was in daycare since 15 mos old, when I went back to work - it was difficult, but we both adjusted well.
Fast forward to August, I was laid off from my job, and to save costs, we took him out of daycare and we were home together 24/7.
Troy started full day Pre-K (Catholic school) in Sept and initially adjusted well.
I started a new job this past Monday, and it's been HELL on me. First off, the job is insanely overwhelming and stressful. Add to it I have to fly out the door at exactly 5:30 to make it to school to get Troy from after care by 6pm (I get there at 7 min to 6). Today he had to goto before care, so I could make it to work ontime. It broke my heart b/c he looked so sad and hugged me so hard.
I cry when I pick him up b/c i feel so guilty.
He had a note from the teacher today talking about his talking during lessons, fooling around on line and in the bathroom in addition to not listening. So bad the teacher said if he doesn't improve he cannot go out at recess.
I'm sure it's an adjustment period between school being different from daycare and the change from Mommy being there all the time.
I'm stressing b/c I have no time to do laundry. No time to focus on Troy. No time to give him the attention he needs to get focused.
I try venting to DH, but he doesn't get it.
I just want the best for my son and can't get past the guilt.
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mommyin09
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Beck
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
That sounds rough, sorry to hear 
Any way DH can drop him off or pick him up once in a while?
I'm sure he'll adjust & things will get better (it just sux for now until then) Hope things get better quick!
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| Posted 9/28/11 9:44 PM |
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TiggerBounce
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Posted by Beck
That sounds rough, sorry to hear
Any way DH can drop him off or pick him up once in a while?
I'm sure he'll adjust & things will get better (it just sux for now until then) Hope things get better quick!
Thanks for the hugs. I'm sure it will get better, w/ time.
DH drops off/picks up on his days off (but they rotate). I have an amazing friend who has offered to help, which helps - it's still so overwhelming.
I just dont want Troy's difficulties to get worse.
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| Posted 9/28/11 9:56 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Is Troy only 4? If so I think it's a little ridiculous they are going to penalize the little guy for fooling around on line, he is so young!
That would be the first thing I would handle , and taking away recess would be silly bc he would be a ball of energy!
Sorry you are having such a tough time, do you think you can talk to your mgr about cutting lunch short and leaving 15 minutes earlier??
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| Posted 9/28/11 10:06 PM |
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HomeIsWithU
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Posted by maybesoon
Is Troy only 4? If so I think it's a little ridiculous they are going to penalize the little guy for fooling around on line, he is so young!
That would be the first thing I would handle , and taking away recess would be silly bc he would be a ball of energy!
I agree with this. Talk to the director and get this starightened out. It's a tad ridiculous that they're going to penalize a 4 year old by taking recess away for something as silly as not listening in line.
As for the guilt - this will get better with time. Give it a few more weeks to fall into a routine. You'll all adjust
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| Posted 9/28/11 11:05 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
I will be honest here....Your son's teacher is so inappropriate...taking away recess...in pre-k? That will only make it a more difficult adjustment. I worked in a catholic pre-k and I was distraught because of how mean the teachers were to the children. That is a long day for a 4 yr and I personally think he would be better off in another placement that allows him to have a consistent day, focus mainly on play and socialization while learning all the important PRE-K curriculum....that is key, many of these schools try to teach Kindergarten to pre-k students who are not yet ready for it...thus PRE kindergarten. It causes boredom and frustration.
Sorry to be so blunt.
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| Posted 9/29/11 12:01 AM |
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bayla
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Posted by HomeIsWithU
Posted by maybesoon
Is Troy only 4? If so I think it's a little ridiculous they are going to penalize the little guy for fooling around on line, he is so young!
That would be the first thing I would handle , and taking away recess would be silly bc he would be a ball of energy!
I agree with this. Talk to the director and get this starightened out. It's a tad ridiculous that they're going to penalize a 4 year old by taking recess away for something as silly as not listening in line.
As for the guilt - this will get better with time. Give it a few more weeks to fall into a routine. You'll all adjust
ITA! Good luck It will get easier
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nov04libride
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Posted by twicethefun
I will be honest here....Your son's teacher is so inappropriate...taking away recess...in pre-k? That will only make it a more difficult adjustment. I worked in a catholic pre-k and I was distraught because of how mean the teachers were to the children. That is a long day for a 4 yr and I personally think he would be better off in another placement that allows him to have a consistent day, focus mainly on play and socialization while learning all the important PRE-K curriculum....that is key, many of these schools try to teach Kindergarten to pre-k students who are not yet ready for it...thus PRE kindergarten. It causes boredom and frustration.
Sorry to be so blunt.
ITA. That is exactly the wrong thing to do--he needs to burn energy. I'm not familiar w/ Catholic pre-K, but if this is their mentality, maybe he needs a different type of environment that is more sympathetic, and would talk to him about his needs instead of punishing him.
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| Posted 9/29/11 7:33 AM |
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by twicethefun
I will be honest here....Your son's teacher is so inappropriate...taking away recess...in pre-k? That will only make it a more difficult adjustment. I worked in a catholic pre-k and I was distraught because of how mean the teachers were to the children. That is a long day for a 4 yr and I personally think he would be better off in another placement that allows him to have a consistent day, focus mainly on play and socialization while learning all the important PRE-K curriculum....that is key, many of these schools try to teach Kindergarten to pre-k students who are not yet ready for it...thus PRE kindergarten. It causes boredom and frustration.
Sorry to be so blunt.
ITA. That is exactly the wrong thing to do--he needs to burn energy. I'm not familiar w/ Catholic pre-K, but if this is their mentality, maybe he needs a different type of environment that is more sympathetic, and would talk to him about his needs instead of punishing him.
I agree - and it's still somewhat new to him.
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| Posted 9/29/11 8:14 AM |
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Re: I need to vent - SAHM now a FTWM and a basket case!
I agree with the others. At my son's PreK if a child is antsy and fooling around, they will often take them for a walk around the building just to get them moving and for a change of scenery. And 4 year olds absolutely need time to run around, climb, etc.
What do they do when he talks and fools around? If they just tell him to be quiet and immediately jump to a negative consequence for his actions, they really aren't doing their jobs effectively IMO. Not that there isn't a time or place for negative consequences, but this seems like a leap. At the very least, I would remind the teacher that you just went back to work, you would think they would give him a little leeway initially.
As for feeling guilty, I did and I still do. These are long days for our children, but they do adjust.
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