If you moved OOS and then moved back home...

Are you glad you moved back?
Or do you regret it?
Why did you move away?
And why did you move back?
What about jobs?


Just curious.....

Re: If you moved OOS and then moved back home...

Posted by CaMacho

Are you glad you moved back?
Or do you regret it?
Why did you move away?
And why did you move back?
What about jobs?


Just curious.....

Re: If you moved OOS and then moved back home...

I moved to boston for law school and stayed for a number of years

i then moved back to LI when i was pregnant with my sona nd now pregnant with twins i am so happy to be back

i love that my parents can just drop by or my brother. I love having help nearby

if we stayed in boston - my son would have been an only child because private school is the only option and is super expensive

we lucked out and both found jobs easily even in a bad economy. we found a house right away but i would recomebnd living with your follks for a little while till you aere really sure of something -

I miss the city life i had but i could not keep that life up with a child- itis still hard not being around a lot of our friends but we are making new ones

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I left NY after high school to attend college. Partied it up and didn't finish school but remained in the south - then bounced around the Carolinas for 5 years.

It was nice being young and on my own during that time, but no matter what, I missed NY. I had no family down there and I always just felt like as nice as the places I was at were...it wasn't New York. At 22 I moved back to Long Island and have been here ever since.

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We moved down to NC, loved it when we visited. Great houses, a lot of bang for your buck, cheap taxes, warmer weather. We decided to rent for a year. Just to make sure we liked it enough to buy. We were there 3 months and came back to NY for a visit, and that day we decided we would move back home.

We lived out the rest of our lease, had a baby, helped my brother during his divorce find a place, get settled and watch the kids. That really is the reason I think we were meant to be there, but mot the point.

We moved home in june of 09, and I can honestly say, it was the best thing we ever did. The housing market crashing worked in our favor. We were able to buy on Long Island, in. Nice hood, with decetpnt taxes.(not our forever home, but still a nice decent house)

Dh kept his job in NY and worked from home, which was good and bad. Good, because NY salary, on a NC lifestyle, we paid of almost 17,000 in credit card debt. We came home debt free with a kid

All our family is here, (except my brother, and his brother who is in TX) i didnt want ds to have to get to know his grandparents eaxh time they came to visit. I grew up VERY close (in distance, and in relationships) to my grandparents. I wanted him to have that too.

So, we are home. I will die on this island and I am oerfectly content with it.

And, as far as Im concerned, there is NO PLACE like NY. I dont care what you tell me

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Are you glad you moved back?

mostly yes - we loved it in San Diego, but we moved back when I got pregnant and was very homesick. i wanted my children to grow up knowing cousins and grandparents and extended family like I did.

Or do you regret it?

we still talk about moving back to SD one day, but we cannot take our kids away from their grandparents now. We will definitely retire there.


Why did you move away?

We had visited it and loved it. DH was laid off and i hated my job - we were still relatively young (28) and figured to just go for it.


And why did you move back?

pregnancy and too much Seinfeld and SATC. I missed my friends too.

What about jobs?

DH got a better job than he had in SD (although they countered him to stay). I was able also to finish my 2nd masters (with babysitting help from my parents) and get a great job now.

DH's job technically allows him to work anywhere in the world as long as he has computer access and can get to an office in a day or so. So we still think about going back, but honestly, LI schools are FAR superior and I'm too far in the NYS pension - we'll wait until they all graduate HS and I reach 30 years.

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Thank you, I love reading all of your experiences.

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My dh and I moved to VA Beach together while we were still dating. I loved it at first, he hated it. Towards the end we both began to love it. We were there for 2.5 years. We got married there, and I got pregnant there, and had my first dc there. When I was about 2 months pregnant, I lost my job, a well paying, flexible job. We were never able to get back on our feet. We ended up moving back to Ny when our dc was 4 months old. I do not regret moving back, i def missed my family. I really didnt have many friends to come back to, so that wasnt an issue. We miss the heck out of VA, we do plan on moving back one day, but only when all of our stuff is in order. You have to do whats best for you and your family. If you miss NY and know you will ultimately be happy here, come back. If ive learned anything from this life experience, things fall into place. It takes time, but it happens. Good Luck!

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I regret moving back. The last year has been nothing but regrets.

We moved back for DH's career.

I had no problem being away from family. I want to move back, but it is getting harder now with the kids. They are older and are starting to understand.

I think we are stuck here....I am starting to deal.

We moved so we can afford a house and so I can have a steady teaching job.

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I'm from Central NJ. I was living in Hoboken when DH and I started dating. He has a house on LI. When we got engaged I moved with him to LI. Last September we moved found a beautiful home in Marlboro, NJ. Walking distance from my parents.

Are you glad you moved back?
100% Yes! My parents are so helpful and I have a lot of very close friends in the area to have playdates with or just a night out. WIth my parents close by they come over and babysit and watch Mason on Fridays to help with daycare costs. We also live close to my sister, BIL and their kids. DH's cousins live close and his cousin who set us up is a teacher at DS's daycare

Or do you regret it?
Nope... only problem is getting DH more work. He's a contractor so was commuting to LI a lot. My IL's still live there, but they come visit a lot and we go there

Why did you move away?
For DH b/c he had a house. I was always renting apartments from Philly to Hoboken then moved to LI with DH and now we live in NJ

And why did you move back?
much cheaper to live in Central NJ. We got a big house and we're close to family and friends. Good school district too

What about jobs?
Kept the same job and transfered offices.

Re: If you moved OOS and then moved back home...

Are you glad you moved back? Or do you regret it?

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. It's hard living here - financially. We had so much more living in St. Louis but we just have to remember that those are just things and we came back for family.

Why did you move away? DH works for the airlines. In October 2001, he was given the option of being laid off or transferring. He chose to go to St. Louis because it was closest to NY Other choices were Kansas City or Dallas). We had just started dating but eventually we got engaged and I moved out there too. When we went there, there were hundreds of airline employee transfers out there so we had a nice group of friends who we did everything with. I really liked living there and with the flying benefits, I could be back to NY in 3 hours if there was an emergency.

And why did you move back? 2 years after he was transferred, they laid him off again but this time, with no transfer option. He still had rights to go back to NY when an opening came up. A lot of our friends left St. Louis. The job market there was awful for people like my husband (no college, no other skills). When DH transferred from NY to STL, he kept his NY salary which was very nice for STL. One he got laid off, he was lucky to find something making minimum wage. We also missed our families a lot. We still had our flying benefits (part of lay off package) but it's not the same as being there. We had talked about moving back to NY for a while and then, a week after I found out I was PG, DH got recalled to NY. For a year he commuted and then we made the decision to move back to NY. Our other choices were to go to Dallas or Miami but we missed our families and with our baby coming, we knew we wanted to be home. Holiday's were the hardest part. Also, I just missed everything about NY. I missed the beaches (the lakes in Missouri are no comparison!!!) I missed being close to NYC. I missed everything about NY. STL just didn't compare at all anymore.

What about jobs? I had no problem finding jobs in either places and DH just transferred back and forth.

We don't miss St. Louis. We do miss the friends we made there but that's it. We do still talk about moving OOS again but to Miami this time. But then I remind DH about how he cried because he wasn't home with his family for Christmas. It's just so nice having my sister 7 minutes away and my parents 10 minutes. Even my in laws - it's nice to just be near everyone. We've always been very close with our families and above all else, for us, that's all that matters. We can deal with the high taxes and a house that needs repairs and I was fine with getting rid of my expensive car. I have my family and at the end of the day, that's all I need. I can deal with the rest.