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So DH was off yesterday but had a ton of errands to do, but picked up DS from Daycare yesterday. When he got there they had three incident reports plus one more that they didn't finish filling out. DS has bitten someone three times and shove someone as well. He is 15 months and I know he bites as he bites me and DH all the time.

He bit someone last week and the same kid then bit him back on a separate occassion. Before that he bit someone aobut six weeks ago. So three in one day is a lot and I'm starting to get concern that this won't go away.

Any suggestions to get him to stop. I am so embarrassed and so glad DH picked him up yesterday. I know if I was the one to pick him up I would have left in tears.

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josh would have been kicked out of daycare.

this stage is awful. i have no advice. i bit him, yelled at him, took him home from the park.

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I am too. If Jonah was in daycare, he would have been kicked out. Poor Mady has so many bite marks all over her arms from him.
I put him in time out every time he does it. I think now, at 18 months, he is finally starting to get it.

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Can they get your DS a "shadow". Someone to be with him at all times to help entertain him and keep him busy?

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I am going through this as well. i just want to send you hugs. He has stopped biting other two kids at the babysitter but now he is hitting..

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I didn't have a problem with DS biting other kids, but he bit me a lot when he didn't get his way or was frustrated. I didn't know what to do, because he was young (18 months, maybe?)

I started time outs for biting. No negotiating, no yelling. You bite, you are in time out, period. After a week or so of being consistent with it, he stopped biting and really hasn't done it since. I don't know if the daycare will do time outs (mine doesn't) but if you tell them you are doing them at home, maybe they can come up with something to do there to help too.

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I haven't dealt with this but I am sorry you are going through this! You know your son is just a sweetheart who is having trouble verbally expressing himself and getting frustrated. It's a phase and it will pass. You're a great mom!

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Posted by lvdolphins

Can they get your DS a "shadow". Someone to be with him at all times to help entertain him and keep him busy?

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At that age we did time outs on our lap with them facing out since they would not willing sit anywhere. My kids were not biters so not sure that would specifically work for your child, but it is worth a shot.

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I'm sorry you're going through this! This is such a difficult phase. I'd be a little worried that there isn't enough supervision in the daycare...is there a possibility that you can maybe transfer him to a different daycare where he would get the attention that he needs?

ETA: Sorry I don't have any suggestions that would stop him from biting...I'm going through something similar with my almost 3 year old and hitting...time outs are obsolete!

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It's just the age -- Aiden bites a little too -- don't feel bad: lots of little ones do this. He may be teething -- a little Motrin works wonders. When AIden bites me I tell him "Ouch that hurts Mommy -- boo boo" and I make crying faces. Lately he pretends to bite me. As they get older they start to understand.

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I'm sorry you are going through this - I don't have a biter, so I don't have any useful suggestions on that front, but I know how you feel. I have a hitter and pusher

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I am the same mom. DS started a new daycare in April. During the first week, he got bit one time. Then he bit a child (the same child) 3 times over the course of a couple days. They decided to split the class in 2 and put him in one room and put the other child in another separated by a gate. Then after about a month he bit another time. We were brought in for a meeting where the director and the teacher said my DS was not feeling "guilty" for things (he is 21 months now). They also moved him up to another room (which I loved the teacher) and he was doing great . . . until the teacher quit. Then he started biting again and bit 3 more times over the cours eof a week. During this time I also had DS evaluated (the evaluators felt that he may have some sensory issues but overall did not qualify for services). I gave the school a vibrating teething ring that he can use (the OT suggested a vibrating toothbrush but I felt that wasn't hygienic so I bought this vibrating star thing) instead of biting people. I am also removing him from this daycare for a whole bunch of issues, including the fact that there has been no "head teacher" in the class in 2 weeks and they have yet to "inform" the parents. I found out by accident. I also feel a smaller environment would be a better fit for DS. We also read the book "teeth are not for biting" and he keeps saying "no bite mommy" and I reinforce him everytime he does this. He used to bite me everyonce in a while, but that stopped - we gave time outs. Psychologist who evaluated him said to say "no biting" at beginning of time out (or for any aggressive behavior) and then put him in an area for 1 -1/2 minute. At the end I used to say "say sorry to mommy you hurt mommy give me a hug" but the psychologist said not to even discuss it when it was done. a week and a half ago DS bit someone at a playdate (during the height of all the biting and the day that he also had his evals)I put him on the stairs as a time out, tended to the little girl that was bit, cleaned up our stuff and then left. I also didn't talk to him the entire car ride home. On father's day my brother went to bite my DS on the toes (he didn't know the whole story) DS said "no bite uncle stevie" I think that is HUGE progress!!!!! He is recognizing when he is doing wrong. I really also think (and my daycare didn't do this and one of the reasons i am leaving) that they also need to document "why" the behavior is occurring. What are the circumstances? Is it a certain time of the day? Is it in a certain play area etc. I really think that this gives an overview of why the behavior is happening. That way, there might be ways to circumvent it in the future. Anyways, I know this is long and I am sorry but this has been what I have been LIVING for the past few months. Please feel free to FM me!

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sorry this is happening. no advice but I hope it is resolved soon!

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