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Please ignore Duchamps posts. She is obviously trying to stir up trouble. I, like you, never bother with the fake names. And it seems like any time I vent an issue or problem, some people like to jump all over it.
I see your post as what it is, someone upset because their DH was thoughtless on their bday. I'm glad you did go out and have a good night, but I also agree with others. When the dust settles you need to have a serious conversation with your DH about your expectations and where he can improve to make you a happier wife. Relationships are work and they're no always going to be easy. And most times, there is room for improvement so why not work towards making and stronger relationship.

I'm bummed, how would you feel?

So sorry that your DH neglected you on your birthday. I think it was selfish and just thoughtless of him to use the "found money" on a pair of headphones for himself while not even getting you a card.

As to the stuff "duchamp" has decided to post, I always say that when we vent we tend to talk about every negative thing about our SO, and these negatives end up magnified. We don't tend to 'vent' about the good things they do or their redeeming qualities, we usually need to let off some steam about the bad. And chances are, your SO probably has gripes about you, too. But, if you're with a person and love them and are generally content and happy, then that is all that is important. Sorry that someone finds it necessary to dig through all your old posts and pick them apart to try to hurt you.

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Happy belated birthday! So sorry you had to deal with all that duchamp nonsense. I'm glad your DH stepped up and hope you have an amazing time this weekend.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!


Is it possible he's planning something for you? For my 30th birthday I was REALLY upset and pissed that DH wasn't making a big deal out of it, but then he did throw together a really nice party for me.

I think birthdays are SO hard. When we're kids they are SO great and now no matter what I feel disappointed. I hope you have a GREAT day regardless

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i just decided to check in on the thread again since it had a lof of action...
ignore the posts digging up previous threads...that is nonsense.

i am glad you spoke to DH last night and let him know how you felt. he SHOULD feel bad - hopefully bad enough to not do it again!!!
i hope you were able to enjoy your night last night and that you will enjoy your weekend.

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Duchamps... Ur a doucheeeee!!! I cant stand when people use a fake screename and search people n stalk.. Oh n then comment.. I guess duchamp has the 'perfect' life! Ur a joke!

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Please don't listen to the straight up a-hole who is posting on this thread.

I agree we don't post every day about the things our DHs do that are wonderful. We reach out in the darkest moments, which EVERYONE has, whether they admit it or not, whether they have guts to post about it under their real name or not.

I have had regular posters on this site, when they didn't like what I was posting, bring up posts from YEARS ago and suggest that my marriage would not last.

I've had another regular poster who didn't like one of my opinions basically wish a death on me, and I really wanted to make her look like a jerk when 2 days later, a close relative did pass away.

People can be such incredible a-holes when they can hide behind a screenname, especially a fake one.

The truth is, we ALL have issues in our marriages from time to time. I'm sure every single one of us can look at a list of traits about each others husbands and find 2-3 dealbreakers in each one, including our own. No one's life is perfect. Just be flattered I guess that people spend so much time tracking your posts.

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I'm bummed, how would you feel?

I make no bones about me being a bit of a b!tc.h but hell, I haven't ever sunk as low as to do what has been done in this thread. That's just wrong. It's one thing to be a B!t.ch, another to be a coward who sets out to intentionally hurt people with a fake name.

It's one thing to dig up old posts when you're outing a fraudster/liar who is taking advantage of people, it's another to dig up and pick apart posts just to rub salt in someone's wound. That's tacky and hurtful. And petty. And I'm sure someone will chime in and say "but mrs melloyellow is x,y,z" or something, save it. If you don't like a poster for whatever reason IGNORE THEM. I mean, really, what purpose does this type of behavior serve?

I hope "duchamp" is pleased with him/herself. Come out and say who you really are, don't be a COWARD. Congratulations for sinking to a new low.

/rant.

Sorry, I'm a bit bitchier than normal today :p

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I'm bummed, how would you feel?

this is what i think: you guys have been together a long time. i have been in relationships that long, and my husband and i have been together for 7 years. men are different than women, in that, they have to be told what to do. for instance, over christmas week, and during the holiday, the both of us, plus my 2 year old had the flu. i offered to host christmas eve before we got sick. so, for DAYS i was cleaning and setting up, and pacing myself, because i knew i was too sick to do it in one day. my husband felt he "needed to rest". i let it go for awhile, and then i said to him, dude, you need to help me.i gave him specific instructions, and he did what he was told. now, could i have lamented on the fact that he didn't OFFER to do those things, because he saw me working so hard, sick as a dog? sure. but after all of these years, i realize, that MEN need to be told to do what they need to do. if you want a christmas gift and you want him to think of you, don't say " no gifts". if you want your birthday to be special, you have to remind him. they are like children. your husband (from what i can see from other posts) is thoughful in different ways (ie: bringing you up food when you don't feel well, etc) but he is not good at the planning. sometimes, these are things that we need to accept, and pick our battles. eventually, if you continue to be open and honest with him, he will get it. i hope i am making sense, because i had a glass of wine ( my kid is driving me crazy today lol).

i hope you had a nice birthday, 30 is a special year. don;t sweat the small stuff, look at the bigger picture. is your husband a great dad? are you happy? if you are not, then you have the power to change that. you need to tell your husband what is on your mind. "honey, i am pissed because you didn't think to make my birthday special". they need to be told these things, because, unlike females who think with their heart, they think with their head. xoxo