Re: I'm feeling very overwhelmed

Re: I'm feeling very overwhelmed

Posted by angelbear217

Posted by Lucky

I'm sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed. It's all bound to catch up sometime! On DH's day off you really should do something for yourself. The summer will go quickly so make sure you try to take advantage of it now.
I hope DH understands that you can't do it on your own. You are only human and everyone has a breaking point.

My DD goes to bed early (6:30) so I could always watch DD for you in the evening. I know that's probably not as helpful as during the daytime but you could at least catch a breather. I could try to have the girl together one day....I don't worry about Bella as much as I do my needy DD. If my DD would only let me put her down for more than 2 seconds, things would be great!

Hang in there. Your vacation is just around the corner and you will have a wonderful time as a family!!!!

Thank you!!! Having that option definitely helps.

Even going to get lunch alone today was a huge thing. Thanks!!

Re: I'm feeling very overwhelmed

awww.....there are so many of us on here that could have wrote your post to the "T" !!!!
Its difficult for us moms....esp when there is noone who can relieve us-ever!!

And as for our Dh's...I know....doesnt it just S*ck how men's lives dont change after the baby like ours do??!!!!
THey really can just come&go as they did before...but its all about accepting it for what it is. Thats why WE'RE the moms- they could never do what we do!

Why dont you tell your DH that if you dont get some time off on a regular basis you are going to run away from home-lol, seriously this is what I did, I think I scared my DH once I was having a really bad day and was on the verge of a breakdown, but this is what it took for me to 1 day a week to myself!

ETA-someone told me once to do one thing for myself each day-wheter it be go for a pedicure(take the baby when sleeping with you) watch a movie-meditate-lock yourself in the bathroom& take a bubble bath-whatever...bc a happy mom=happy baby!
this was the best "mom"advice I ever got!
Good luck

Message edited 7/12/2007 8:44:09 PM.

Re: I'm feeling very overwhelmed

I could have written this myself....

Re: I'm feeling very overwhelmed

I also could have written this. DH and I are finally communicating, and it looks like some changes are goig to happen.I recommend you talk b/c chances are, he has no clue!

Re: I'm feeling very overwhelmed

I would sit down with DH and divide up the list of chores. I'm of the mindset that during the day the SAHM's job is to take care of the kdis and do what can be managed with the chores. During the day DH's job is going to work. After hours it is both of our jobs 50/50 to take care of the kids, do stuff around the house, etc.


When you are home with your kids I think sometimes people think it is all fun and games becasue you go to the park and the zoo, etc. But that is part of the job description of being a mom...expose your kids to the world, teach them to socialize, etc. But with that "fun" comes packing the car, the diaper bag, the lunches, etc. Its never ending.

Sorry for babblling, but my point is you need to assign specific jobs to your DH...be it laundry, dishes, etc. A general statement like "I wish you would help out more" is like talking Swaheli to them.

GOOD LUCK

*****typing as I hear the sweet sound of the vacuum in the background right now*****.....train them while the babies are young!

Message edited 7/12/2007 9:26:33 PM.