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dree
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I'm so disgusted with DH...
We decided last week that we are going to let Sidney CIO. Fine - hardest thing to do but really seems to be working. But she still has a really hard time with naps. So this weekend I let her CIO for the naps too. He happened to come home during it and started questioning me as to why she is CIOing for a nap and how naps aren't important, that she'll sleep when she's tired. He wanted to just bring her out and she would fall asleep when she was ready. Now first of all we agreed to CIO for everything. OK..so he changed his mind. BUT for me to listen to my child cry is hard enough to begin with I don't need DH questioning me. He has never spent more than 4 hours alone with his child. He has never read a single sentence from any book on the topic. For him to say that our child just doesn't need as much sleep as other babies kills me. I understand that he has as much say in how we raise our daughter but he is not around all day when she is in a foul mood cause she missed a nap. He's not constantly rocking, nursing, singing to her to get her to sleep. He thinks if she is rubbing her eyes it means she has itchy eyes...not that she is tired (mind you she rubs her eyes at the same times each day!!!!) Our child has never fallen asleep for a nap on her own in the past 7 months.
So I am back to nursing to sleep for naps. There is no way I can do this without support from him.
Sorry....I just needed to vent. I am so resentful that he has really done nothing other than play with our child for 30 minutes a day the past 8 months yet somehow he's got the answers. 
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
Men just don't get. My DH will do stuff like that too sometimes. It is very frustrating. I think he's learning now that he has her for 8 hours one day a week.
I hope it gets better for you.
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| Posted 3/6/06 5:08 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
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mommy2bella
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
My DH drives me bananas when it comes to stuff like this...now when he questions me, I just say "because I said so"
Hope it gets better soon, I know you have been having a tough go of it...
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| Posted 3/6/06 9:36 PM |
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CheeChee
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
sorry you are going thru this... my DH is the same way. He cant handle jacob for 2 hours while i run out for errands but he'll question things i do too.. makes me nuts!!
My son doesnt even sleep in his crib yet, and naps wonderfully for 2 hrs in the morn and afternoon.... IN HIS SWING! I will prob be using the CIO method when he is 4-5 months old and if my DH questions me he can go to a motel for however long it takes!!!!!
Hang in there...
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| Posted 3/6/06 9:42 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
I'm sorry you guys are dealing with this. I posted this on a thread Stefanie had last week, but maybe it will help you guys out.
When my girlfriend's DH was doing the same thing, she told him that she has a bunch of errands to run on his day off, could he hang with their son for a while so it wouldn't take her so long. She made sure to be gone most of the day and when she got back he was falling all over himself telling her how hard it is and how sorry he was. He could barely manage to feed and entertain their son, the house looked like a bomb went off. Now he tells her that he has no idea how she does it and keeps the house neat, and that going to work is easier.
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| Posted 3/6/06 9:45 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
Posted by sarahsmommy
I'm sorry you guys are dealing with this. I posted this on a thread Stefanie had last week, but maybe it will help you guys out.
When my girlfriend's DH was doing the same thing, she told him that she has a bunch of errands to run on his day off, could he hang with their son for a while so it wouldn't take her so long. She made sure to be gone most of the day and when she got back he was falling all over himself telling her how hard it is and how sorry he was. He could barely manage to feed and entertain their son, the house looked like a bomb went off. Now he tells her that he has no idea how she does it and keeps the house neat, and that going to work is easier.
Great advice Cathy!
I usually throw DH THE LOOK. It's a gift all of us have inherited from our moms. I'm sure you've seen it.
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| Posted 3/6/06 9:56 PM |
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Adri
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
Sometimes they just don't get it!
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| Posted 3/6/06 10:32 PM |
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dree
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
He apologized  and without any prompting  I almost fell over. Not sure if he really thinks he did anything wrong or he just saw how PO'd I was. Either way it cooled me off 
Thanks for the support you guys.
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| Posted 3/6/06 11:32 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: I'm so disgusted with DH...
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by sarahsmommy
I'm sorry you guys are dealing with this. I posted this on a thread Stefanie had last week, but maybe it will help you guys out.
When my girlfriend's DH was doing the same thing, she told him that she has a bunch of errands to run on his day off, could he hang with their son for a while so it wouldn't take her so long. She made sure to be gone most of the day and when she got back he was falling all over himself telling her how hard it is and how sorry he was. He could barely manage to feed and entertain their son, the house looked like a bomb went off. Now he tells her that he has no idea how she does it and keeps the house neat, and that going to work is easier.
Great advice Cathy!
I usually throw DH THE LOOK. It's a gift all of us have inherited from our moms. I'm sure you've seen it.
I know that look rather well....and so does DH. It doesn't work all the time though.
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| Posted 3/6/06 11:45 PM |
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