Intruder Question for the working mommies!

Simply put....how do you do it????

I am so torn on actively TTC because my baby will undoubtedly spend lots of time with a sitter.

I will work nights for about 4 months and DH works nights 2 days a week. On those 2 days, a sitter will put my baby to sleep.

I don't know if I could do it??? And on the other hand...I don't know if I want to keep waiting!!!

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Go with your heart.

I knew I would have to work full time when I had my children. And it is still the best thing I have ever done in my life.

It is difficult regardless of whether you are a SAHM or a Full Time Working Mom. You need to find balance in both scenarios.

I have my moments of guilt - but I still wouldn't change having had my kids when I did. If I had waited for the 'perfect time' - I would still be waiting. And I would have missed out on the last 7 amazing years.

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Hey girlie!! How are you?!

The simple answer is - well, you just DO!

You do what you have to do. We have to work to put food on the table, keep a roof over our heads, provide for our children, keep them healthy, and keep our sanity.

Yes, I miss my baby when I'm at work but I know that if I didn't work, he wouldn't have the things he needs or the life I want for him, or a happy mommy and daddy which is even more important.

That said - there is nothing wrong with waiting. After all, once you take the plunge - you can't go back. You might never have the perfect schedule for being a working mom, but you might have a better one. Then again, sometimes getting pregnant or having a baby is the catalyst for a change that you wanted in your life anyway.

You may never know for sure when the right time to TTC is. There will always be some level of doubt about timing. But just try not to let baby fever cloud your judgement too much!

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YOu do what's right for your family and every family is different. I would never put off having children because everything isn't as perfectly arranged as you had hoped.

DH and I both have very fulfilling careers and DD (and any future DC) is in daycare. We love our life, what we offer our child, the time we all have together. Focus on the positives of what you and DH will offer your child and you will give them a happy, love filled life.

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You have each shed some really realistic light to the situation and I greatly appreciate it!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank You a million times!!!

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My advice is that you should start TTC when you feel ready to have a child, but not base it on working v. SAHM. I have been both a working mom and SAHM and to be honest, both are equally difficult.

When I'm working, I hate that I don't see DS as much as I want to, but at least we have peace of mind about financial security and are able to pay our bills and give DS what he needs and wants. When I was a SAHM, money was tight and it was stressful, plus, I became very frustrated at home all day long and felt like I had less patience with DS.

As a working mom now, it is very difficult to juggle it all - you have to really plan, have a schedule, and just accept it and DO it. It is totally possible and tons of people do it. Good luck!

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Somehow you do it. It's a nice balance too.

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I agree with the other posts, I do it and I enjoy it. At first I worried about how I would do it, and to be honest, after my mat leave I struggled for a while. However now that I have been back at work for a while, I love it. I would personally struggle staying at home full time.

I feel I have a really good work life balance...I work 4 days a week, my son is in daycare (which is loves) and my house is a mess. But something has to give, and you have to learn to accept that! Your house might not be your thing to give, but its mine.

Its not as difficult as one might think, you find yourself falling into schedules and routines.