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NervousNell
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Irrational Fears post
I figured I'd start one since I have so many irrational fears about childbirth.
I figure you guys can add yours.
My irrational fear of the day is that I won't be physically strong enough to push the baby out.
Putting all pain, epidurals, contractions, tearing and stitches aside for just a sec- I feel like I am just too physically weak from years of sedentary lifestyle to actually do the work I will need to do to get the baby out of me.
I feel like there is no way a weakling like me will be strong enough to do all that work.
Ok irrational fear of the day is out there.
Anyone else want to join me on my psycho train? 
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i am not worried about the pain of labor and delivery, I am obsessed with the "after birth" healing  I dont know why but I have convinced myself that its going to be horrible and uncomfortable for weeks!
 DH isnt the best with comforting me when im not feeling well (he says "ah you're fine, or its not THAT bad") and I am horrible when uncomfortable  
I pray for an easy delivery 
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| Posted 1/26/10 9:19 AM |
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My one "rational" fear is that I'll suffer a uterinte rupture while attempting a VBAC, but that is so slim, I don't really allow my self to think about it.
My irrational fears are that despite the fact that I've only gained 12 lbs so far, I'll gain another 28 lbs in 5 weeks to match the weight gain I had with DS and that I won't be able to BF DD successfully.
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| Posted 1/26/10 9:27 AM |
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My irrational fear is my water will break at work and the contractions will come on so strong I won't make it to the hospital =).
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| Posted 1/26/10 9:34 AM |
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My irrational fear is that I will have trouble BF I really want to BF and I pray that is works out!
Irrational fear #2 is that something will be wrong with  I think I may be one of the moms that stand over the bassinet counting his breaths at night 
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| Posted 1/26/10 9:35 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Irrational Fears post
This is going to sound petty after all of these real fears but I am terrified that DH isn't going to want to touch me after the baby is born. Everything will be so different. And we have been together for 12 years and all of a sudden my whole body is going to be all messed up.
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| Posted 1/26/10 9:35 AM |
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NervousNell
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Posted by Tilde
This is going to sound petty after all of these real fears but I am terrified that DH isn't going to want to touch me after the baby is born. Everything will be so different. And we have been together for 12 years and all of a sudden my whole body is going to be all messed up.
Not petty. I have the same kind of fears.
Not just abuot my DH not wanting me but just in general about my body getting ruined.
I've always prided myself on my body.
It's awful and shallow- I know, I know.
But I'm being honest.
I worry way too much about this.
All fears- petty, irrational, real or shallow- can be aired on this thread!
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| Posted 1/26/10 9:40 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Irrational Fears post
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Tilde
This is going to sound petty after all of these real fears but I am terrified that DH isn't going to want to touch me after the baby is born. Everything will be so different. And we have been together for 12 years and all of a sudden my whole body is going to be all messed up.
Not petty. I have the same kind of fears.
Not just abuot my DH not wanting me but just in general about my body getting ruined.
I've always prided myself on my body.
It's awful and shallow- I know, I know.
But I'm being honest.
I worry way too much about this.
All fears- petty, irrational, real or shallow- can be aired on this thread!
LOL thanks!
I have always been naturally thin. A little squishy! but thin. So now, I know I will have to work on it!
The Dr Oz book has exercises that can be done ONE day after v-birth! I want to try those asap ( not one day after though LOL ) AND this reminds me to do my keigels
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Posted by Tilde
This is going to sound petty after all of these real fears but I am terrified that DH isn't going to want to touch me after the baby is born. Everything will be so different. And we have been together for 12 years and all of a sudden my whole body is going to be all messed up.
Not petty at all - me too! I was in really good shape for awhile after working HARD to lose a lot of weight about 4 years ago so the thought of having to do that all again is distressing.
I also fear that I won't be able to breastfeed and the postpartum healing is kind of freaking me out a little too.
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| Posted 1/26/10 10:31 AM |
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Cpt2007
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I fear that everything I do now (what I am eating, what little exercise I get, what little allowances I give myself) has harmed (or worse) the baby. This has only been perpetuated by the fact that I have yet to feel the baby (I'm 18 weeks).
My doctor and my dh have told me that I need to stop being neurotic, but I can't help it. Friday and my level II can't come soon enough so I can see the baby on the screen, see it move (hopefully) and hear the heart beat again.
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NervousNell
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Posted by Cpt2007
I fear that everything I do now (what I am eating, what little exercise I get, what little allowances I give myself) has harmed (or worse) the baby. This has only been perpetuated by the fact that I have yet to feel the baby (I'm 18 weeks).
My doctor and my dh have told me that I need to stop being neurotic, but I can't help it. Friday and my level II can't come soon enough so I can see the baby on the screen, see it move (hopefully) and hear the heart beat again.
Trust me I am the same way. I worry about everything. Things I can control (Like my occassional tuna sandwich) and things I can't- like genetic disorders etc.
In between appointments I'm a wreck.
I'm a wreck going to appointments. I am always waiting for bad news.
I feel NO movement at almost 19 weeks- but I have anterior placenta so knowing that helps I guess.
Not to mention I'm not showing at all really- and carrying ridiculously small.
My husband tells me I have to relax- easy for him to say.
I swear- pregnancy is NOT good for someone like me AT ALL!
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My irrational fear is that I won't be able to BF successfully. I really want to be able to do that for my child and for the bonding experience.
My rational fear is that I'll suffer of postpartum depression. Depression runs in my family and I've had a history of it on and off for the last 10 years - mom also got PPD when she quit BFing my brother.
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My irrational fear is about AFTER the baby is born. How am I going to be able to love both babies the same? I don't want either child to feel neglected or like I love the other one more. I grew up like this and I know it has affected my siblings. I don't want to do the same to my own children.
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Re: Irrational Fears post
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Cpt2007
This has only been perpetuated by the fact that I have yet to feel the baby (I'm 18 weeks).
I feel NO movement at almost 19 weeks- but I have anterior placenta so knowing that helps I guess.
I didn't feel any movement until I was 22 weeks. Everyone is different ladies. It will come 
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Perhaps it's just my personality but I am not really scared of anything. I am looking forward to labor and giving birth as painful or horrible as it may be. I am REALLY looking forward to getting back into shape after the baby is born. I absolutely cannot wait to workout the way I used to. I am determined to make breastfeeding work for me unless I absolutely cannot for some physical reason. I am not even scared of the terrible newborn phase...I cannot wait to hold our baby in my arms even if it means losing all of my sleep, rationality and perhaps even some dignity
I think it's definitely normal to feel these fears. Just as with anything the more prepared you are mentally and physically, the easier it will be.
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Re: Irrational Fears post
Posted by NervousNell
I figured I'd start one since I have so many irrational fears about childbirth.
I figure you guys can add yours.
My irrational fear of the day is that I won't be physically strong enough to push the baby out.
Putting all pain, epidurals, contractions, tearing and stitches aside for just a sec- I feel like I am just too physically weak from years of sedentary lifestyle to actually do the work I will need to do to get the baby out of me.
I feel like there is no way a weakling like me will be strong enough to do all that work.
Ok irrational fear of the day is out there.
Anyone else want to join me on my psycho train?
I am the laziest person you can ever meet, and I pushed DD out with no problem! Trust me, you WANT to get that kid out... you WILL find the strength!
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| Posted 1/26/10 11:04 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Irrational Fears post
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by NervousNell
I figured I'd start one since I have so many irrational fears about childbirth.
I figure you guys can add yours.
My irrational fear of the day is that I won't be physically strong enough to push the baby out.
Putting all pain, epidurals, contractions, tearing and stitches aside for just a sec- I feel like I am just too physically weak from years of sedentary lifestyle to actually do the work I will need to do to get the baby out of me.
I feel like there is no way a weakling like me will be strong enough to do all that work.
Ok irrational fear of the day is out there.
Anyone else want to join me on my psycho train?
I am the laziest person you can ever meet, and I pushed DD out with no problem! Trust me, you WANT to get that kid out... you WILL find the strength!
Thank you for this. I was hoping some BTDT moms would chime in with their pushing experiences. I know that we are physically made to do this... I guess I just freak out about how physical it is.
But I guess in that moment you are in the zone!
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| Posted 1/26/10 11:05 AM |
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Brila09
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Re: Irrational Fears post
Posted by CrisiDrue
My irrational fear is that I won't be able to BF successfully. I really want to be able to do that for my child and for the bonding experience.
My rational fear is that I'll suffer of postpartum depression. Depression runs in my family and I've had a history of it on and off for the last 10 years - mom also got PPD when she quit BFing my brother.
These are both my fears also.
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| Posted 1/26/10 12:08 PM |
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kahlua716
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Re: Irrational Fears post
I posted about my fears the other day-
-I fear that I will get PPD
-I fear that I will not bond with my baby
-I fear that I won't be able to "deal" with being a mom
-I fear something will be wrong with the baby
I just want to go back to a week ago when none of this was on my mind....
NOw that it's getting closer to labor- I'm starting to get a little nervous about that- but its not my main focus
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I don't know if it's a real fear, but it is pretty irrational- I had a dream last night that the baby flipped and was breached- which is pretty darn unlikely since he's been head down for a while now and already 6lbs, so I don't even think he would have room to flip.
Another real fear I have, and this one is not irrational, is just how I'm going to balance my life. I know the transition from no child to one was tough, but now I'm afraid of the transition from one to two.
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Sure-here are mine.
I will be able to see them cutting me open 
I will feel it all and be in horrific pain
I will have a panic attack and die.
Yes, I am under psychiatric care for this!
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Posted by kahlua716
I posted about my fears the other day-
-I fear that I will get PPD
-I fear that I will not bond with my baby
-I fear that I won't be able to "deal" with being a mom
-I fear something will be wrong with the baby
I just want to go back to a week ago when none of this was on my mind....
NOw that it's getting closer to labor- I'm starting to get a little nervous about that- but its not my main focus
Can I add these to my list? Oh and I won't be able to handle her on my own and I will fail as a mother and a human being.
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I've posted in a prior post a while ago...but my fear is that I'm going to die. I know it's morbid but I can't help it. It scares meand saddens to think that I'll never meet DS and that I will not watch him grow up with DH.
This fear is based on the fact that when i went for "routine" knee surgery I coded. I ended up pulling through, but wsa in CCU for 5 days and even to this days Dr.'s aren't totally 100% what happened to cause it. They think it was un-diagnosed sleep apnea but i don't suffer from severe apnea, just very mild.
The pain and the pushing and the life transition to being a mother and wondering if I'll make a good mom scares me but my above fear is my main fear.
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2nd time mom here so I know alot of what can happen...
but my fears are,
- the possibility of Bedrest and caring for my DD.
-C section. I am opting for one even though a vaginal delivery could be possible, just nervous and scared.
-the twins coming early, too early. BIGGEST fear!
-coming home and learning how to juggle both while have my DD
- My DD....and hoping that she will be a great big sis and that the transition isn't difficult on her or me
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