Is it a big deal that she doesnt speak? (1yr check up)

AJ has no words. No daddy or mama, nothing.

She wont blink an eye if you call her name unless she's just interested in what youre doing. God knows if she's watching TV calling her name does no good at all.

She will stop if you say no. Stern and forcefully that is. She hesitates then points her finger at you and smiles/laughs but she won't do whatever it is you said no about. Like when she crawls towards the bathroom, I say no, she stops.

She had her one year physical yesterday. NO SHOTS. She's been running a lil fever and been throwing up so I nixed the shots. Got a bit of hate for that but oh well.

She's 75% for height
She's 25% for weight

Long and Lean I guess.

but they kept asking me over and over and over again, does she speak at least two words. I kept saying no. And no, she doesnt take commands like "come here" Honestly we never tried. If we want her, we go get her. Never thought to ask her to come to me. She's only started crawling in the last two months.

So.. make me feel better. Its ok, she doesnt speak words, right???

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Oh and they did the lil lead and whatever test. Poked her toe with that pin that reminds me of a diabetic test. What does AJ do?

Nothing. LOL she just twists her upper body to see what it is the nurse is doing with her toe. The whole time they are pushing the toe to pull up a drop of blood and put it in the lil vial, AJ is kicking her other foot happily and reaching out to touch her toe. Could have cared less! Just played with her pacifier when she realized she couldnt get to her toe right then and babbled.

That’s my girl!

Re: Is it a big deal that she doesnt speak? (1yr check up)

anyone?

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It is absolutely, without question, ok that she does not speak yet. Totally normal.

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Absolutely ok! I think by 15 months they only really need to have 1 word.

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I don't think it's a big deal. My son is 11 months, he says mama dada and nai nai ( milk in chinese). that's it! other than that he is a very quiet baby. he says mama and dada bc I say it 6 million times a day. nai nai we tell him before every bottle. She is probably just a quiet baby soaking it all in!

she is just so cute by the way

her stats are fine, my DS is 95% for height and less than 25% fore weight

Message edited 8/25/2009 12:10:43 PM.

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It would alarm me but I think that's because my DD spoke well by a year and my DS at 9 months is starting to talk as well.

That said my nephew is almost 2 and just not has words you can understand. I wouldn't panic. I think this is one of those things that all kids develop at their own pace.

Is her hearing OK? That's all that might alarm me because you say she doesn't respond to her name or commands.

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Thanks all

No she hasnt had her hearing checked since she was in the hospital at birth.

Her father is a man a few words and I'm not!

Honestly I never even thought to worry until they kept asking it in different ways and over and over again.

That makes me nervous like my answer wasn't the right one.

They try so hard not to make parents panic but then leave so much unsaid it makes us panic! I can handle it, just tell me. i can't handle GUESSING!

I can deal with only what i know, the unknown irrates me.

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Just to be sure I would have her hearing checked b/c if she can't hear clearly then she may not pick up on all that you are saying.

Other than that I think she's probably just fine.

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I think what you said about hubby being quiet is key. that's probably just her personality

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I agree with getting her hearing checked, but I think that she will probably be chatting up a storm pretty soon and hten you can't go back

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I think it's probably okay, but what did the doctor say? Were they concerned?

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I will say this, Abby's language took off after she had the tubes put in her ears HOWEVER, she did not have a hearing loss - just chronic ear infections that did not clear up.

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Does she make any sounds? Babble? I'd be concerned if she didn't do that, but words at 1 year are not necessarily the norm--there's a wide range of normal for first words.

I would get her hearing checked just to be sure though, especially if you're saying she doesn't respond if you call her name.

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DS is going to be a year and I don't think he has any "real words" He babbles, and will imitate sounds, but he doesn't have words yet. HOWEVER, he has been walking since 9 months and is climbing all over the place and even squats during play now!. Usually when one aspect of development is being focused on, another gets left in the dark. I am figuring my son is still working on his gross motor skills and communication skills will come in time.

ETS: he does follow commands though, such as give me a kiss, and come here. He also does respond when I call his name, not always, but most times he will look!
I would get the hearing checked as well!

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How do i get her hearing checked???



Well i have a genetic disorder that causes some hearing loss so I also have asked in the past but they say she responds to sounds (banging etc) just fine.


To the Poster to asked what the doc said.. NOTHING and that's whats annoying me.

But babble? Oh yeah she babbles.. she chitters and chatters very freely. You'll walk into daycare and hear rapid fire babbles and sounds and realize its HER! Especially if she's playing or happy she'll do that lil "ooh Ooh" sound and click her tongue.

Lots of "da, Da, Da" but not really Dada if that makes sense? Occassionally she'll come out as "Daddi" which we love of course but its not meant to be for Jim its more or less an accident.

She makes lil "kur" sounds with her teeth & mouth when she tries to mimic blowing out candles. Theres a video we have that the number "2" is shown as blowing out candles, she love it and tries to mimic it. Ends up spiting it but, hey we think its cute!

If AJ ever had a first word its gonna be "te-h" for two. She goes nuts when that video is in and the 2 is up. it just says the number over and over and over and over again. So she knows when its 2 and sits there pointing her finger and saying "te-h" and "kur" sound to blow out candles.


ETA: No, i dont think she actually recongizes the 2 for a 2, but she likes the shape, sound, color and motion i think. For those who wonder this is the Pre-School Prep Video "Meet the Numbers" lol which equates into some serious brainwashing.

Message edited 8/25/2009 12:52:56 PM.

Re: Is it a big deal that she doesnt speak? (1yr check up)

Posted by Xelindrya

How do i get her hearing checked???

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She sounds fine-they probably just made a note and will recheck at the next appointment.

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If it were me, just b/c I dealt with ear issues with DD#1 who needed tubes placed at 9 months due to chronic ear infections (not saying this is your DD's case, but I will say that they did extensive hearing checks and once the tubes were placed, that very day by coincidence or not she started really speaking and babbling - think she said da-da for the first time that day), so if DD#2 wasn't speaking or babbling at the same rate as #1, although all kids are different, I'd probably take her to the audiologist - just to rule it out. If all is fine there and the docs aren't worried, I wouldn't worry.

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The fact that she babbles and can hear when you drop something or bang something, to me, sounds like she is perfectly fine and you have nothing to worry about.

DD is almost 3...and she talks constantly...I sometimes wish for the days when she said nothing...this kid has no OFF button

Re: Is it a big deal that she doesnt speak? (1yr check up)

Posted by Xelindrya

How do i get her hearing checked???



Well i have a genetic disorder that causes some hearing loss so I also have asked in the past but they say she responds to sounds (banging etc) just fine.


To the Poster to asked what the doc said.. NOTHING and that's whats annoying me.

But babble? Oh yeah she babbles.. she chitters and chatters very freely. You'll walk into daycare and hear rapid fire babbles and sounds and realize its HER! Especially if she's playing or happy she'll do that lil "ooh Ooh" sound and click her tongue.

Lots of "da, Da, Da" but not really Dada if that makes sense? Occassionally she'll come out as "Daddi" which we love of course but its not meant to be for Jim its more or less an accident.

She makes lil "kur" sounds with her teeth & mouth when she tries to mimic blowing out candles. Theres a video we have that the number "2" is shown as blowing out candles, she love it and tries to mimic it. Ends up spiting it but, hey we think its cute!

If AJ ever had a first word its gonna be "te-h" for two. She goes nuts when that video is in and the 2 is up. it just says the number over and over and over and over again. So she knows when its 2 and sits there pointing her finger and saying "te-h" and "kur" sound to blow out candles.


ETA: No, i dont think she actually recongizes the 2 for a 2, but she likes the shape, sound, color and motion i think. For those who wonder this is the Pre-School Prep Video "Meet the Numbers" lol which equates into some serious brainwashing.

Message edited 8/25/2009 1:04:04 PM.

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At one year, my DD, I think said a total of 3 words, hi, bye and baby. She didn't start calling us ma and da until 15 months or so.

I think you might want to get the hearing checked just to make sure. But, if she is babbling that is a good sign. You'll be surprised by the bursts of language that they get out of no where. Good luck.

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It is completely normal not to have words at 1 year. My niece was very similar to what you are describing, she wouldn't respond to her name, especially if watching TV, she didn't speak. She was very independent. My sister was terrified that something was wrong - even though her Dr. kept telling her that everything was fine. When Ayla did start talking (at about 15-18 months) it was like an explosion! She was almost immediately making sentences.

She turned 2 a month ago and is now above normal for her age. I read a book to her and DS last week (it was the first time she had heard the story) after we stopped she picked up the book and 'read' it back to me. She remembered and could verbalize what was happening on each page. My Mom who is a PhD in reading said that it was advanced for a just two year old to have the language comprehension and recalled that she had just exhibited.

All children will progress at different rates, getting a hearing test is a good idea, but try not to stress yourself out

Message edited 8/25/2009 1:19:15 PM.

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Its not a big deal.

My DS didn't say anything at 1. He said 3-5 words when he turned 2. The Dr was concerned (I wasn't) so I had to have him evaluated. His comprehension and expression was on a 3 year old level and he didn't even have to talk! The evaluators were impressed and I never saw them again. He also had his hearing tested before the evaluation but he was freshly 2 yo.

If she responds to "no" and loud bangs I would not be worried about her hearing. Some children don't feel the need to verbally express themselves so early. Mine didn't because he didn't need to, I understoon him w/o him needing to talk. She is probably just veryt content.

FYI - One year later at DS's 3rd year check up..the Dr walks in the room and DS says "Hello Dr. Martinex, How are you doing today?" Clear as a bell and I think the Dr almost hit the floor..I know my jaw did!!

Be patient =)

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