Is this the new thing now? **UPDATED at top 7/14**

I went to a HUGE bridal shower for my cousin's fiance yesterday. There must have been 150 people, it was at a catering hall, etc. - I'm talking like a $15,000 shower.

The bride, who didn't register or anything less than $100, opened all of her gifts at lightening speed and just kind of chucked them to the side. It was all so quick and chaotic becuase there was a tremendous amount of stuff.

At the end they handed out the favors (a nice little decorative pitcher) and on the box was a rolled up printed scroll which pretty much read "thank you for your thoughtfullness and your gift. We will enjoy it in our married life."

Is this the thank you? I am assuming it is. Do you think this is rude - especially considering you figure most people spent $100 or more?



**UPDATE** It's official. That was the thank you. I know this because the groom's mother (my mother's cousin) is very upset about this.

Message edited 7/14/2008 3:43:45 PM.

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I wouldn't think so. I would think they were just thanking people but will also send a thank you. We did that at the wedding but then of course sent a real thank you. If that's it I would think that was BEYOND rude!!

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Considering the shower was yesterday, I think I'd give it some time before deciding whether or not that is the only thank you guests will receive.

If it IS the only thank you, I think that's tremendously rude.

At big showers like that, honestly, I don't think the bride should open the gifts. It should be a display shower or she should just open them at home -- so she can actually spend time with all of her guests.

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I should hope not!! That would be incredibly tacky and rude.

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I would wait and see, but if you do not recieve a thank you card then yes that is very rude.

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I should add that yes, I know the shower was only yesterday. But even my husband agreed when he saw it that that was the thank you. I just never saw anything like that before.

I could be wrong.

Message edited 6/9/2008 10:23:55 AM.

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Nah, I don't think its the thank you. ESPECIALLY since it was a shower and the bride probably saw them for the first time that day - it wasn't even a "thank you" from HER technically.

I would hope not anyway

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i would like to think that a thank you is forthcoming because this is just so tacky. however i have a feeling this was it.

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Sounds rude and selfish and materialistic to me...

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It might be, I went to a baby shower 2 weeks ago and got a preprinted thank you with the favor, still haven't rec'd another one.

Also I have rec'd this preprinted thank you with the favor at communions, christenings and 1st bday parties (the ones that are halls)

I really feel it so impersonal...

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Posted by kahlua716

I should hope not!! That would be incredibly tacky and rude.

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It might just be a pre-thank you to buy her some time, since it was a large shower & there will be a lot of thank you notes to write.

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To me, it sounds like that is your final "thank you" card. I hope that is not the case. If it said something like "Thank you for being here or for sharing this special day' then yes, I would say you will get a thank you card in the mail.

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I hope this isn't the new thing. It always boggles my mind that people who are clearly so vain and concerned with how they come off and being ostentatious are willing to let laziness & entitlement make them come off as classless laughingstocks. Doesn't that defeat the purpose? Plus, I always wonder if girls like that are going to attend each of her guest's showers with expensive gifts and expect no personalized thanks in return....

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I agree to wait and see - I hope that wasn't the thank you, because if it was, yes, I think it's rude.

And I sure hope that's not the new trend, but I worry, because I've been to several events over the past few years where I've received "thank yous" like that, or better yet, no thank you at all. Makes me want to stop giving thoughtful gifts.

Re: Is this the new thing now? **UPDATED 7/14**

BUMP

Re: Is this the new thing now? **UPDATED at top 7/14**

That's ridiuclous


Let me guess..she was "surprised" for the shower

Re: Is this the new thing now? **UPDATED at top 7/14**

Posted by jxnoscar


That's ridiuclous


Let me guess..she was "surprised" for the shower

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Nothing surprises me anymore so that may well be the only thank you. If so that is just rude. The bride should be ashamed of herself if that's the case. People went through a lot of trouble to purchase and wrap gifts and appreciate some acknowledgment.

I wonder if her wedding will have a similar thing

Tacky!

Re: Is this the new thing now? **UPDATED at top 7/14**

That is TERRIBLE. To be so ungrateful as to put out a generic Thank You because one is too lazy and thoughtless to write out individual thank you's is RUDE.