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Im sorry this is hard for you.

Can I ask if she reached other milestones on time like smiling, laughing, cooing, grasping for objects or was a late bloomer there to?

She may just have a "lazy " personality.

I had seen it in so many kids....usually they outgrow it and become very happy toddlers.

It sounds like its bothering you a lot though and I think I woudl speak out some more assistance with or through your Ped.

She should be able to sit for more then 10 minutes and be happy. For her sakes and yours.

Good luck with her. Vent away,t hats what the girls are here for

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Flame you! Who could flame you for that! It must be so frustrating each day and you must want so much for her just to snap out of it and be happy. That has to be so hard.

I am sure it will improve with time and I completely understand hearing about other babies and how easy they are must be so hard. Hang in there- the best times are coming

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can totally relate- although my DD is only about 4 months old. she spends a lot of her day crying and i spend a lot of the day trying to figure her out. i just posted about it the other day! i know it is hard to not take it personally when they are grumpy most of the time. you tend to feel it's something you're doing but it's not! you're a great mom! also, out of desperation i am finally giving my DD the reflux meds her dr. prescribed weeks ago. i didn't think it would help or that she really has it but maybe i'm crazy i do see a little difference in her since we started. hope it gets better for yoU!

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Posted by nrthshgrl



Since you've mentioned she's not making milestones, smiling at people, etc, and you don't think she's developing as an 8-1/2 month old should, I would consider calling Early Intervention.

Separation anxiety is normal at virtually every age. Some kids are fearful of strangers more than others, but since you discussed milestones maybe getting that looked at would give you some peace of mind.

She does smile at people. But when people first say high she is so leary of them. But if people start to play peek a boo, then she smiles at them. Ive mentioned these things to the ped. and he feels she is fine.

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Talk to your ped. Since she is having trouble with her gross motor skills she may have low muscle tone

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In a way I know exactly what you are going through. Its not jealousy you are feeling exactly and not really envy...I like to think its kind of a simplicity or a yearning for things to just be easy with her for a change. I went through simular feelings when my eldest daughter was an infant but for other reasons.

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awww I am sorry you are going through this but I am sure it is just a phase and she will outgrow it and will probably be a very happy toddler!!

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No flames here. I understand totally. Ava was a wonderful baby, but then became very difficult at around 15 mos. Her moods are 100% affected by her sleep and her diet.

Is she sleeping/ napping well? If not, there are a ton of books that can help. I can suggest a few for you.

As far as diet, speak to your ped if you are formula feeding, maybe you can try another. If you are ebf, maybe some foods that you are eating that don't agree with her.

Also, maybe she is just a "spirited" child. Get the book of the same name. These children are affected by light, noise, texture,etc.

Another suggestion that I have for you, that I had to learn the hard way is- take some time for you. A "spirited" child can take a lot out of you, you need to revive yourself so that you can handle another day. Also, enlist the help of a family member or sitter a few times a month. You can get out of the house and the baby can get used to being with other people.