Keeping it a secret...did your family do it?

If you told your family and in-laws you were pregnant before the 12 week mark, how did it go and were they able to keep it a secret?

Please let me know, thxxxxxxxxxx!!!

Re: Keeping it a secret...did your family do it?

yes, all of my family and DH's family were able to keep it a secret. we only told a select few and made sure to tell them we werent telling anyone else until we were ready. they respected our wishes but they were totally bursting at the seams!

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Yes they did! My MIL wanted to shout it from the rooftops, but our parents (and my best friend) kept it to themselves until we were ready to tell!

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Well I know this sounds dumb but I dont think MIL gets the whole waiting for 12 weeks ordeal and I am nervous she is going to tell people. FIL too! UGH. They are adults so should be able to do this right? I dunno my gut says no.

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we told close family at 4-5 weeks and swore them to secrecy until 13.5 weeks. it was hard but they kept it a secret

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My ILs were respectful of our decision, but my mother couldn't keep her mouth shut to her sisters, who then told their kids, who then posted on facebook....needless to say, I was not happy!

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My FIL, BIL, and BIL's fiance were awesome. I can tell FIL anything and know that it won't get anywhere. My mom is a different story, haha...the two of us are very close, and she just couldn't contain herself. She told her whole work and neighbors before I got to tell my siblings.

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No, they didn't. My father told everyone he knew that doesn't talk to me on a regular basis (like OOS relatives and friends). My MIL told her friend who is also a friend of ours so it was no shock when we told them. She also switched to my nail place and told my nail girl the second time she ever went there. I was shocked when I walked in there and they all started congratulating me. She also told one of her OOS friends who I don't know.

That said, no one told family members or friends who we regularly communicate with.

Re: Keeping it a secret...did your family do it?

Yes!!!! Despite many desperate calls from them begging me to allow them to tell someone, I don't think they ever did until I OKed it. We only told our immediate families that early.

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My family did

My MIL did not. I will never forgive her. She told everyone. The entire family, the employees at the supermarket I worked at for six years. The women that work at the nail salon I go to.

All of these people knew before my brother did. I did not get to tell anyone on my own, I cried about it a lot and I try not to think about it but I will never forget it.

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Nope. All of them pretty much blabbed.

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We told our parents and siblings right away and they all kept it a secret until we told everyone on Christmas!

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I wouldn't trust DH's side, but I was surprised that my mom went to a family brunch the other day and didn't tell anyone (her sister, brother, etc) b/c I didn't tell her that she could.

I knew she was good with secrets, but I didn't think she could hold this one in.

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It wasn't easy for them but all of them kept the secret, they didn't want to ruin our news and the opportunity for us to tell people at our own pace. DH's grandma was actually surprised that MIL didn't give any hints away at all.

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the only person I told before 12 weeks was my mom and she only told my dad. The 2 of them kept it a secret from even my sisters, which was really difficult. I would NOT have told MIL until I was ready for everyone to know. Good thing too because when I DID tell her (around 12/13 wks), suddenly everybody in Dh's family knew. lol.

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Yes they were able to keep the secret. That in and of itself was more shocking than the actual pregnancy.

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My family hasn't kept it a secret.. they've admitted to telling a few friends and other family members (they live OOS, so its not people i regularly see, so i guess i'm not as mad as i should be)

My in-laws will definitely not tell anyone until 12 weeks, they're very superstitious

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My parents kept the secret.

MIL did NOT. Still upset.

My advice - if you think they MAY tell, then keep your secret.

Re: Keeping it a secret...did your family do it?

My family did. I don't think my in-laws did but they live all the way in TX and they likely just told their friends down there that I don't really know so it did not bother me too badly.

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Luckily both sides respected our wishes and kept it a secret.

Once we gave them the OK it spread like wildfireee LOLLL

Re: Keeping it a secret...did your family do it?

Yes we told my Mom, Dad and sister at 8 weeks and they kept the secret for over a month before we told the rest of the family after 12 weeks. Every day my Mom would ask "can I tell yet?" She was so excited to tell her sisters and her friends.

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Our families have, though it is killing them. DH not so much. He is still telling people. And the annoying thing is he is telling people that I am friends with their wives, and I haven't told their wives. He doesn't get it, and he is excited so I'll give him that. But it is annoying. Someone asks him what's up and that's his response! Really!!!

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Yes, amazingly. But I had to call my brother the second I came out to facebook and then him and my mother updated their status within a minute