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jennarose023
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DreamsofBaby
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Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I had kids at my shower but only immediate family (nieces). We did not extend the invite for cousins or friends to bring their children bc it just would have been too many kids.
ETA: we did not have my nephews come. It was girls only 
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babyvontheway
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
This is really a personal preference but from my standpoint kids don't belong at any shower (baby, bridal etc).
My friend is having a shower this weekend and it clearly states on the invite no children.
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| Posted 8/24/12 12:19 PM |
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alli3131
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Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
We did not have kids at mine and I really didn't want them there. If soem one called and said they had no one to watch their DC then I would have made an exception but not an all out invite because it would have made the event to big.
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AngnShaun
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Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
In my family there are always kids at baby/bridal showers
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| Posted 8/24/12 12:23 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I said other because I'm on the fence. I can see bringing a small baby if it would be hard to have mom away for too long or a little girl who's old enough to sit quietly and would enjoy it. Any child who would be bouncing off the walls, misbehaving or causing a disturbance shouldn't be there IMO. The day is about the Mother-to-Be and I don't think rowdy kids should take away from that.
I didn't invite kids to mine (I just felt it would get complicated, where do you draw the line, etc) but I had 2 people bring their daughters who were in the 7-10 year old range. They were no problem to have and I think they enjoyed it.
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NervousNell
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Posted by alli3131
We did not have kids at mine and I really didn't want them there. If soem one called and said they had no one to watch their DC then I would have made an exception but not an all out invite because it would have made the event to big.
I agree.
A baby in the mother's arms- fine.
But there is also cost to consider and I didn't want my family to have to pay for everyone's kids.
It's totally up to the hosts and the guest of honor.
There is no right or wrong answer IMO
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moonmist09
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Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
i can understand not having kids at a bridal shower, but every single baby shower i have gone to, kids were allowed. I can understand not inviting the kids for everyone, maybe just allowing immediate family and not friends, but i have never seen the issue with having kids at a shower.
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ModDot
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Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I did not have kids at my bridal shower. Honestly I'm not a fan of having kids invited to anything in which I am paying for food, etc. My sister got married and her ILs insisted on letting kids come, all they did was disrupt, tear open presents make noise and run around. Not really fun for everyone.
*ETA that it wasn't for lack of trying to contain them, but they were bored and the few coloring books etc we tried to provide didn't do it. They wanted attention
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jennarose023
Jack's gonna be a big brother!
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Jenna
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wo0shply
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I did not want children at my baby shower because we were having it at a restaurant and we were paying per head, we needed to keep costs down but i had my niece there because her mom had no one to watch her.
I dont think children should be at showers because its an adult event but that JMO
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| Posted 8/24/12 12:32 PM |
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drwifettc
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Posted by AngnShaun
In my family there are always kids at baby/bridal showers
Same here, Until I started posting here I never realized that it was done any other way. When the kids get older (over 5 it's usually then only girl kids, but up until that point all the kids that parents want to bring them can come).
That said, I much prefer going to the shower sans a 16 month old. It's easier for me, but my family would find it odd if I didn't bring her.
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Strawberry2468
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I prefer no children at showers. None of my friends bring their kids because they want to relax.
If it's a baby and you have no babysitter then ok but its typically an adult party. Your friend might be telling you no to avoid issues with others who want to bring their kids. Especially if those kids behave badly because their parents let them run amuck and "help" open gifts and run around.
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TheDivineMrsM
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
It's the mom-to-be's call (or host, if it's a surprise). If she's ok with kids, then bring them. If not, find a sitter and enjoy a few hours of adult conversation. JMO.
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BriBri2u
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I personally don't think kids belong at any shower.
When I had my baby shower, some members on DH's side rsvp'd with their children even though it was clearly stated they weren't invited.
When they said that they HAD to bring them because they had no other arrangements, I had to open it up to everyone at that point.
There were 20 something kids at my baby shower, running around, crying, opening presents, taking things out of gift bags - while their mothers chatted and drank wine.
I couldn't wait for it to end.
My take is if you can't make other arrangements for your children to be watched then you say no.
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| Posted 8/24/12 12:55 PM |
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Strawberry2468
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Also, it's not always about paying for a kids plate. They can be over booked with guests and not have room at tables or have a restaurant with tight space where there is no room for strollers or kids to run around.
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| Posted 8/24/12 12:57 PM |
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ARIELSMOM
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
i think it really depends on the atmosphere & budget. I dont think its crazy when kids arent invited, im sure the person putting the shower together had a good reason for not inviting children.
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| Posted 8/24/12 12:59 PM |
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Googlybear
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
i have one coming up and asked the hostess if i could bring my son. Didnt assume that i could, but most times, you can bring kids to a baby shower, not so much bridal showers or weddings.
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Waste06
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Posted by BriBri2u
There were 20 something kids at my baby shower, running around, crying, opening presents, taking things out of gift bags - while their mothers chatted and drank wine.
I couldn't wait for it to end.
That sounds horrible! 
I said yes to kids in the poll, but mostly because I had a small shower and I told those with kids that they could bring them if they wanted. I only had 2 kids actually come.
We actually had less than the minimum requirement for the room, so we paid for more heads than we had. So kids were no problem.
I could see it becoming an issue when there are 20 kids, and even paying half price for them could get costly!
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jessw
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I didn't have any children at mine but its only cause my friends and sister who have little ones wanted a fews hours alone otherwise I wouldn't have minded.
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ndblovah
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Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
I personally think it's a preference to the mommy to be and hosts of the shower. Most of the showers I've been to, no kids were there as they were adult parties celebrating the mommy or bride to be. When I've gone to a shower with kids attending, it's been pure chaos.
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caps612
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Any shower I have been to is no children unless they are immediate family and/or in the bridal party for a bridal shower. For my bridal shower, my 2 nieces were there and they will be there for my baby shower. But they are my immediate family. Other family and friends understand this.
If everyone was invited with children, there would be about 20-30 children there, I just don't think that is appropriate nor fair to the host to have to pay for all those extra people.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Posted by drwifettc
Posted by AngnShaun
In my family there are always kids at baby/bridal showers
Same here, Until I started posting here I never realized that it was done any other way. When the kids get older (over 5 it's usually then only girl kids, but up until that point all the kids that parents want to bring them can come).
That said, I much prefer going to the shower sans a 16 month old. It's easier for me, but my family would find it odd if I didn't bring her.
I just wanted to add, this is only family members... my friends are not invited with their kids unless its an infant.
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Strawberry2468
It's summatime
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Posted by BriBri2u
I personally don't think kids belong at any shower.
When I had my baby shower, some members on DH's side rsvp'd with their children even though it was clearly stated they weren't invited.
When they said that they HAD to bring them because they had no other arrangements, I had to open it up to everyone at that point.
There were 20 something kids at my baby shower, running around, crying, opening presents, taking things out of gift bags - while their mothers chatted and drank wine.
I couldn't wait for it to end.
My take is if you can't make other arrangements for your children to be watched then you say no.
I don't get why you would even want to bring your kids if you don't even plan to BE with them and let just them run around like maniacs 
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gdubs
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Re: Kids at a Baby Shower...with poll
Posted by babyvontheway
This is really a personal preference but from my standpoint kids don't belong at any shower (baby, bridal etc).
I agree, I just can't see expecting the hosts to have to pay to feed everyone's kids as well. And then where do you draw the line? If we allowed kids at my shower it would add another 20+ to the headcount.
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