Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

Personally, I do think its rude to ask children who are part of your childs family to not come visit.

Your baby will not be "fully vaccinated" until he/she is over a year old. Unless you plan to keep your baby in a bubble, then taking him/her ANYWHERE puts him/her at risk for getting germs.

The world is a germy place. I understand asking people to wash their hands, but to not visit at all, yes, IMO, is rude.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

I would limit little kids around him in the beginning.

DS was born January 19th. There were no children in our house until April. In fact, my SIL and friends even told me "I will come alone and leave the kids at home, do not want DS to get sick".

I was paranoid and this was before swine flu. But, DS did not get sick at all (not even a cold) until he was 9 months old.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

I would absolutely not have kids around him if your not comfortable DD will be born in feb and me and my DH will not allow kids around her (besides DS of course) for a good 4-6 weeks, esp b/c that's right in the middle of flu season. Yes I will have to pickDS up from daycare with her, once I can drive (I have no one else to do it), but that will be the extent of it. My DS was sick 1 week after I gave birth, with a fever of 102 b/c so many people (adults, not kids) held him in the hospital and came to visit and as you know he was an end of June baby. After that for the rest of the summer we didnt go to a lot of outings and if we did go, only immediate family held him. Luckily our family totally understands (even the ones with kids) so I know it wont be an issue. My close friend just had a baby 3 days ago and without her even asking, I told her that I wont being my DS around her DS until she is ready. I would hate for him to have something and give it to a newborn

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I personally don't think it's rude at all. The way I see it is how could people NOT understand. I know I totally would. Then again, my family tends to not get offended easily.

I would not take offense to someone innocently protecting their baby. Also, like you said, with all the swine flu hype, who could blame you?

ETS: I know some people said that your son will bring home germs, etc. which is true, but you would still be limiting the amount of germs by not allowing other children around the baby.

Message edited 10/3/2009 3:35:34 PM.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

I don't think its rude at all. Josh's first week, he was exposed to scarlet fever, impetagio, stomach flu, and colds by his cousins.

I put my foot down immediately and held him prisoner.

So many told me with #2 I will feel differently. Yes, completely different...having a sick congested kid is a pita. people bring sick kids out all the time. i hate being kept in due to sick babies...dr appts, sucking boogies out of little noses.

i think you are being reasonable.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

I know what you mean but in honestly i could never tell anyone not to have their kids around my newborn. When my kids were newborns they were always sleeping in the bassinet or swing and never did any kids ever touch them or wake them up. Its not like the kids will pick up the newborn and even if they want to kiss the baby - we always let them kiss them on the foot etc...

I wouldn't worry too much about all the media hype - whats meant to be will be, years ago there were no vaccinations, no one ever went to the doctor and somehow people managed to survive.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

Posted by AnnBrunoXO

I wouldn't worry too much about all the media hype - whats meant to be will be, years ago there were no vaccinations, no one ever went to the doctor and somehow people managed to survive.

Message edited 10/3/2009 10:26:37 PM.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

I could tell ANYONE to stay away from my my newborn child. I've told adults to do it and if they didn't like it, too damn bad.

Abby was a NICU baby. I have nieces and nephews of school age who were NOT permitted to visit their new cousin in that unit because of the POSSIBILITY that they were carrying something to pass along to either her or any other baby. There are reasons for that. Frankly, I'd rather be a little bit cautious in the beginning.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

You do what you feel is right....

I personally would not have the children come around. there is too much to risk.....

I have done it- and the parents of the kids totally understood...

School = germs...

Less than 2 months of life and sick = hospital and spinal tap... no thank you.
...that is something that I do not want to invite.

good luck

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn

Thanks everyone! I've already spoken to some people on my side, and some on my husbands side -- so far everyone completely understood where I was coming from.

I hope the rest of the family sees it also. I gave it alot of thought, and one month-6 weeks is going to mean nothing to my nieces and nephews - but it could mean alot if this little guy gets sick. It's not worth it to me.

Re: Letting other kids around a newborn