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Mama2Max
LIF Infant
Member since 3/12 228 total posts
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Jes
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I'm sorry for your loss - I often wonder what I would do if anything happened to my mom because of all the help she provides me. Your mom was also so young - that must have been such a shock! Give yourself the space to grieve and cry - even if you have to cry with the babies, they'll be okay. Lots of hugs 
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Stop and smell the flowers
Member since 7/06 1538 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
So sorry for your loss. Let yourself grieve, kids are so resilient, they will be fine if mommy has some rough days. 
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| Posted 8/3/12 3:24 PM |
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AugustMom
LIF Adolescent
Member since 5/11 743 total posts
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Christine
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Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am very sorry for your loss
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| Posted 8/3/12 3:30 PM |
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SummerMom
Now a mom of 2!
Member since 6/07 4970 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I'm so sorry. I lost my mom a few years ago and for the couple of weeks following, it was hard for me to do anything. I remember having to go to the bank (2 minutes away) to deposit a check, and by the time I got back to my car, I was literally out of breath.
Grief takes a real physical toll on your body. Don't be afraid to let it happen. It's going to happen regardless. You will be surprised at how many people will come out of the woodwork to offer support - lean on them. Let them do errands for you. Don't try to cook or clean. It's seriously like after childbirth - you need to rest as much as possible and gather your strength before you carry on. For me, it took about a week and a half before I could do anything physical again. My sister took a little longer, I think. Neither of us had children, though.
Right now looking at your children makes you sad because they remind you of your mom. Time will pass, and eventually you'll see that reminder as something positive. It takes a LONG time. I know everyone says this and it sounds so cliche, but it does get better. It will get easier. I'm so sorry for you and wish you the best as you go through this.
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| Posted 8/3/12 3:34 PM |
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LoveMyHubby605
Our April Baby is here!
Member since 4/11 2418 total posts
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A
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
i am so, so sorry
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| Posted 8/3/12 3:44 PM |
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MichLiz213
Life is Good!
Member since 7/07 7979 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so sorry for your loss.
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| Posted 8/3/12 4:35 PM |
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LulaBell
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Member since 1/06 3508 total posts
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J
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Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers .
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| Posted 8/3/12 5:07 PM |
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FlowerWife
Positive Vibrations...
Member since 1/08 8423 total posts
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Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
oh man thats a tough situation, i am just so soooo sorry for your loss 
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| Posted 8/3/12 5:09 PM |
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bonch20
LIF Adult
Member since 9/09 1290 total posts
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Bonnie
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my dad unexpectedly in 2009. We woke up that morning to close on our house and got the call just as we were finishing up paperwork. He never met my DD and I still cry thinking about how stubborn he was about a very treatable infection. I wish I could help take your pain away, but all I can say is to use your support system...your friends or family that you trust are there for you! Please FM me if you ever want to talk!
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| Posted 8/3/12 5:50 PM |
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TessMike214
Gabriella Aubrey born 3/26!
Member since 5/10 2440 total posts
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Tess
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so sorry for your loss
My Mom lost her Mom when she was only 30 years old with 3 young kids & said that focusing on her kids helped her get through it. It's very tragic what has happened to you & your family, my heart & prayers go out to you
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| Posted 8/3/12 6:03 PM |
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pnbplus1
Family
Member since 5/09 5751 total posts
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Mommy
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through. Just take it 5 minutes at a time (literally, just aim for 5, then the next 5 etc), cry if you need to, talk to those around you, etc. Hopefully soon the pain will begin to pass and you'll be able to share with your DS' your wonderful memories of your mom
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| Posted 8/3/12 6:43 PM |
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miabella
LIF Adolescent
Member since 11/10 507 total posts
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jessica
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I feel your pain ...my heart goes out to you and your family at this time......last June i was 8 months preg my dd was due july 27 ....she arrived June 20 th. ...july 21 one month and one day after dd was born my father died from a heart attack...i masked my feelings around my dd who was s o little at the time ....they say time heals wounds n hearts ...our yr mark has past n i still break down n cry at times. My dd was born early and healthy i thank god my father was able to meet his first grandchild if only for a month ....if you ever want to talk or just vent fm anytime i doth go on every day but i would be more then happy to be a person out of your fam if you need to vent about things.
Again i am so sorry for your loss 
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| Posted 8/3/12 6:54 PM |
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apwmjc
Love my little man
Member since 12/10 1901 total posts
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Amy
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
So sorry for your loss
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| Posted 8/3/12 7:33 PM |
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KPanas
LIF Adult
Member since 10/09 1691 total posts
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Kathy
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Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine the pain you must be feeling right now. Just allow yourself time to grieve and take it one day at a time
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| Posted 8/3/12 7:59 PM |
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CallaLily
Thank you, Saint Gerard!
Member since 10/07 4937 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I don't even know what to say because my heart is breaking for you. I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I can't even imagine the hell you must be living right now. You and your family are in my prayers.
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| Posted 8/3/12 8:55 PM |
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Wishing4ababy
My life is complete!
Member since 1/07 2494 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine your heartache.
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| Posted 8/3/12 8:57 PM |
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ME75
Member since 10/06 4563 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I just want to send you I am so very very sorry for your loss and pain. I know i don't know you, but i am praying for you. many many 
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| Posted 8/3/12 9:35 PM |
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Goobster
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Member since 5/07 27557 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so so sorry for you and the loss of your mom. She sounds like she was such a great mom on so many levels. I can't imagine the pain you must feel.
I don't know what else to offer you other than .
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| Posted 8/3/12 10:25 PM |
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MichaelsMommy
Love my son!
Member since 6/05 1468 total posts
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Lauren
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Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so sorry for your loss of your mom :(
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| Posted 8/3/12 10:37 PM |
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yankinmanc
Happy Days!
Member since 8/05 18208 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so sorry for your loss. Please ask for help if you need it. Good luck.
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| Posted 8/3/12 10:37 PM |
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cj7305
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Member since 8/05 12296 total posts
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I'm so sorry and can't imagine the pain you are in.
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| Posted 8/4/12 8:58 AM |
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spa118
LIF Adult
Member since 3/09 2157 total posts
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Shari
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so, so, so very sorry for your loss.
I know first hand what it is like to lose a parent unexpectedly. My father passed away of a sudden heart attack 11 months before my wedding. He was 59 and in perfect health. We were also incredibly close.
The shock and the grief was overwhelming. I didn't have any children yet, but my sister did have my nephew.
She said having to take care of him helped her pull herself together, and she actually dealt with his loss better than I did.
I cannot imagine taking care of two infants in the state I was in, so please be very, very proud of yourself. Take care of yourself and find people to help you out when you need a break. I know your mom was the one to do this, but you need to find a friend or babysitter to give you some time to take care of yourself. To let yourself grieve.
I really recommend therapy. I waited many months before I went, and that was a mistake. I wish I had gone sooner because it helped a lot.
I can tell you, as cliche as this sounds, it does get easier.
I am so sorry for your loss. My heart truly goes out to you. Please feel free to FM me any time if you need to talk.
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| Posted 8/4/12 9:52 PM |
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Alexandra17
Keep It Positive
Member since 4/09 6262 total posts
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Alexandra (ali)
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
I am so very sorry for your loss
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| Posted 8/4/12 9:56 PM |
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luckyinlove
I love my baby girls!
Member since 12/06 2441 total posts
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Lauren
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Re: Losing a parent and taking care of LOs
So sorry for your loss!
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| Posted 8/4/12 9:56 PM |
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