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MrsERod
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by BrunetteMom
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by Mommyof2
Ok, let's say he is in a relationship, got drunk and kissed a female friend, but says it meant nothing. Would you believe him?
Nope.
Nope here too.
I always say "A drunk man's actions/words are a sober man's thoughts"
ditto!!!!
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itsbabytime
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Hmmm....honestly, having grown up with a number of male friends sometimes you never know what motivates them! I think it is easy for us married girls to get bothered by this question but, I do think that a guy can kiss a girl and have NO interest in her whatsoever...it can come from a NUMBER of places....unhappiness, insecurity, fear, etc etc. OFCOURSE if he is MARRIED that is a different story!
ETA: Just want to clarify by saying it can NOT mean anything I didn't mean not mean anything per se, just not mean anything with respect to the other girl/female friend. of course it means there is something going on within him or in his relationship but it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the other girl IMO...
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Jesaroo
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
A kiss.......... if alcohol is involved it could DEFINATLY mean nothing.
i just kissed a friend the other day and it didnt mean anything. (and yes, dh knows, he was right next to me when i did it)
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| Posted 5/24/06 11:20 AM |
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Tany
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
a kiss is a kiss no matter what.
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| Posted 5/24/06 11:40 AM |
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skew
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
i guess i am in the minority as i believe there is such a thing as a meaningless kiss (attached/unattached, guy or girl)
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JenniferEver
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Of course it can be meaningless.
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Stacey1403
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by BrunetteMom
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by Mommyof2
Ok, let's say he is in a relationship, got drunk and kissed a female friend, but says it meant nothing. Would you believe him?
Nope.
Nope here too.
I always say "A drunk man's actions/words are a sober man's thoughts"
I totally agree with this!!
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Mommyof2
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
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BrunetteMom
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
I'd have to separate from my husband. To me, that's infidelity.
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baghag
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by BrunetteMom
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
I'd have to separate from my husband. To me, that's infidelity.
Exactly.
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Tany
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
I would take a break from the relationship and really talk it out to see where are you both in the relationship.
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MrsERod
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by baghag
Posted by BrunetteMom
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
I'd have to separate from my husband. To me, that's infidelity.
Exactly.
totally agree!!
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JenniferEver
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
That's a completely different story.
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Liz
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by MrsERod
Posted by baghag
Posted by BrunetteMom
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
I'd have to separate from my husband. To me, that's infidelity.
Exactly.
totally agree!!
I agree too!
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Ambersmom
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by baghag
Posted by BrunetteMom
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
I'd have to separate from my husband. To me, that's infidelity.
Exactly.
Here-here...
I guess that innocent kiss could lead to some harmless sleeping around too? Sorry, but that excuse would never float for me.
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maybebaby
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
How could "full on frenching" ever be innocent or meaningless? People don't just intertwine tongues for fun. Not in my world! If i ever saw DH kiss another girl , even just on the lips as a peck he'd have my foot up his a**.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by Mommyof2
If this was your husband and he decided not to tell you. But you found out later from that same female friend, who is also a friend of yours and both claim it was innocent, what would you do?
And I'm talking full-on frenching.
Well, our marriage would be in serious trouble and in serious need of work. I wouldn't immediately divorce over this alone, but it will bring up lots of other issues (trust, what was going wrong in the marriage to contribute to this in the first place, etc) that will need to be worked on for a long long time in order to save the marriage.
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itsbabytime
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Before I could answer the question I would want to know...when did the kiss happen, when he was married or before? Was the female friend married? Was the female friend your friend then? ANd, finally how did you find out and how long ago did it happen.
Of all the above, the most important thing to me would be (1) whether he was married to me at the time or whether this happened before we were married and (2) how i found out about it and how long after.
Hope this helps 
ETA: Sorry I just re-read and see it was the friend that told...
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smdl
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
I would also question why the friend feels the need to tell you.
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Ambersmom
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by smdl
I would also question why the friend feels the need to tell you.
That's what I was thinking...
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Giannas-mama
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
For me the trust would be gone...and once the trust is gone so is the relationship. I would wonder everytime he went out and I would always wonder every time he and my "friend" were together. To me that is no way to live
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lululu
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
I have to say if your "friend" told you this she is no friend. It seems to me that she might have been the one to initiate the kiss, and now she is telling you to try to start problems with you and your husband. I would lose your friend fast and get yourself and your husband into couples therapy.....
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itsbabytime
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
I disagree. I actually think it would be even worse if your friend NEVER told you.
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lululu
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
Posted by itsbabytime
I disagree. I actually think it would be even worse if your friend NEVER told you.
I actually didnt think of it that way - but i think that the friend should have encouraged the husband to tell, instead of going directly to her with the information. If the husband refused, then she should have told.
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nov04libride
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Re: Meaningless Kissing?
If this is about you, was it before or after you got married last month? I would be pis sed either way, but would not leave him if it was before the wedding. I would if it was after.
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