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ml110
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by Red
Did you get a response to this?
I deceided not to send it - next time she thanks us profusely, which will be PAssover, I'll respond more directly and in a non harsh tone and hopefully sh'll get the message
I'm glad you didn't sent this also.... it probably would have caused problems, and life is to short to haev problems over something thats so minor.
ALTHOUGH i totally understand where you're coming from! my MIL lives across the street frmo my work and so she watches the dog sometimes for us so he doesn't have to go in hi crate all day... and SHE thanks US for bringing him over!! 
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nixy
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by MrsPorkChop
Posted by leighla
Like I said in my previous post. It sounds crazy to anyone that's not experiencing it, but it can be MADDENING to have every little thing you do be blown up to something huge and make you feel like it's just not sincere.
i TOTALLY agree. Though i do think the email you sent was impolite and can cause trouble i know that maddening feeling.
Message edited 3/8/2007 11:59:55 AM.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: MIL related...and its long
I think it's nice that she thanks you for the little things, whether it's warranted or not.
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| Posted 3/7/07 12:14 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: MIL related...and its long
yeah thank her ten times for having you over for dinner. Maybe that will give her the hint?
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| Posted 3/7/07 12:17 PM |
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Red
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by dm24angel
yeah thank her ten times for having you over for dinner. Maybe that will give her the hint?
I don't hink that one will work - she'll start thanking me nore and more....
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| Posted 3/7/07 12:20 PM |
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Red
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by lululu
I can completely understand where you are coming from. It's not her place to thank you - you didnt do anything for her - but she makes it about her by thanking you.....
However - I wouldnt send that response. It will just hurt her feelings and while what she is doing is so annoying, she will never get it. dont even bother.
you're right - its not her place to thank us, and I think thats what bothers me
I guess I was trying to get her where she would notice that we were annoyed
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| Posted 3/7/07 12:22 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: MIL related...and its long
I can't 150% understand why you're annyoed. - it's not about her 'being polite' and thaking you - It's about her being passive/agressive and making something "all about her" when it's not about her at all ..........
HOWEVER, when dealing with a person like this, a retort like the one you posted ONLY makes you look like an argumentative beotch ....(i'm NOT saying you are at all, but with someone like that, you can't be so direct with your response) Throw her passive/agressive 'ness' back at her with "oh it's not necessary to Thank us, we WANT to be her for so and so "
That way, you have the satisfaction of sticking it to her that it's NOT about her, yet you are being just as 'sweet and polite' as she is .......
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| Posted 3/7/07 12:31 PM |
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rose825
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by leighla
Your MIL and my MIL must be clones.
She does the same thing to me and when I complain about it to other people they think I'm nuts.
It sounds so strange to complain about someone thanking you too much, but it's so annoying to deal with in the moment.
I would probably rephrase the sentance a little:
"Please understand that you don't have to thank us repeatedly every time we go somewhere - if we we make the decision to go somewhere, we're doing it because we want to be there. I appreciate the thought behind it, but it's not necessary."
A little less harsh. 
great advice Lauren. ITA!!
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jes81276
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by ~Colleen~
I personally wouldn't send that response - I think it's a little harsh. I'm sure the redundant thanking is annoying but honestly, if that's the worst of it I would let it slide.
This is a battle I would walk away from.
I agree 100% - I would be hurt if I got a reply like that.
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mrswask
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by ~Colleen~
I personally wouldn't send that response - I think it's a little harsh. I'm sure the redundant thanking is annoying but honestly, if that's the worst of it I would let it slide.
This is a battle I would walk away from.
I agree - IMO, it's a rude response and will only create hurt feelings and problems. If this is the worst you have to deal with in-laws, count your blessings!
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Re: MIL related...and its long
my mom does this a lot. she thanks us for absolutely nothing and keeps saying that it's not fair that we do things for others and she continually feels like we should be thanked over and over.
I tell her to stop. She stops and then it continues.
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| Posted 3/7/07 5:06 PM |
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preciouslove
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Re: MIL related...and its long
I would just brush it off. Believe me there are some Mother in laws who wouldn't even say thank you. I've heard some real horror stories about people's MIL's. I don't think this is a big deal.
My MIL is a sweetheart but there are little things that annoy me and DH as well. Like she always has to announce the little things people are doing. Like for example if say DH were eating a piece of cake she'd be like "awe look at Robert eating that big piece of cake". She says it as if DH is a 1 year old having cake for the first time... And she always says "my" when speaking of a family member. Like if she is talking about DS she'll say "my Matthew" she does it with her children and Grandchildren. Everytime she sends DS a greeting card she always writes on the envelope "Master Matthew (and then the last name) Master??? I feel like i'm part of some rich royal british family whenever she sends a card and writes that. DH always jokes and says "she don't call me Master when she sends me a card"...LOL
Sometimes these little things annoy us yes but we just laugh about it afterwards. And everytime she says "awe look at....(etc.) we just laugh it off...
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MsG
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Re: MIL related...and its long
Posted by mrswask
Posted by ~Colleen~
I personally wouldn't send that response - I think it's a little harsh. I'm sure the redundant thanking is annoying but honestly, if that's the worst of it I would let it slide.
This is a battle I would walk away from.
I agree - IMO, it's a rude response and will only create hurt feelings and problems. If this is the worst you have to deal with in-laws, count your blessings!
I agree.
Also, in my family anyway, there are some people in my generation who rarely do family things - so my older relatives are really happy/grateful when they do make time to celebrate a birthday or any occasion.
I think it's nice that she says thank you; it's better than getting guilt when you don't go to every family GTG.
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dooodles
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Re: MIL related...and its long
While I don't have to deal with this issue with my MIL - I am sure it can become a bit grating after awhile. I know I cannot keep my mouth shut and am normally walking around with it in my mouth (maybe I should just put it there permanently) but I know I would say something or have DH say something in person next time it happens of course gently. And guess what, she'll probably still continue to say thank you if you say something each and every time!
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itsbabytime
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Re: MIL related...and its long
I can understand this from a different point of view. My MIL does this as well and it annoys me because I know that she is really just hinting at the fact that we don't get to see DH's family a lot because they live a distance so its almost as if she is being a bit insincere - like thank you for actually coming. And it makes me feel like she is trying to butter me up because she thinks it is my fault that we do not see them that often when it isn't at all.
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