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MrsKS
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Re: MIL says we should wait?
aww that does stink! esp when you lay it all out like that. But you can share the excitement with your family and wait to tell his. Honestly it's his family that would be missing out on the excitement and knowing sooner.... and the only people they can blame for that is themselves. It's the price they pay for being sucky!!
When we told my mom she was VERY excited and very into it. His parents were like... "Oh congrats... can you pass the mashed potatoes.... kerri when are you getting a license?" Literally. non chalant and within the first 3 minutes they starting grilling me about a drivers license. I live in Queens and work in Manhattan and don't have a car. We don't need the extra bill right now (DH has a car and drives) and when would I use it?? Plus what the hell does that have to do with a congratulations?!?!?!?!? Not the proper time!! Who wants to be a 9 month pregger and a new driver? or a new driver with an infant?? Totally getting side tracked here and I could say more but I will stop! haha!! Point is..... stick to the positive people and avoid the negative ones.
Oh and plus I'll bet that when they do see the baby they will change their tune quickly!!!!
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starlight
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Re: MIL says we should wait?
im going throught the same stuff and more..im having difficulty moving in with my in laws but they won't give us any privacy and are pushing a baby and yes we want one and we are trying but my body obviously isn't willing and it doesn't help that they both keep pushing for it!
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xosweetiexo
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Re: MIL says we should wait?
aww that does stink! esp when you lay it all out like that. But you can share the excitement with your family and wait to tell his. Honestly it's his family that would be missing out on the excitement and knowing sooner.... and the only people they can blame for that is themselves. It's the price they pay for being sucky!!
When we told my mom she was VERY excited and very into it. His parents were like... "Oh congrats... can you pass the mashed potatoes.... kerri when are you getting a license?" Literally. non chalant and within the first 3 minutes they starting grilling me about a drivers license. I live in Queens and work in Manhattan and don't have a car. We don't need the extra bill right now (DH has a car and drives) and when would I use it?? Plus what the hell does that have to do with a congratulations?!?!?!?!? Not the proper time!! Who wants to be a 9 month pregger and a new driver? or a new driver with an infant?? Totally getting side tracked here and I could say more but I will stop! haha!! Point is..... stick to the positive people and avoid the negative ones.
Oh and plus I'll bet that when they do see the baby they will change their tune quickly!!!!
OMG they did that??? Geez!!!! Way to just knock to wind out of you huh? Whatever! Im so sick of people just nitpicking and instead of being happy...bring out negativity. Im so sorry Do you think maybe its like a "son" thing and that they think we are taking away their boys eventhough we are already married to them?? lol!!! How come OUR parent would be crazy excited...but it seems like its our DH's family that has issues
Oh well, like you said either way it would be their loss because if I get pregnant Im going to wait longer to tell them just in case because I dont want to hear it. 
You're right though- 9 months pregnant is not the time to learn how to drive and have a baby in the car. It def. takes getting used to and people drive like idiots!!! I would def. try to learn after at some point just in case of an emergency. You do whats right for you
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xosweetiexo
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Re: MIL says we should wait?
Posted by starlight
im going throught the same stuff and more..im having difficulty moving in with my in laws but they won't give us any privacy and are pushing a baby and yes we want one and we are trying but my body obviously isn't willing and it doesn't help that they both keep pushing for it!
Awwwwwww Im so sorry They need to know that the pressure def. doesnt help! I hate when my mother asks me "well??? are you pregnant yet??" then I say no... I almost feel like she is disappointed and basically keeps telling me that my biological clock is ticking
Its tough living with the in laws but they really need to give you privacy because its only going to cause more problems. Did DH try talking to them about it? If it comes from him and he makes it clear that he just wants more privacy bc hes married and everything maybe they'd back off a bit?
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MrsKS
Thank You St. Gerard.....
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Re: MIL says we should wait?
Posted by xosweetiexo
aww that does stink! esp when you lay it all out like that. But you can share the excitement with your family and wait to tell his. Honestly it's his family that would be missing out on the excitement and knowing sooner.... and the only people they can blame for that is themselves. It's the price they pay for being sucky!!
When we told my mom she was VERY excited and very into it. His parents were like... "Oh congrats... can you pass the mashed potatoes.... kerri when are you getting a license?" Literally. non chalant and within the first 3 minutes they starting grilling me about a drivers license. I live in Queens and work in Manhattan and don't have a car. We don't need the extra bill right now (DH has a car and drives) and when would I use it?? Plus what the hell does that have to do with a congratulations?!?!?!?!? Not the proper time!! Who wants to be a 9 month pregger and a new driver? or a new driver with an infant?? Totally getting side tracked here and I could say more but I will stop! haha!! Point is..... stick to the positive people and avoid the negative ones.
Oh and plus I'll bet that when they do see the baby they will change their tune quickly!!!!
OMG they did that??? Geez!!!! Way to just knock to wind out of you huh? Whatever! Im so sick of people just nitpicking and instead of being happy...bring out negativity. Im so sorry Do you think maybe its like a "son" thing and that they think we are taking away their boys eventhough we are already married to them?? lol!!! How come OUR parent would be crazy excited...but it seems like its our DH's family that has issues
Oh well, like you said either way it would be their loss because if I get pregnant Im going to wait longer to tell them just in case because I dont want to hear it.
You're right though- 9 months pregnant is not the time to learn how to drive and have a baby in the car. It def. takes getting used to and people drive like idiots!!! I would def. try to learn after at some point just in case of an emergency. You do whats right for you
yea that was their overall reaction. But all in all I do think they are happy... it's just this is like their 30th grandchild! haha! not literally but they def have A LOT of grandkids so far. So for them the WOW factor might just be a little played out I guess. IDK.
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: MIL says we should wait?
My mom tells me the same thing. She's decided that since she had me at 30, that I'm also supposed to wait until 30.
Not TTC-ing yet, but probably will be sometime this year. I just tell her that when DH and I are ready, it's our decision.
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