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nferrandi
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
I think everyone age gap has its perks and it's drawbacks. I know for me, I would have lost my mind for sure to have 2 under 2. DS was/is just too demanding of a child. We started trying for #2 right before DS's 2nd bday. Unfortunately, or possibly fortunately, it took us 10 months to get pregnant. So our kids will be almost 3.5 years apart. I thikn it has actually worked out well. DS will be starting school and be into a routine before the new baby arrives. I tihnk if I had had the baby when initially planned, there would have been too many changes all at once for DS.
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nmp070106
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
mine are 25 months apart and it is hard, but any age difference is hard.
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| Posted 8/12/09 9:06 PM |
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debsey75
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
Mine are 11 months apart. This is exactly what we wanted. At first things were tough I wont lie. Having an 11 month old and a newborn was def. a difficult situation at 1st. But once we got pass the first few months things started getting better and better. Now, I would 110% do it all over again. They are like best friends. I love when they make each other laugh and smile. They entertain each other. Heck I want to TTC #3 now but we will wait a few more months.
I should add that my DH is very helpful. He does a lot for both kids which really makes things easier for me. 
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| Posted 8/12/09 9:24 PM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
My girls are 20 months apart - its totally manageable.
The beginning was hard, and its an adjustment - everyday is different, the girls fight then make up - the key to it all is patience but that is needed in everything you do in my opinion.
The girls will be one grade apart in school which I am very excited about and they have alot in common and play and interact with each other all the time.
If I had to do it again - I absolutely would!
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| Posted 8/12/09 9:31 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
Ithink that just going from 1 to 2 is overwhelming, regardless of the age difference.
Mine are 17 months apart- and I just love it.
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| Posted 8/12/09 10:06 PM |
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
Posted by SweetTooth
I think it would be very difficult to run after two toddlers and care for a newborn.
 This will be me come Sept....
Give me strength!!!!
To answer the OP, to each is own. There is no set answer. Every age gap; big or small, has it's pros and cons. You have to figure out what works best for you. If your urge to have another soon is strong then go for it. I am pretty sure you'll have no regrets.
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| Posted 8/12/09 10:15 PM |
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megsm3
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
So far so good. My oldest is 20 mos and the younger one is 4 mos. They are really starting to interact. The older one loves to help with her little sister and the little one just adores her big sister. I love that they will grow up together so close in age.
Life can be chaotic and going anywhere takes some careful maneuvering but I would imagine that to be true regardless of the gap in ages.
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| Posted 8/12/09 11:26 PM |
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EsquireFish
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
I can't speak from personal experience, because I haven't had kids myself yet, but I just wanted to let you know that sometimes large age gaps can be really good too. My sister and I are 7 1/2 years apart and it was a really smart move by my parents. We were never in competition for anything (by the time she was old enough to play with certain toys I was already outgrowing them),never in the same school at the same time (I started college and she was still in middle school -- and she happily stole my larger bedroom and I didn't care because I wasn't living there), never competed for friends or boys, and when she was born I was old enough to understand everything and not be jealous. In an odd way I became this hybrid of second-mom and friend, and we always loved spending time together. Even today, even though we are still at different stages in our lives (I am married, working, with a stepson) and she is still living it up at school, we still chat over facebook, text all the time, etc. and she tells me her friends are amazed at how close we are.
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browneyedgirl
family is all that matters
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
after babysitting a 4.5 year old with my one year old for an entire day, i'm SO glad mine will be only 16 months apart!! it was so hard with the 4.5 year old wanting and being able to do so much more than my son. my son wanted desperately to do what his friend was doing, but couldn't.
within a year to year and a half my 2 will be able to play together and will be similar in development. i'm very excited about that!
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| Posted 8/13/09 8:17 AM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
Posted by nrthshgrl
I don't think there is any set answer. I know it worked well for me & I wouldn't have it any other way.
Was it hard? In the beginning yes, but then like everything else you get into a groove. The transition from 1 to 2 was much easier for me than it was from 0 to 1.
So while I love the spacing of my kids (22 months apart), I would recommend it or advise others to space their kids out because it's all based on personalities of the mom, the dad & the dc.
ITA 100%
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| Posted 8/13/09 8:17 AM |
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2BEANS
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
Not impossible.. if I can do I think anyone can. 
Money is are only issue tho... I cant work FT bc daycare is too $$ and cant ask family to watch 2 babies so I can work. So Im only able to work days my DH is home from work. So this means DH and I only see each other at night for a few hours which is when were trying to get the girls washed up and down for bed. Then we pass out ourselves.
It was kinda tough the first few months bc my younger dd was very fussy and cried.. at time we didnt know it was the dairy allergy causing it. Now that we have her on formula that is dairy free .. shes a happy baby. So all is good.
Just took some adjustment but so did going from no kids to one. KWIM?
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
My 2 are 14.5 months apart and I gave myself daily pep talks that I wasn't going to let it be hard for me because I had no help or family around. It really wasn't bad at all. Looking back now that they are 2 & 3, that newborn stage through about 7 months (when the little one was mobile) was so easy.
They love each other and DS looks out for DD and doesn't like it when I give DD a time out if I have to or if I tell her no. But they fight almost all of the time.
It wasn't planned to have them that close. We wanted them closer to 2 years apart but, I think it worked out fine for for us. I would do it all over again with them. My second is a dream child. My first is good but DEMANDING but I know that goes along with the age.
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angnick
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Re: Moms of 2 under 2 - how hard is it? Would you recommend it to others or advise to space the kids out a bit more?
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I had 3 within 13 months (big sister then identical twins)!
Is it hard, a bit but once you get organized its not a problem. I have never left infant mode so things are still new and fresh in my mind.
All 3 are sleeping by 7:30 and the itty bitty ones wake up at 5:30 so I am lucky.
It would scare me more to have one baby then wait 3 years for a second. For me, I would get too use to a non-bottle, non-diaper life and it would be difficult for me to get back into it.
What works for some may not work for others.
ITA with this!
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