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EckoRed81504
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My friends an absolute moron....vent
First let me say- my friend is a great friend for the most part, but sometimes shes not the sharpest tool in the shed if you get my drift.
So I'm on a "business trip" I coach softball for a local college, and we're in NJ for a coaches clinic.
Anyway- her great aunt passed away the other day. She was 93. I apologized to her that I couldn't go to the wake because I was going to be away.
So today, in the middle of a clinic I got up to go to the bathroom. All of a sudden, I get a text from her. It was very Random. out of the blue --the texst says..
"It feels so wierd to be in this room"
I had no clue what she was talking about. So I text her back "what are you talking about"
she texts me back.."The room that Andrew was in"
aka her aunt is in the same room my best friend was in when we had his funeral....almost 4 years ago-But WHY IN GODS NAME WOULD YOU TEXT ME THAT????????
Seriously. Why? So basically she's telling me that it's wierd to be inthe room her 93 year old great aunt is in because her funeral is being held in the same room that my friend who got sucker punched and died was in.
I'm sorry, I'm just not cathcing the similarities.
Vent over
Message edited 1/26/2008 1:20:06 AM.
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
Maybe there's more to it b/c I don't see how that makes her a moron. Maybe being there again reminds her of your friend's funeral 
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| Posted 1/26/08 1:36 AM |
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EckoRed81504
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
It's just the fact that she knows how I feel about the whole thing, why would she text me about to bring it up again. She text my sister the same thing. I don't know. She does it to get a rise out of me. It gets me so mad. Grrrrr
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| Posted 1/26/08 1:50 AM |
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Shellyfj
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
It doesn't sound like she did anything wrong to me.
But you know her and her motives better than we do.
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| Posted 1/26/08 4:24 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I agree that on the surface, it doesn't seem strange for her to want to reach out to someone at a wake when it's bringing up other stuff. It sounds like she was trying to feel a bond with someone.
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| Posted 1/26/08 7:14 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I agree....maybe she was creeped out by being in the same room. Honestly, she probably hasn't been there since your friend died so it may have brought back bad memories and she needed to share it with someone she thought would understand.
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| Posted 1/26/08 7:21 AM |
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JenMarie
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
IMO, it sounds like she was just trying to reach out to a friend who would understand how it could feel, since you were close to the friend who died as well.
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| Posted 1/26/08 7:44 AM |
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dooodles
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I have had that experience and it is very creepy. I guess she was just reaching out to her friend while she had the willies. I don't think it's fair to call her an absolute moron over it
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I agree with the others. Do you have other issues with her that could be coming out instead related to this?
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| Posted 1/26/08 8:28 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
It sounds like your friend's death is a very sensitive issue for you, which is understandable. I don't find it unreasonable that while at her great aunt's funeral, in the same room, your girlfriend was having a difficult time and was wanted to reach out to you.
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| Posted 1/26/08 8:31 AM |
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EckoRed81504
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I would think that too, but of course theres more to her. A big story.
She didn't know my friend, she went to pay her respects of course which i love her for. But it ended there.
I know she meant well, but it just pisssed me off that she did it. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
I was venting. Sorry.
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| Posted 1/26/08 8:49 AM |
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mrswask
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
Posted by Gertyrae
I agree....maybe she was creeped out by being in the same room. Honestly, she probably hasn't been there since your friend died so it may have brought back bad memories and she needed to share it with someone she thought would understand.
I agree - seems a little harsh to call her a moron - but you obviously know her and we don't.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:06 AM |
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Emily
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
She is not a moron, it sounds like you need to confront your issues about your friend's death.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:18 AM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
Posted by Gertyrae
I agree....maybe she was creeped out by being in the same room. Honestly, she probably hasn't been there since your friend died so it may have brought back bad memories and she needed to share it with someone she thought would understand.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:25 AM |
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ml110
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
i agree with everyone else... it sounds like she was just reaching out to somebody because she was feeling creeped out and had bad memories coming up for her. i don't think theres anything unreasonable about that.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:49 AM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I'm sorry for your friend's aunts loss.. I think she was trying to reach out to you because 'MAYBE' she needed a friend to be there for her, sometimes when you grieve you dont think about
what you say at the time. I'm sure didn't mean to say that about your friend death being in the same room. I think you need to talk to her and tell her about how you felt when she bought that up,If she is a good friend i'm sure you both can work out your issues 'IF' there is any between the both of you, because the way your talking about her sounds like you're angry at her. I dont think she is an absolute Moron just a person who is dealing with her Aunt's death.I hope you both can work things out.
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| Posted 1/26/08 11:16 AM |
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mommy0604
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I don't think she's a moron. I think she was just trying to reach out to a friend.
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| Posted 1/26/08 1:35 PM |
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
I'm sorry this brought back painful memories for you. I'm sure that's where your anger is coming from, and also, like you said, that there is more to the story about this friend as well. I don't necessarily think she's a "moron," but I do think that you have your reasons for thinking that what she did was insensitive (even if it might not have been coming from a bad place, like everyone else has pointed out).
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| Posted 1/26/08 1:42 PM |
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rose825
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
are you upset because she feels that way or because she was texting during a funeral?
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JenniferEver
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
Posted by Stacey1403
Posted by Gertyrae
I agree....maybe she was creeped out by being in the same room. Honestly, she probably hasn't been there since your friend died so it may have brought back bad memories and she needed to share it with someone she thought would understand.
ITA
Yeah I've had the same experience. Being in the same room kind of brings it all back
ETA: Even if she didn't know your friend, it may still have affected her to see you so distraught and hear the story, etc. Maybe it wasn't the most sensitive thing to do to bring it up to you when you're travelling, but it seems like she was just reaching out
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
Posted by EckoRed81504
I would think that too, but of course theres more to her. A big story.
She didn't know my friend, she went to pay her respects of course which i love her for. But it ended there.
I know she meant well, but it just pisssed me off that she did it. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
I was venting. Sorry.
That is pretty weird. I have been to a couple funeral homes several times and it would never occur to me to remind someone of another's funeral.
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Holly
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
Sorry to hear about your best friend dying so tragically..
I think its strange to be at a funeral & texting people... I would never do such a thing!
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MrsMessina
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
from reading what you wrote- I don't think you're upset with her for feeling that way, or for reaching out--- but I think you didn't find it appropriate for her to text it to you while you're away working and let her know ahead of time that you couldn't be there for her--- since obviously that would bring up sad feelings for you and it's something that she could've waited until she spoke with you or saw you rather than texted it, right?
I'm sorry you're upset...
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EckoRed81504
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
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Posted by EckoRed81504
I would think that too, but of course theres more to her. A big story.
She didn't know my friend, she went to pay her respects of course which i love her for. But it ended there.
I know she meant well, but it just pisssed me off that she did it. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
I was venting. Sorry.
That is pretty weird. I have been to a couple funeral homes several times and it would never occur to me to remind someone of another's funeral.
This is exactly what I mean. I know I haven't given the full background, so it's hard to understand.
Why would you text me that? Why remind me/bring it up. I just don't get why it would occur to this person during a funeral (mind you) to text me just to say shes reminded of my firends funeral. I just don't get it.
Like I said before, of course there's more to her story and I know her reasons behind it--it wasn't that she was reaching out for a friend either...
And of course I'm upset over my friends death---and she knows this.
I just wanted to be like.. Gee thanks for bringing it up.
Blah.
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| Posted 1/26/08 5:12 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: My friends an absolute moron....vent
WOW! I absolutely agree with you. I think you are the WRONG person for her to text if she felt upset. I would never bring back an upsetting event to someone who already experienced it. Maybe if you were both in the same room she might have said i feel creeped but thats not the case. Honestly, she probably didnt think twice...I wouldnt give it another thought or fight with her about it. Its over and done. Sorry for both of your losses.
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