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KateDevine
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My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Of course this has to do with my looney tunes SIL
My neice is going to be two on October 11th, my SIL decided she wanted to do a "apple picking party" on October 6th , they aren't doing invites and it is a very quickly put together things. She is DEMANDING that Christopher and I go.
I've told her, oh about a thousand times, that October 6th is my best friend's baby shower in South Jersey and Christopher and I are going. She wants us to drive down to Baltimore after the shower to do this apple picking party.
I told her that I didn't really think that I could handle driving to South Jersey, going to a party (11:30-4pm) then driving to Baltimore to do this other party (and when exactly would we do this apple picking) and drive home. So, she said "Well, you can't stay here, we don't have room, but you didn't come last year b/c you were preggo, so you have to come this year"
I was thinking that if I asked her to move it to the following weekend, Christopher and I may be able to make the trip (will be hard, but doable) or should I just say fluck it and ignore her?
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msrsfeb
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
i think it is nice of you to try to make it for the next weekend. if you are willing i say ask if she says no, you tried and move on. good luck
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| Posted 9/19/07 11:41 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
People can't dictate what you *have* to do. You made a decision, for logical reasons, and there is nothing wrong with sticking with your decision.
Plus, even at 2, your niece won't notice that you're not there. They'll be so focused on the cake, balloons, the other kids, etc. She'll have plenty of b-days that you can go to later.
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| Posted 9/20/07 7:24 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Posted by GoldenRod
People can't dictate what you *have* to do. You made a decision, for logical reasons, and there is nothing wrong with sticking with your decision.
Plus, even at 2, your niece won't notice that you're not there. They'll be so focused on the cake, balloons, the other kids, etc. She'll have plenty of b-days that you can go to later.
Yeah, no cake, no balloons, no other kids. Which is why I feel bad. My SIL just read "Skinny B!tch" and decided that is how she and Sophie were going to live
I will most likely end up ignoring her, but she makes my life difficult b/c she has a tendency to stalk me and guilt me about things. DH's family has issues, you should see my other posts about her
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| Posted 9/20/07 7:41 AM |
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my3boys
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Posted by msrsfeb
i think it is nice of you to try to make it for the next weekend. if you are willing i say ask if she says no, you tried and move on. good luck
That's what I was going to say 
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| Posted 9/20/07 8:21 AM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Just ignore her. There is no way I would do that
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| Posted 9/20/07 8:23 AM |
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jana
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
You don't HAVE TO do anything!
Please, forget about the apple picking, send your niece a nice card with a gift card inside and have a great time at your BF's shower.
OK, know you've got me interested...whats "skinny b!itch"?
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| Posted 9/20/07 8:26 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Posted by jana
OK, know you've got me interested...whats "skinny b!itch"?
It is a book about becoming a vegan--and I have nothing against becoming a vegan, but this book is a little obnoxious, IMO.
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| Posted 9/20/07 8:31 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
DO NOT GO.
You made a commitment to your friend already, end of story. Shes psycho!
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| Posted 9/20/07 10:40 AM |
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
I wouldn't go..that's entirely too much time in the car anyway! Tell her that you DEMAND she move the party to LI and you and Christopher would be thrilled to join them
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| Posted 9/20/07 10:49 AM |
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Posted by GoldenRod
People can't dictate what you *have* to do. You made a decision, for logical reasons, and there is nothing wrong with sticking with your decision.
Plus, even at 2, your niece won't notice that you're not there. They'll be so focused on the cake, balloons, the other kids, etc. She'll have plenty of b-days that you can go to later.
ITA
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| Posted 9/20/07 10:55 AM |
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4monkeys
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
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Posted by msrsfeb
i think it is nice of you to try to make it for the next weekend. if you are willing i say ask if she says no, you tried and move on. good luck
That's what I was going to say
I agree, now you even have yourself covered if she tries the guilt trip 
your best friend's shower, no question you should be there! 
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| Posted 9/20/07 11:02 AM |
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Eireann
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
That's very nice of you to consider going. I think that's an insane trip and you'd be going alone, right?? If I were feeling extra generous, I might tell her I could make it the following week...because it's really about your neice, you know? I would definitely not do the two things in one day!
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| Posted 9/20/07 11:18 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Posted by Eireann
That's very nice of you to consider going. I think that's an insane trip and you'd be going alone, right?? If I were feeling extra generous, I might tell her I could make it the following week...because it's really about your neice, you know? I would definitely not do the two things in one day!
That's the thing, i feel bad about my neice, they are only inviting one other kid and my MIL is awful and doesn't ever think of her grandkids.
Summer, maybe I should tell her to move it here....there are apples and pumpkins to be picked here 
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| Posted 9/20/07 11:24 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
I would not go. The whole telling you, you HAVE to go would have pizzed me off already.
I would go to the shower, send your niece a gift.
That is a lot of traveling to do with a baby.
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| Posted 9/20/07 12:32 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
I would say I already have plans but I'd like to come the following weekend to celebrate it with her.
I wouldn't ask her to move the party because I think that's a too ballsy.
Also - totally love the apple picking idea & am stealing it for next year!
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| Posted 9/20/07 12:39 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
I would ignore her. I can't stand when people put things together the last minute, then expect you to drop everything. If she was so concerned that you couldn't make it, she would take the initiative to change it herself.
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| Posted 9/20/07 12:41 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Posted by dm24angel
DO NOT GO.
You made a commitment to your friend already, end of story. Shes psycho!
well said
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| Posted 9/20/07 12:57 PM |
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michele31
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Re: My neice's second birthday situation, what would you do?
Maybe she is really lonely?
I would NOT ignore her invite. What I would say is "I would love to be there. Apple picking sounds like a lot of fun. Can you make it for another weekend? I have committed to attending the baby shower and think it would be rude to back-out now". Only you can allow her to make you feel guilty. You have set boundries and also, agreed that celebrating your neice's birthday is important to you. If she continues to tell you that your idea will not work then clearly without anger say to her "I have tried to find a comprimise for the birthday party. I cannot make it on the date you want." there is nothing to even say in response to that. If she continues to hound you or belittle you just tell her that you are sorry it could not work out and that you will speak with her later.
period. the end.
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