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Sparrow
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
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I feel so awful for that little girl! I imagine she must have been pretty frightened to see her caregiver going crazy like that. I can only imagine a person like this wouldn't have much patience for a small child acting out. I hope this gets back to her mom.
Stories like this are why I chose day care (in a facility, not a home) over a nanny. People can come across so sweet and caring to your face then do a total 180 once you're out the door. Even if they have a nanny cam at home that wouldn't show incidents like this one. I don't trust anyone and want as many eyes around as possible when I'm not there.
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With all the stuff you hear about nannies and after that one in NYC killed those kids- I just don't trust ANYONE in my home. I don't care how good their references, background check, etc are.
Daycare or nannies can both have flaws and there have been series incidents with both. But for me that is also why I choose daycare. I feel more comfortable knowing there are many sets of eyes on her.
I live in the area and I hate heckshire park. There are two playgrounds. One is clearly labeled 2-5 years old. I have seen children that I swear must be 12-14 acting like wild beasts when babies are toddling along side them. There are always 1-3 children on top of that train house and when my dd is in the train sand and dirt is dropping down onto her from the kids who are very much older 5. They also jump down from the train and I've seen them hit into other children. I feel parents are never watching their kids, socializing or on cell phones. And I've had to tell children before things like "you may not put your hands on my daughter" or "it's your turn to go down the slide there are other children waiting" when numerous times they're blocking the slide. I have also had negative experiences at some of the indoor play places in huntington.
I much prefer northport. The parents there are more involved in what their child is doing.
I'm sure daycare isn't prefect but you don't hear ANYWHERE near the number of stories about daycares that you do nannies! I think people are a lot more likely to do something wrong or even just not be so nice when no one is looking. I'm pretty sure they've proven this is human nature.
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
I don't know...
A normally nice nanny gets pissed off at a mom who took the child's spot somewhere... who knows what went on right before...
The mom audibly calling her "psycho" was very out of line too (and very passive aggressive to do it behind her back)... I bet she ran when the nanny actually had enough & confronted her.
Sounds like a bad situation on both of their parts.
Personally, I've been shocked at playground etiquette, and mostly, as the PP mentioned, by catty mom behavior & by what I can clearly hear them say. Once, it was a very brutal attack on a very sweet mom that was not "in" the clique.
The only negative is that the mom of the 2 year old didn't know it went down.
As for daycare vs nanny, there are many situations in which people CAN NOT do one vs the other. Benefits & risks to both.
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| Posted 11/6/14 12:31 PM |
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
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Personally, I've been shocked at playground etiquette, and mostly, as the PP mentioned, by catty mom behavior & by what I can clearly hear them say. Once, it was a very brutal attack on a very sweet mom that was not "in" the clique.
That is insane! I have never witnesses anything like this at a playground but I admit I am pretty obvious to anyone besides my kids when I'm there.
That is really disgusting if moms are behaving that way. Reminds me why I don't usually bother making small talk!
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| Posted 11/6/14 12:39 PM |
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Posted by nycgirl
I don't know...
A normally nice nanny gets pissed off at a mom who took the child's spot somewhere... who knows what went on right before...
The mom audibly calling her "psycho" was very out of line too (and very passive aggressive to do it behind her back)... I bet she ran when the nanny actually had enough & confronted her.
Sounds like a bad situation on both of their parts.
Personally, I've been shocked at playground etiquette, and mostly, as the PP mentioned, by catty mom behavior & by what I can clearly hear them say. Once, it was a very brutal attack on a very sweet mom that was not "in" the clique.
The only negative is that the mom of the 2 year old didn't know it went down.
As for daycare vs nanny, there are many situations in which people CAN NOT do one vs the other. Benefits & risks to both.
I thought the same thing, both parties were wrong.
And there have been Daycare horror stories reported on the news. A few weeks ago there were back to back stories about several daycares in the news. There can be flaws in both sides.
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Nanny incident at Hecksher today
I agree both parties were wrong. The nanny clearly started it out of nowhere. The mom was already putting her baby in the stroller and was walking away when she made the pyscho reference. I do think it was very, very bad that the nany abandoned the little girl on a jungle gym she was climbing to follow the mom out and screaming at her and cursing at her while the little girl watched. And then to call her baby is pyscho really shows you she's not playing with a full deck.
All the moms cleared the playground area after that exchange. The nanny really lost it. I just wish the mom of that little girl knew what her nanny is capable of. That little girl witnessed this, the nanny picked the fight (the equipment was empty when the mom got on, and most importantly the little girl could have fallen off the jungle gym bc the nanny was following the mom out.
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Chai77
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Maybe I'm the only one, but I don't think the mom of the one year old did anything wrong. I'm guessing she called the nanny a psycho because she WAS acting like a psycho. Acting as if she owned that area of the playground and screaming like that?!! That is just bizarre and totally out of line. Perhaps not the most productive thing for the mom to do, but she felt attacked I am sure. I don't blame her at all. I hope the nanny's employer finds out asap.
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HoneymoonBaby
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Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Wow. Really scary-- If I hired that nanny I would want to know. I hope the mom finds out.
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OaksWife
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Posted by Sparrow
Stories like this are why I chose day care (in a facility, not a home) over a nanny. People can come across so sweet and caring to your face then do a total 180 once you're out the door. Even if they have a nanny cam at home that wouldn't show incidents like this one. I don't trust anyone and want as many eyes around as possible when I'm not there.
I can't tell you how much I agree! We had a nanny for my first DD and for all that we saw she was awesome. Once I had DD2 things started to change, we found another nanny who happened to have been friends with our first nanny that told me things that were done to and in front of my kids that made me almost lose my mind. Needless to say both of my girls are in daycare now.
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| Posted 11/6/14 4:08 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
that is really scary..... you don't just walk away from the kid you are babysitting in a public area.. not just drowning, kidnappers too.....
if your going to be crazy and scream at a mom *which I would totally fire, at least take the kid with you,
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| Posted 11/7/14 7:52 PM |
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Posted by Sparrow
I feel so awful for that little girl! I imagine she must have been pretty frightened to see her caregiver going crazy like that. I can only imagine a person like this wouldn't have much patience for a small child acting out. I hope this gets back to her mom.
Stories like this are why I chose day care (in a facility, not a home) over a nanny. People can come across so sweet and caring to your face then do a total 180 once you're out the door. Even if they have a nanny cam at home that wouldn't show incidents like this one. I don't trust anyone and want as many eyes around as possible when I'm not there.
From day one that was why I chose a nice big daycare center with supervisors, people coming in and out of rooms all day, and lots and lots of eyes.
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Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Who knows what happened before the little girl took the othe rlittle girls spot. Maybe the nannys girl was pushed or hit before that, and this was the icing on the cake. Not to condone what she did because clearly she has an anger issue, but women can be pretty damn catty, and a lot of them like to talk and talk and talk, and then when they are faced with confrontation they run. If you can't back up your talk, then don't talk, or talk about it later when the othe rperson is not around to hear you and possibly confront you.
I am always at the park, and always talk with the other moms there, thank god I have never run into a situation like this or a mom that was talking about me while I was standing there. Very rude and immature.
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LemonHead
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Re: Nanny incident at Hecksher today
Posted by Chai77
Maybe I'm the only one, but I don't think the mom of the one year old did anything wrong. I'm guessing she called the nanny a psycho because she WAS acting like a psycho. Acting as if she owned that area of the playground and screaming like that?!! That is just bizarre and totally out of line. Perhaps not the most productive thing for the mom to do, but she felt attacked I am sure. I don't blame her at all. I hope the nanny's employer finds out asap.
I agree. The nanny was wrong, the mother was not. Play equipment is not reserved at the park, the mom did not take someone's "spot"- it's a public place.
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