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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
Posted by Diana1215
I think it is your choice not to tell her. TTC is a very personal thing for some couples.
It could take one couple a month to get pregnant - and one couple a year - so trying at the same time doesn't really matter.
I wouldn't say anything personally - and go on with what you want to do with your life! 
I couldn't agree more. I really feel like this is between you and your DH. I mean if she is a sensitive person she may be upset that you didn't say anything but she should totally understand. Anyway who's to say that if you both TTC at the same time you wouldn't get pregnant first or vice versa. There are no guarantees that you would get pregnant together anyway ya know If you are not comfortable with telling anyone you are TTC i wouldn't say anything
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Keep it to yourself
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Message edited 1/7/2009 5:59:48 AM.
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HelenZ
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
hey things happen, for all she needs to know when you guys get pregnant it just "happened" no need for any big announcement to her that you guys are actively TTC at a certain time. if she found out you were PG at say 8 weeks, she could start trying after that and your babies would still be the same age. don't feel guilty about not involving her.
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| Posted 1/7/09 6:46 AM |
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Chai77
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
Personally, I would not tell her anything. Next time she brings it up, I would say something to the effect of "Yeah, if only we could plan everything in life like that." (sorry, it took me 13 cycles to get pg and I know that things can't always be planned and they don't always happen so quickly).
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Aries14
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
Posted by Chai77
Personally, I would not tell her anything. Next time she brings it up, I would say something to the effect of "Yeah, if only we could plan everything in life like that." (sorry, it took me 13 cycles to get pg and I know that things can't always be planned and they don't always happen so quickly).
I absoulty know it can, and most likely WILL, take some time for one or both of us - which is my number one reason for not wanting to try and 'plan' to get pregnant together. It is even more frustrating when the SIL talks about it and thinks she can pretty much pick the date to get pregnant -- did I mention she was spoiled and always wants things her way 
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LoveyQ
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
ITA with the above posters - go by how YOU feel and if you do not instinctively want to share with her or anyone else that you are TTC, then don't do it just because.
When DH and I start trying, I will NOT be telling anyone. I'm afraid it might take us a while and I don't want the additional pressure of someone in the family or friends asking, so has it happened yet? Or asking other questions. I'm pretty open, but for some reason I feel like TTC is a private thing between me and my DH. DH and I have a plan and we've already spoken and I made sure he knew that I don't want anyone knowing what it is - my personal opinion is it's no one's business until we WANT it to be.
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| Posted 1/7/09 2:45 PM |
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jerseygirl
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
What if you tell her you are going off the pill but your not officially "trying".
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| Posted 1/7/09 2:59 PM |
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Aries14
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Re: Need advice on how to handle situation..
Posted by jerseygirl
What if you tell her you are going off the pill but your not officially "trying".
Someone else told me to do this as well. I guess it is a middle-of-the-road solution. But it is again something that will give people the idea that we will be trying and I just don't want to face the "well, are you pregnant yet?" questions. I don't know.... We are all going to visit the inlaws (our husbands parents) and I just know she will make it the topic for discussion and I am not looking forward to it. I wish we can just go back to when DH and I had this fun little secret and no one was bringing the topic up.. 
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