| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: 1 [2] |
lc214
BLUE times 2!
Member since 11/05 1884 total posts
Name:
Christine
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Posted by laurenM
My MIL said the same thing.... and when dd was done opening gifts I said "please say thank you to grandma and grandpa for these great gifts".
This. I had the exact same thing. Knew it was coming, and when mil said it, I started to correct her and dh said, "just let her say it." But when they were leaving, I said what PP said. Several times. Worse, we are going there next week, where they have another gift from "Santa." Will probably handle it the same way.
I posted on another thread, this bothered me as a child growing up. My gma did the same thing, and I was always like, "why would Santa stop her, when he knows where I live?" It be er made sense to me and pizzed me off BC I knew they were lying to me.
|
Posted 12/26/11 9:21 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
Member since 5/05 16555 total posts
Name:
I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
We tell our kids that ho ho went to grandmas and mums house for them. I don't see the big deal. They just know they get presents. 
|
| Posted 12/26/11 9:32 PM |
| |
|
eroxgirl
My Loves
Member since 5/05 15697 total posts
Name:
Rebecca
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Santa made a pit-stop at my MILs house on Christmas Eve... honestly, I don't see the big deal. By the time kids start questioning why this or that about Santa, the Santa gig is up...
|
| Posted 12/26/11 9:41 PM |
| |
|
clmj2
cant believe hes gone
Member since 3/07 4407 total posts
Name:
Candice
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
DD got a stocking at my moms house. no presents though. i never really thought too much about it.
|
| Posted 12/26/11 9:52 PM |
| |
|
MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
Member since 6/06 10258 total posts
Name:
Baby Momma
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Are there are bigger issues here than just what you are posting about? Otherwise it will be a long road ahead of you if you get upset about something like this.
|
| Posted 12/26/11 9:57 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
As a child of divorce, i knew Santa sometimes went to different houses. Some years we had little $ so santa only went to Grandmas. It didnt phase me one bit.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 6:44 AM |
| |
|
Karen
Just chillin'!!
Member since 1/06 9690 total posts
Name:
Karen
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Posted by eroxgirl
Santa made a pit-stop at my MILs house on Christmas Eve... honestly, I don't see the big deal. By the time kids start questioning why this or that about Santa, the Santa gig is up...
ditto!
IMO, this is one of those "choose your battles" type of moments and you and DH have to decide how big of a deal it is.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 8:17 AM |
| |
|
KrisT
Two Boys for Me!!
Member since 1/07 5213 total posts
Name:
Kristin
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Santa always came to my grandparents' house when I was growing up! It honestly was never a big deal and it never confused me as a child.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 9:47 AM |
| |
|
neener1211
:-)
Member since 4/07 22952 total posts
Name:
J
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
I guess I'm in the minority that I don't see what the big deal is. Santa always left presents at other people's houses for us because there was not enough room under our tree when we were little.
Santa left gifts at each grandma's house, and at 2 other houses this year for my kids. They were only concerned about the presents, not how they got there.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 9:57 AM |
| |
|
KangaMom
...
Member since 1/06 4593 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
For us, in our home santa leaves gifts for our children. Any gifts from family members are from them not santa, hope that works for you too
|
| Posted 12/27/11 10:15 AM |
| |
|
lvdolphins
My Loves!
Member since 5/05 46292 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
I don't see it as a problem at all.
We grew up that Santa left gifts at a few different relatives houses.
As a matter of fact, just last night, my sister arrived in NY (from MA) and told my kids that Santa left gifts for them at her house and she brought them down for them.
I don't know, doesn't bother me in the least.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 10:25 AM |
| |
|
Stacey1403
Where it all began....
Member since 5/05 24065 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
What is you approached it this way.....say to your MIL "You know you should let her know they are from you, that way you get the credit not the chubby guy" 
I have to say with my own kids when my DS said to me you didn't give me any gifts only Santa and our family, I was like
|
| Posted 12/27/11 10:28 AM |
| |
|
JennCo
My greatest joy is my baby boy
Member since 1/07 2772 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
My parents do the same thing and I honetly never thought anything about it. So for me personally, I would let it go and let her have some fun with her grandchild.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 10:44 AM |
| |
|
Lillykat
going along for the ride...
Member since 5/05 16253 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Well I don't have a great relationship with my MIL so I don't know if it is just because it is your MIL that is the issue. For US....My parents give some gifts from them and some from Santa - we tell our girls that santa went there because they were extra good this year so he wanted them to have a few extra things to play with there. My parents are so excited to give their grandchildren some special gifts and I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings because they are so excited about it.
I look at it that I could care less if they want to put from Santa or from the individual and take the credit, or from the family pet for that matter. I just look at it that someone is being generous with my girls and that is the only thing I care about. But if it really bothers you I would speak with your DH and ask him to speak with her otherwise you might just hurt her feelings or start a fight. If it really bothers you that much you could request that she either give them from her or not give gifts at all - which would solve that issue. But if it is just a confusion issue I'm sure we could all give some suggestions that have worked in the past to help.
I would not suggest having the conversation in front of your DC if they are older by telling them to thank your MIL etc because that might only force them to ask questions whereas they might not even think to ask otherwise.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 11:37 AM |
| |
|
NewlyMrs
Laugh-Live-Love LIFE!
Member since 10/06 14432 total posts
Name:
Jennifer
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
LOL I asked a similar question a little while back about how you handle gifts from others & not that DD1 is older, we decided we tell them who gifts are from. We told my ILs that REPEATEDLY!
Yet......they didn't bring presents on Christmas Eve....then they come on the 26th with presents & said Santa stopped at their house...and I cut them right off myself & said NO, they are from you! Luckily DH backs me up & DD didn't catch what was said.
|
| Posted 12/27/11 11:43 AM |
| |
|
Melbernai
I am a lucky Momma!
Member since 7/05 15652 total posts
Name:
Melissa
|
Re: Need opinion on how to handle my mil telling my DD that Santa came to her house too
Honestly I think you could make it work if it is something that is important to your MIL. It may be how they did things when your DH was growing up, or in his family. Are there other grandchildren who were born before your child? Is this a tradition?
If it really does bother you, and it isn't something you can get past, then I recommend that you sit down and tell her honestly how yuo feel. Skirting the issue will just make it more uncomfortable later on. You are better off saying exactly what you feel. Say it candidly and openly, and explain that while you don't want to step on her toes, this is something that you and DH agreed upon and so you want to just have it out in the open before DC gets older.
Good luck!
|
| Posted 12/27/11 1:05 PM |
| |
|
| Pages: 1 [2] |
