Night #2 of putting 9 week old down sleepy and not asleep worse!- post edited

Was it worse the 2nd night? DD is screaming. She is must harder to console tonight. I picked her up once b/c I thought she had gas.

Any advice?

ETA:
I did not just let her just CIO. And DD did determine her bedtime. She was yawning, rubbing her eyes and fussing. So I brought her into her bedroom for her bottle with the night light on and lullaby CD on. She fell asleep with the bottle. I rocked her a little and sang to her. When I placed her in the crib she started to fuss. When she started to get really upset and cry I soothed her from the side of the crib. I patted her side, sang to her, rubbed her tummy... I was bent so far over the crib that I was practically in the crib with her. I just tried to soothe her without picking her up. It just sounds like people think I just left her in her crib screaming and crying by herself.

Message edited 10/28/2010 9:43:48 AM.

Re: Night #2 of putting 9 week old down sleepy and not asleep worse!

she still young i would console her..she may have some reflux or gas.....if it continues ask your doctor..Good luck

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honestly, at nine weeks, she decides her bedtime its too early to CIO

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I never tried that young.

I guess it's personal preference.....but with DS I found that to not work till he was several months old......


Are you rubbing her belly, singing to her or shushing her at all? That may help.....

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Way too young for this.
Babies at that age don't understand CIO - they are crying for a reason.
My DD is 4 months and we still can't get her to master this.
Try again in a few months.

Message edited 10/27/2010 8:48:03 PM.

Re: Night #2 of putting 9 week old down sleepy and not asleep worse!

Way to young to cry it out. They still need nurturing at that age. They are still newborns..4 months is a better age to start with cry it out. At 9 weeks, they still need comforting when they are crying and upset...

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at that age, it might be too soon to try this. if you want to try modified CIO, then keep picking her up when she cries and soothe her back to drowsy state. keep continuing this until she falls asleep.

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I asked these questions early on too because DD isn't a good sleeper. I was always told here that that is way too young to CIO. My Dr. told me differently, but I went with the experienced Momma's here and followed what they advised me to do.

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Re: Night #2 of putting 9 week old down sleepy and not asleep worse!

Posted by Porrruss

Posted by jtotheo

at that age, it might be too soon to try this. if you want to try modified CIO, then keep picking her up when she cries and soothe her back to drowsy state. keep continuing this until she falls asleep.

I agree. We did exactly the same thing with DS and he is now starting to go to sleep on his own when put down awake. She'll eventually get it- but in the meantime, comfort her if she starts to cry.

Message edited 10/27/2010 10:20:17 PM.

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9 weeks is too young. Soothing her will be your best path to STTN eventually.

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If I remember correctly... you are not doing CIO just putting kid to bed without having her sleeping before.

I knew I had to do this when we would play games with my DS waking up as soon as he was in his crib.

We went through a worse night on night 3. As soon as I changed him for bed, he started up. He recognized the connection with the sleep sack. I shooshed him every 5 minutes and he slept. It got better after that. You never know.... maybe yours is not ready... but you are not hurting her and you know she is tired, not hungry and not in pain.

Good luck.

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I agree with what PPs have said- at 9 weeks, she is too young to be left alone when she is crying. At that age, babies cry when they need something. I would definitely go in to comfort her, but you could try doing it without picking her up first. Try rubbing her back, shushing, singing to her, etc. If he is not calming down at all, then I would pick her up and rock her.

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i definitely agree with the PPs - 9 weeks is WAY too young. DS is 13 weeks and I still couldn't imagine letting him CIO.

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Posted by mommyIam

Posted by mlny

i definitely agree with the PPs - 9 weeks is WAY too young. DS is 13 weeks and I still couldn't imagine letting him CIO.

I don't think she's talking about CIO I think we all misunderstood the question

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Way too young to expect them to fall asleep on their own like that. I think you are just making things hardier on yourself with these expectations.

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I agree...way too young. Your expectations are too high. I would definitely pick her up and soothe her at this age - you are not spoiling her. If you think that she should be able to settle herself at this age and she does not then you are upset so try to change the expectations you have - she is still VERY young.

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I did not just let her just CIO. And DD did determine her bedtime. She was yawning, rubbing her eyes and fussing. So I brought her into her bedroom for her bottle with the night light on and lullaby CD on. She fell asleep with the bottle. I rocked her a little and sang to her. When I placed her in the crib she started to fuss. When she started to get really upset and cry I soothed her from the side of the crib. I patted her side, sang to her, rubbed her tummy... I was bent so far over the crib that I was practically in the crib with her. I just tried to soothe her without picking her up. It just sounds like people think I just left her in her crib screaming and crying by herself.

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My opinion is that she is too young even to be consoled from any distance. I think babies that age need to be picked up. Sorry if that's not the answer you were looking for-it's my honest opinion.

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Maybe she needed to burp?? I know when my DD was that young I couldn't lay her down right after a bottle or she would get fussy and have gas. Maybe try to hold her a little upright for longer before you put her down.

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I know you didnt mean CIO in your original post, but I still agree with others, I cannot imagine putting my 9 week old asleep drowsy, they still need comfort to fall asleep at that age....All of this is my own opinion though. If you feel you need to do this ir its the right way, good luck, I just dont think too many will have experience doing it at that young an age.

And just out of curiosity...Why are you doing this so early?



When their body rythms start to even out and get consistent at like 3-4 months you will find it easier ...

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I have been talking with the OP in FM, but just wanted to say that I have put DD down awake (when she doesn't fall asleep on her bottle) since day one and she STTN 12 hours and is a FABULOUS sleeper now for nighttime AND naps.

I am not a monster and it worked for us. It isn't for everyone though but it CAN work