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nrthshgrl
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Re: no more babies... a little long
I've just turned 40 & while I could have another baby, we're done.
Obviously 35 isn't too old but I think it's a struggle for most women at any age to get used to the idea of "Game Over".
I'm stil not used to it.
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Stacey1403
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Re: no more babies... a little long
I had my first at 35 and my second at 38. Your not old at all.
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| Posted 5/18/08 12:41 PM |
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MommaToBe
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Re: no more babies... a little long
um, 35 isn't too old to have a baby!
Don't let ignorant people's comments get you down.
UGH!!! 
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luvsbob4603
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Re: no more babies... a little long
Posted by libby2595
background: we didn't see my mom for mother's day... we scheduled to get together yesterday. my birthday is at the end of the month.
soon after getting to my mom's, she tells me that my g'ma wants to talk to me to wish me a happy mother's day and a happy b-day. i call g'ma. when we discuss how old i'll be, she says "oh well, guess your dh isn't going to have kids because you're just too old to be giving birth now." i agreed, and the day went on.
this morning, i was walking the dog and it hit me:
I'M NOT HAVING ANYMORE BABIES!
RATIONALLY:
*having a teenager and a baby is CRAZY
*i'm going to be 35 at the end of the month
*i'm at a point in my life where things are coming together and i want to go back to school soon
*i'm too old for middle-of-the-night feedings
EMOTIONAL:
*i'm not having another baby
i've been crying since i got home from walking the dog
I'm sorry your feeling this way, But be grateful for the precious gift you have now, I will 'NEVER' have a baby because of medical reasons. But i do understand how you feel and it does hurt. I'm here for you if you need to talk.
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Diana712
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Re: no more babies... a little long
I dont understand this? Do you want another baby? If you do then try. haven't you read about all these older woman having children?? Are you saying you are too old physically or mentally? Physically you definately are not to old. Mentally... well thats your call. I am so glad 35 is not too old.. If it was I would not be trying as hard as I am. Since you have gotten pregnant before your chances are even better. 
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lvdolphins
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Re: no more babies... a little long
35 Is not too old!
My mom had my sister at 35 and that was almost 23 years ago.
I have a friend that had a baby last year at 35 as well.
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Re: no more babies... a little long
I'm almost 35 and have no kids. I still feel too young to have them. 
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babyfaith
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Re: no more babies... a little long
I will be 34 soon and TTC #1. I hope I am not too old for those late night feedings 
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: no more babies... a little long
i'm so sorry if i stirred up emotions in how i said things.
you're right, i'm not too old. and children, no matter how far apart they are in age are always a blessing.
kellyfg, i think, said it best: i am making this decision. i know that this is the best decision for me (mentally and physically) and for my family. if i hadn't had ds at 21, i would be ready to start now. but RE-starting at 35 just doesn't feel right for ME.
please, i'm not saying that anyone my age or older should not have children. i'm just saying that i'm heart-broken because i've realized that in my life there won't be another baby. i used to dream of 3 children.
again, i'm sorry if i said anything to upset anyone, that was not my intention. i had always said that if i was pg by 35, i wasn't going to do it. and realizing that my 35th birthday is a little over a week away and i'm not pg made me sad.
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I'm 34 now - and won't be trying until way after I'm 35! And DH has a teenager and a baby!!!!
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Re: no more babies... a little long... "update/correction" on page 2
Posted by libby2595
i'm so sorry if i stirred up emotions in how i said things.
you're right, i'm not too old. and children, no matter how far apart they are in age are always a blessing.
kellyfg, i think, said it best: i am making this decision. i know that this is the best decision for me (mentally and physically) and for my family. if i hadn't had ds at 21, i would be ready to start now. but RE-starting at 35 just doesn't feel right for ME.
please, i'm not saying that anyone my age or older should not have children. i'm just saying that i'm heart-broken because i've realized that in my life there won't be another baby. i used to dream of 3 children.
again, i'm sorry if i said anything to upset anyone, that was not my intention. i had always said that if i was pg by 35, i wasn't going to do it. and realizing that my 35th birthday is a little over a week away and i'm not pg made me sad.
I knew exactly what you meant when you wrote it, I remember feeling exactly that way.
I had my DS when I was 17 and unmarried, I always dreamed of being happily married with more children by the time I was 25. I'm an only child & didn't want that for my son. Well I didn't get married till I was 32 & my son has a stepsister now so that's just way it is. There were still plenty of times especially songs about marriage & children that would make me cry.
I'm realizing now that my DH & I have a different purpose, we play a very big role in the children in our extended family's lives. Things worked out just right
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sunnyplus3
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Re: no more babies... a little long... "update/correction" on page 2
Posted by lipglossjunky73
I'm 34 now - and won't be trying until way after I'm 35! And DH has a teenager and a baby!!!!
but Lipgloss, you'd admit that having a teenage stepdaughter & a baby is probably more challenging than if both of your children were born to you & your dh right? I'm not saying it isn't worth every minute, I'm just saying its ok for people to decide not to go that route.
People ask me almost daily when I'm having another child, I don't know what makes people assume my DH & I have to have a child together to validate our marriage
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MsSissy
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Re: no more babies... a little long... "update/correction" on page 2
Posted by libby2595
i'm so sorry if i stirred up emotions in how i said things.
you're right, i'm not too old. and children, no matter how far apart they are in age are always a blessing.
kellyfg, i think, said it best: i am making this decision. i know that this is the best decision for me (mentally and physically) and for my family. if i hadn't had ds at 21, i would be ready to start now. but RE-starting at 35 just doesn't feel right for ME.
please, i'm not saying that anyone my age or older should not have children. i'm just saying that i'm heart-broken because i've realized that in my life there won't be another baby. i used to dream of 3 children.
again, i'm sorry if i said anything to upset anyone, that was not my intention. i had always said that if i was pg by 35, i wasn't going to do it. and realizing that my 35th birthday is a little over a week away and i'm not pg made me sad.
I completely understand what you're going through. DH & I went through this a few months ago.
You need to do what's best for you.
ETA: If you need/want to talk you can FM me anytime.
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This is NOT too old! I will be 35 when I start thinking about having a second and just had my first at 32. Take every day as it comes....don't think this way!
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