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yeah-yeah
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Erin
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Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
A little background...
I had a recent m/c. I am in my mid-30s and also a mom. For the last couple of months I have been actively trying: OPKs, Robitussin, spicy lingerie  ... Really giving it my all. It's driving me a little insane since I tend to obsess.
I would love to take the summer off to clear my mind, enjoy my recent weight loss, drink...etc... My DH doesn't feel this is a good idea. He's OK with me stopping OPKs for a couple of months, but wants to time BD to the best of our ability. I, on the other hand, really want to take a month's hiatus from all of this entirely--if not the next two or three months. ETA here...I would also prefer not to have a February baby for a couple of reasons which would be silly to DH.
Would it be very wrong of me to PRETEND that I've timed it right this month and then get back on the horse for next...?
Message edited 5/13/2009 9:58:24 AM.
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Posted 5/13/09 9:27 AM  |
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zoe282
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Jen
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
Personally I think you should be honest. Maybe you should continue that but still enjoy yourself?
Stop the OPK's...(maybe then if you aren't testing it will free your mind a bit) and just BD regularlry. My doctor told me that if you BD 2-3 times a week that everything should work out. Stick to that schedule...and enjoy your summer. 
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| Posted 5/13/09 9:53 AM |
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Rycois
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J
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
I would be honest about how you're feeling or at least agree to not avoid any BDing, but tell him you don't plan to do anything other than BD when you're in the mood 
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| Posted 5/13/09 10:48 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
Posted by SweetCaroline
I would be honest about how you're feeling or at least agree to not avoid any BDing, but tell him you don't plan to do anything other than BD when you're in the mood
i completely agree with this.
i have a couple of reasons why i would not want to actually TTC this month but the truth is that i would be insanely blessed to have another baby, and if i am lucky enough to get pregnant, i am confident that those misgivings will fly right out the window.
as a good friend once told me  i am sure your DH will be understanding if you just talk to him and tell him how you feel!
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| Posted 5/13/09 10:55 AM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
Honestly, if I were doing everything I could to TTC and I found out my DH was secretly trying to sabotage our chances I would be LIVID. So, yes, I would never do that to him.
That said, if you feel like taking a break from ttc I think that is COMPLETELY understandable and I think you should talk more to DH to make him understand - TTC is something you both need to be totally on board with and if you need a break you are entitled to one! 
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| Posted 5/13/09 2:03 PM |
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Otherme
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
Posted by SweetCaroline
I would be honest about how you're feeling or at least agree to not avoid any BDing, but tell him you don't plan to do anything other than BD when you're in the mood
I agree also - perhaps stop the opk's and thinking about it non-stop for the next few months. Doesn't mean you won't BD, but you'll find that you will relax and enjoy BD'ing for the sake of it without that thought in the back of your head about timing etc.
But definitely stay honest with him, think about how you'd feel if you found out he was going to keep similar info from you.
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| Posted 5/13/09 2:09 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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MJ
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
Definitely not cool to lie about it. I think more discussion should be done or a compromise...but having a baby is such an important decision, you don't want to have any deception between you two for something so big.
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| Posted 5/13/09 2:15 PM |
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Makin-da-baby
Praying so hard this is it!!!
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Re: Now that I'm out for this month, I have a WWYD ethical Q for next month...
I definitely would not lie but I don't think it's a bad idea to just sort of wing it for a couple of months. Perhaps just having a whatever happens mentality will be a good compromise for both you and DH.
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