OKay...desperate with CIO...it flopped

Okay...I have come to terms with the fact that my son is spoiled. I think it's my fault. He has no problem being by himself or sleeping in his crib while he is at daycare, but when he gets home...he's all about screaming and crying until I pick him up. Friday night we were determined to do the cry it out. He fell asleep after his bottle like normal and we then put him in his crib with no problem. After 15 minutes he woke up and realized that he was not in bed with us. The tantrum started and went on and on and on.

My dilemma is the fact that he can pull himself up and cruise in his crib, howwever, this is a very recent skill and he is still unstable on his feet and has not learned how to fall without hurting himself. I took the bumpers out for saftey and Asthma reasons. My concerns is that he will fall against the crib during these tantrums and hurt himself. Of course after 20 minutes and several falls, I just couldn't take it anymore. I was crazy about him hurting himself. What do I do? I cannot take this anymore. I feel liike my son is the way he is, because of me. Help with any advice.

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What does he do if you are in the room. Can you lay him down and pat him or rub his back and just keep doing it until he falls asleep?

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i tend to feel like staying in the room with them while theyre freaking out only makes it worse in alot of cases..at least it did for my ds..
my ds sttn by 8 weeks, but regressed BIGTIME at 8 months old, and we had to do ferber/cio..similar to your ds, he was just learning to get up himself and get around, very clumsily..and i felt just like you..
quiet honestly? I think once they figure out how to get around like that, after alil while (maybe a week or two more) he'll be a pro at it..
i would not try CIO until youre ready to commit to it again *after hes alil more stable on his feet* only because if you "half-way" it..hes gonna be confused even more..
give him one more week maybe of cruising around, and then try CIO again if youre comfortable with it..if done consistently, hopefully after a few days he'll be sleeping the nite away in his crib

good luck!!

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What I did is I would go into his nursery and calm him down, lay him back down and rub his back, and lay on the floor next to him till he went back to sleep. We ended up sleeping in the nursery with him for a good week. That way, when he woke up in his crib he saw us there and didn't freak out. Then he stopped waking up all together and slept through. I was a CIO drop out but felt like this modified method worked for us. GOOD LUCK!!!!!

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They learn pretty quickly how to get themselves down. After 2 nights of going in to help Eliza down, I finally said, "ENOUGH!" and just let her cry. She figured how to get herself down.

I don't think she had ever fallen. Even if she did, it wouldn't be a hard enough bump to cause an injury.

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DS bumps his head on his aquarium all the time

i still have the bumpers in but if he is on his knees, he can still hit his head on the bars.

he's never hurt himself badly and rarely cries anymore when we put him to bed.

he is also in a sleep sack so he can't pull himself up to stand. is that an option for you?

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Have you tried putting him down before he falls asleep?

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I just posted about this, my DS is 10 months and I have the same issue. he has a major tantrum standing up, screaming mama dada he doesn't give up so I give in. I feel your pain anddon'thave a clue right now! we have def. spoiled DS , it's out of control now

How old is your DS?

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I too have a spoiled baby and can not do CIO. We found it easier to just let her stay in our bed

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Posted by lovemy2boys

I just posted about this, my DS is 10 months and I have the same issue. he has a major tantrum standing up, screaming mama dada he doesn't give up so I give in. I feel your pain anddon'thave a clue right now! we have def. spoiled DS , it's out of control now

How old is your DS?

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I would try putting him on his belly and rubbing his back. That's what I did with DD at that age.

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DD is also pulling herself and cruising on everything now. She's falling a lot too, and has hit her head a couple of times. I don't have bumpers in her crib, and it frightens me too, but now she's learned how to fall so when she falls, she just falls on her butt for the most part. She's also standing with more balance and not falling as much. There were quite a few head bumps along the way, but she is fine. Did you drop the crib all the way down? I found this helped a bit because it limited her ability to get around the crib cruising. She can still stand, but it's a higher reach so she doesn't cruise as much in the crib, and by the time she's tall enough for that, I think she'll have good enough balance where she won't be falling.

As far as CIO, it's been a real battle for us too. My rule is the first half to three quarters of the night she has to stay in her crib. It's awful sometimes and she can cry a lot. But I now don't take her in our bed until at least 3:30/4, or so. Most nights, once we make it past 11, she is fine til 6:30. But sometimes, like last night, she's up earlier. Last night she was up at 4, cried for a long time and FH brought her in. I fed her, but then even though I could tell she was tired, she wasn't falling asleep. She was playing with my hair, tugging at our faces, etc. Not crying, but trying to play with us. So, we put her back in her crib around 5:30, and she fell asleep in 15 min. She was up again 30 minutes later, standing in her crib crying. It was morning by then, so I took her into our bed to nurse her, but as soon as she hit our bed, she was out. She slept for another hour. Sleeping seems like it's going to be a battle for a long time.

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Posted by mamabear

Did you drop the crib all the way down?

yes...it's all the way down but can still reach with no problem

but as soon as she hit our bed, she was out.

and this is also a major factor...he will cry for hours in his crib, but the second I put him in our bed...he sleeps until I wake him up.

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Posted by MrsFlatbread

Posted by mamabear

Did you drop the crib all the way down?

yes...it's all the way down but can still reach with no problem

but as soon as she hit our bed, she was out.

and this is also a major factor...he will cry for hours in his crib, but the second I put him in our bed...he sleeps until I wake him up.

I hear you. For awhile, almost a month, I gave in and just took her into our bed, even if it was the whole night. But I wasn't sleeping well then, and Fh stared complaining that it wasn't good for the two of us, that we needed at least part of the night alone in bed together. So, I just made it a point to say she was going to have to stay in her crib for the first half of the night, even if that meant she cried for the entire first half of the night. The first few nights she did cry for about 2 hours nonstop, but eventually fell asleep. Now she doesn't usually cry that long, but almost always cries for at least 30 minutes when we put her down, or she falls asleep right away, but wakes up in an hour or so and cries for about 30 minutes, It IS getting better, though. I won't say it's good, and some nights are worse than others, but we are enjoying having our bed back for a good portion of the night, and she is beginning to adjust.

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Posted by MrsFlatbread

Posted by chikita315

Have you tried putting him down before he falls asleep?

yes...but he is a monster and will immediately pull himself up despite my attepmts to soothe him...he is the devil!!!

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