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TNT1005
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Older child while in Hospital
Now that i am getting closer to due date I am really stressing about my DS while i am in the hospital. More so the actual labor/delivery because DH wont be with him either. he is a mommys boy & loves routine.
My mom will help out with him, but that makes me feel guilty too bc i know she wants to come up during labor or right after delivery. I have a babysitter on call BUT only for nigths after someone already puts him to sleep. I only have my mom & sister and brother in law to help out with him while i am in Hospital & daycare if i go Monday Through Friday. Which is ok bc he is used to them and that makes me feel more comfortable. I am jsut starting to feel so guilty and guilty for feelng i want this to come & hurry up so i can get back to my DS right away, I know i shouldnt be so worried & need to focus on the moment with the new baby & this great experience.
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Posted 7/30/14 12:21 PM  |
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
What we did was my mom stayed over the night before I gave birth. That way she was with DS in the morning. Then when DD arrived she took DS and met up with the rest of the family at the hospital. I had one of my brothers designated to look after DS so he could walk around, go to the play room, look at the fish tank.
I also had toys (new) for DS from the baby.
When everyone came to meet the baby, I had DS on the bed with me. The nurse then brought DD from the nursery to come to the room and meet everyone. This way it was the new baby joining the family. I did not want DS to feel replaced by seeing a baby in my arms. I then got up and surrounded DS with some pillows so he could hold the baby too.
At night my parents stayed at my house with DS and DH stayed at the hospital with me in the husband bed. (The couch turns into a bed for husbands.) My parents brought DS or one or both came to the hospital for 3 days. On the 4th day DH brought me home.
I had a repeat c/s since DD was transverse breech so I knew the day of delivery ahead of time.
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| Posted 7/30/14 12:29 PM |
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MommyToE
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Older child while in Hospital
i had a scheduled c section and we had my DD at the hospital in the waiting room with my parents and inlaws and my sister. the nurses thought i was crazy but i wanted her there. i had a bookbag full of new toys and we were at withrop and they had a water fountain outside so she went for walks there and to the cafeteria. my husband went out to check on her right after the baby was delivered so this is very different if you are going natural. she came to the hospital everyday with my husband and stayed for as long as she could last then he took her home. i think he came back at night once and my mom watched my daughter. she adjusted and loved spending time with my parents. she was 4 at the time. she is a big helper and "helped" with the baby in the hospital and the nurses were great to her and gave her big sister pins and bracelets. we were so worried about her and everyone gave her so much attention and i focused on the baby and enjoyed the new beginning again. the baby slept a lot when we got home so that gave me time with my older daughter.
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| Posted 7/30/14 12:44 PM |
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
When it was time to go to the hospital my mom came over to be with DD and then my MILL joined her so DD was with both grandmas. I was in labor most of the day so by the time Ds was born it was kinda too late for them to come so everyone visited the next day. I was worried about DD bc I hadn't spent the night away from her but it worked out fine. She was happy with her grandmas and excited about her baby brother coming. I also just liked having the first night with just DS and DH.
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| Posted 7/30/14 1:23 PM |
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cheryl28
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
I was so freaked out about this. I live away from family and when dd2 was born we were in Boston the family in NY. I had an arrangement with a friend that I could call her and she would come no matter what time. Then my inlaws would come as soon as they could. I wound up being 4 days late and it was a Sat. I was so nervous about dd1. But my friend came over at 4 am (god bless her lol) and we called my inlaws and they were leaving as soon as they could. DD1 was not even phased that my friend was there when she woke up and then my inlaws relieved my friends and took dd1 and came to hospital.
I stressed over nothing. It all went so smooth and better than I expected.
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| Posted 7/30/14 2:10 PM |
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dlj97
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Older child while in Hospital
You are stressing yourself out for no reason. It will all work out.
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| Posted 7/30/14 3:05 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Posted by dlj97
You are stressing yourself out for no reason. It will all work out.
It will 
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| Posted 7/30/14 3:22 PM |
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kahlua716
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Posted by ali120206
Posted by dlj97
You are stressing yourself out for no reason. It will all work out.
It will
I promise 
ETA: Both my 2nd and 3rd came in the middle of the night. My older child/ren were at my parents' house. They live about 2 miles from the hospital.
My mom came after delivery by herself with #2 (born at midnight) and the next morning with my older 2 with #3 (born at 3:30am).
Other than the night I was in L&D DH was home with them so it was business as usual.
ETA2: When I left DD1 to have DD2 was the first time DH and I had ever been apart from her overnight at the same time.
Message edited 7/30/2014 4:47:11 PM.
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| Posted 7/30/14 4:41 PM |
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Jpteach95
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Older child while in Hospital
I'm a nervous wreck about this too! I feel your pain! I have never been away from DS other than him going to day care. But never overnight. We have been trying to get DH to do bedtime routine to get him ready but he is resisting and crying for me. We will need to keep working at it. Same for his MOTN wakings (he still has one a night)--he screams when DH goes in. Wants only me. I'm worried sick.
I will be a scheduled c unless my body says differently. If we go as scheduled, we will drop DS off at daycare as usual. My MIL or SIL will pick him up and bring him up to hospital to visit. Like a PP we plan on my DH holding baby so I can be ready to snuggle my boy! Then he will get gifts that baby brought for him a d a chance to hold his brother.
DH will go home with him and do his nighttime routine. Hopefully that will work. Otherwise it's going to be a LONG 4 days in our house.
If I happen to go I to labor unexpectedly, MIL (lives with us) will watch him until SIL can get here. They will do daycare drop off and pick up (if its a weekday) then bring him to hospital to visit. Or just bring him if its the weekend.
Although we have a plan....I'm stressed because of his strong attachment to me lately.
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| Posted 7/30/14 9:57 PM |
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MrsO
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Don't stress. With the kids after the 1st no one really waits while your in labor. Your mom will be able to come up later - it all depends on when you deliver. These things are out of your control. You are giving her a greater gift then losing out on a night or 2 with her.
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| Posted 7/30/14 11:34 PM |
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readyfor3
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Posted by MrsO
Don't stress. With the kids after the 1st no one really waits while your in labor.
I agree with this.
Don't stress out, it sounds like you have ample coverage for your other dc. Your mom can come up after the baby is born. When I had #2 a family member came to stay with dc #1, I was in labor overnight. dc#2 arrived in the middle of the night. No one was waiting, everyone made their way to visit later that day. I really only have 1 or 2 family members that live close and can help out. You just make it work
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| Posted 7/31/14 5:57 AM |
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ali120206
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Posted by MrsO
Don't stress. With the kids after the 1st no one really waits while your in labor. Your mom will be able to come up later - it all depends on when you deliver. These things are out of your control. You are giving her a greater gift then losing out on a night or 2 with her.
Very true.
DS 2 was born at 7:29pm on a Sat evening. Hospital was 30 minutes from my house where my parents were with DS 1. They came the next morning since they were shot from spending the day with him (and waking up extra early to get there). ILs didn't make it to the hospital since DS 2 came 13 days early and they were having a party at their house the only full day I was in the hospital.
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| Posted 7/31/14 9:53 AM |
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TNT1005
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Thank You ladies.
All the replies made me feel less anxious
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| Posted 7/31/14 10:10 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Older child while in Hospital
Stop torturing yourself.
You have one child now .....in a little while, you'll have 2, and you will have NO CHOICE but to split yout time between them.
Your first child WILL BE FINE - He will not be neglected by any stretch of the immagination, and if he feels a little bit resentful of his new sibling at first, well, not to be harsh - but he'll get over it. ALL kids do. In a few days/weeks the baby will be part of his routine - a few days with Grandma while you are in the hosptial won't traumatize him.
WE worry SO much more than we need to about this stuff. Kids are very resiliant. He'll be great! Take the time to enjoy the new baby in the hospital too!
Good Luck !! 
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| Posted 7/31/14 11:25 AM |
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