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Mom0710
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
Even I'd I think it's not a bug, I err on the side of caution when it comes to vomiting. My oldest's BFF asked for a playdate and dd had puked once at night. I told the mom this and we both agreed keeping her home is the best option. Yes she was fine for the rest of the day, maybe she ate something that don't agree with her, buy why take the chance.
I don't think I would have a playdate with her again. Some people don't have any consideration for others. Her showing up over half an hour late is a big sign of that, not just the vomiting and nose dripping.
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FirstMate
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
My reaction to that would be to never have another play date with them again. Obviously, the mother is a complete inconsiderate dingbat and she will probably be raising one so no need to carry on with that friendship.
At the time, however, I would have behaved exactly as you did because otherwise it's uncomfortable. I can totally understand you feeling awkward.
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| Posted 3/18/15 2:57 PM |
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tann22
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
She should of called you first and let you decide. My kids get the bug so easily that I would of been fuming. Also showing up at 5:30 for a 4:00 playdate is a little ridiculous. If there is a next time I would plan a park date.
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| Posted 3/18/15 3:37 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
Posted by wishing2012
Thanks for all of the responses. I tend to overreact with situations, so am glad to know that my feelings were justified in this case.
I am definitely never having this mom over again. I had only met her once previously, so my husband was annoyed that I had her here. He thinks first play dates when you don't really know the person should be on neutral ground, which after this, I now agree!
I should also mention that I'm an emetophobe, which means I have a huge phobia with vomiting. So, the second she said her daughter threw up, my anxiety went through the roof.
I kept saying, are you sure it isn't a bug, and she's like, "no, she ate too much candy and was jumping, I wouldn't have brought her if she was sick." Meanwhile, she had snot dripping down her face the entire time, which didn't seem to concern the mom at all.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent ladies! I woke up this morning even more annoyed then last night. (Luckily, DD not showing any signs of sickness, knock on wood)
As a fellow emetophobe, you showed more restrain than I would have. I would have said we need to reschedule.
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| Posted 3/18/15 3:39 PM |
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sourpatchkids
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
To the parents who think a runny nose is no big deal/your kid has one all winter, fine. You know your child best and you know what is/isn't serious for your child.
However, please at least warn the other parent prior to a play date that your child has a runny nose. When DD was 18 months old, she caught RSV from a girl with a runny nose after a play date. I understand you can't quarantine your child for a drippy nose, but you really never know if it's "just allergies" or something more serious.
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| Posted 3/18/15 4:24 PM |
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wishing2012
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
Thanks again for all of the responses. It's comforting that others feel the same way and I'm not just being a drama queen.
I do also appreciate hearing from those who had differing POVs. Part of the reason I posted was to get other perspectives, bc I know that these things aren't black and white.
Just to clarify, I wasn't as annoyed by the runny nose in itself, but that the mom wasn't trying to wipe it off. I feel like it was disrepectful for her to allow her daughter to get snot all over our stuff.
And, as you all probably expected, there won't be another play date with this mom anytime soon!
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| Posted 3/18/15 7:29 PM |
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JME78
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
I would never schedule a play date with this person again simply for the fact that she had zero respect for my time!
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| Posted 3/18/15 8:07 PM |
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MayBbaby21
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
Ick! Not okay. When my kids vomit, the rule is that they don't go anywhere until they are puke-free for at least 24 hours. This summer DD threw up for the first time and I was fairly certain that it was something she ate because it was an isolated event, but I still kept her home from camp the next day, her last day of camp. I didn't want to expose anyone else in case it was a bug. That's common sense. This mom doesn't seem to have any. Coming so late is bad enough. I wouldn't look to make any future playdates with her.
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Bridex100
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Re: Play date vent and question on how to handle situation
Wrong on every level. When my kids still napped, we rarely did afternoon play dates for this reason unless we were inviting a family over for dinner.
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| Posted 3/19/15 10:48 AM |
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