PLEASE please tell me it gets better.....you can even lie if you want!

i'm sorry....it's been a long 16 weeks (DD's age) and i know she's still little....i just imagined that things with her would be easier by now. i guess b/c so many told me 3 months is a turning pt. DH and i are still running around breathless at night between 6-8 trying to quell her cries. i can't believe that at 16 weeks our nights are still the same as they were when she was 4 wks and crying. she doesn't like her swing, bouncy, mat, and now has decided she hates the stroller and walk too!!! she only like the Bjorn. i used to at least be able to walk with her. she doesn't sleep well at night and just seems overall unhappy though there are more moments popping up during the day when she smiles a lot. i don't know if it's belly issues (she's EBF) i just don't know what could make such a little thing so unhappy all the time! am i doomed?? thanks for listening i am just at the end of my rope....

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sorry... Hope it gets better.

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It will get better. There will be good days and bad days, but it will get better. I think we all feel this way sometimes. I know I do.

Vent whenever you need to. I know it helps me to know other people are in the same boat!

Hang in there!!!

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Have you spoken to your pediatrician? My son cried everywhere, in the car, stroller, swing and I constantly danced with him to calm him. Turned out he had reflux and once medicated, he got so much better. His only symptim was a slight cough. He became a very easy going baby that could be easily taken anywhere including a restaurant. Good luck. Keep faith. and inlist help in the meantime

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Things didnt get better until he was 5 mts - I remember waiting for the 3 mt mark and then asking - what the HELL??? Because it didnt get better than... but it DOES get better!

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hmm...never really thought of reflux b/c dd doesn't spit up much or burp and i thought that's what reflux is... i will surely talk to my ped. this month! thank you all so much for your suggestions, honesly and good thoughts!

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i would definatly talk to your ped as there maybe something medically wrong like someone said maybe reflux that is causing your baby such discomfort. it does get better though that i can promise just hang in there and if the bjorn works then think of it as time you are bonding and enjoy the closeness it brings.

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IT GETS BETTER!!!!!!!! TRUST ME!!! To this day I can't believe that I am actually giving advise to new mommies. I say it all the time. We went through a VERY hard time with DD. Search my past posts! ANd now at 4 months, I don't even remember how bad it was... even though, I know it was bad.

I PROMISE you - before you know it, you'll be where we are, telling someone that it gets easier.

You have to be patient. You have to take deep breaths. You have to know that there is an end to it all. Just like labor - there is and end to it always.

Don't give yourself a time line. I know the magic # is 3 months, but you really have to allow yourself to get through ONE DAY AT A TIME. Before you know it, you'll be looking back.

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It does get better! But, I would definately talk to your pediatritian asap, because it could be gas or even an allergy.

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Have hope....4 months was our turning point!! Before that, DD was just as miserable as could be. She'd cry from 8PM off and on until sometimes 2AM. It was terrible and I thought it would never pass. Then....viola...it just did! Honestly, it happened when DH and I were at our breaking point. It's as if someone was watching us and said, "ok, this poor couple has had enough; let's give them a break". She still a very sensitive disposition at 1 year old but she's not a grump anymore.

Are you getting any help? I had my SIL coming over almost daily to just give me breather and although it didn't feel like it at the time...it helped. I got to sleep for a little bit (if I could ignore the crying down the hall) or run out to the store. Make sure that somehow you get a break, if not, it can become all consuming.

Hang in there!

ETA: I was EBFing also. I tried taking milk out of my diet to see if maybe she had a milk allergy but it didn't make a difference. That's a worth a try for you though.

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I am not lying when I say that is WILL get better .. it will it REALLY will.

I never thought it would get better either, and I actually hated when people told me it would -- it made me depressed because I simply could NOT believe I would ever have a happy baby . He did have reflux issues mind you, but even with that being treated with medication and formula changes, he was just a colicky little guy. And as you said, the 3 month point was not the magical moment that was promised for us either! I think my DS was closer to 5 months old before he dramatically improved and stopped having such awful crying fits all the time..

But hopefully this will give you something to look forward to .. my DS was a colicky, cranky, miserable little infant and now at nearly 1 year old he is one of the happies little boys you'll ever meet and is FULL of personality.. and I'm sure the same will hold true for your DC

Hang in there.. many of us have been there and know how tough it is but I repeat (and will keep repeating) it DOES get BETTER

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My niece was a LOT like this- we would start to dread when they would come over since she would start my DD crying since she never stopped.

She is now a delightful 11 month old. I won't lie and say she doesn't get moody still, she does but she is sooo much better and so fun to be around. I would say their turning point came at 6 months.

Hang in there

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thank you all so much for your replys! i feel better knowing there is hope for DD! (and DH and i!)

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Yes, it does get much better!! My DD was the same way. I tried the swing again and she loved it and that was all she would sleep in. She finally settled down at 6 months and was a whole new baby. I know it's hard, but things will change.

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I think it comes in waves, a good period, a bad one and you have to just roll with each and appreciate the good phases knowing and expecting a not so good one in the future.

I wish I could say it gets better soon, but My Son is the same age...so I dont have much experience, but you will handle it. Have faith your doing a great job!