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Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
I will be returning to teaching full time in September and DD will be going to daycare (she's 16 months). We enrolled her in August for 2days/week so that she could get acclimated to her new environment (and for us to get used to it, too!). She started Wednesday and we took her for a half day. They said she did great and didn't ask for us really. However, when we picked her up, she saw us and started hysterically crying (broke my heart!). Her teachers said she was completely fine all morning.
Today, we left her for a longer period, including nap time. Well, the other kids her age sleep on cots and I had a feeling she'd have a hard time (she still sleeps in her crib). I called at 12:30 and spoke to her teacher - all the other kids were asleep and she was laying on her cot with the teacher keeping her company and rubbing her back trying to get her to sleep. Apparently, she did relax but never napped  Picked her up at 3 and again, she saw us, and started hysterically crying. They said she was okay today, but definitely a little more upset and cried a tiny bit.
I KNOW this takes time for her to get used to, but I am feeling like such a horrible mommy for leaving her there all day, when she didn't nap and was obviously upset. I KNOW in the long run this is best for her - so when she goes full time in a month it's not a shock to her system, but I can't help but feel like a failure today.
I could use all the hugs and advice you can spare
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
It will definitely get easier. Every day that she goes, it will get a little easier for both of you. 
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| Posted 7/30/10 8:08 PM |
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christy
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
My kids are starting daycare soon too. My heart is breaking just thinking about it. Hope it gets easier!
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| Posted 7/30/10 8:13 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
 I hope she adjusts very quickly!
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| Posted 7/30/10 8:15 PM |
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babyquestion
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
Posted by christy
My kids are starting daycare soon too. My heart is breaking just thinking about it. Hope it gets easier!
Good luck! I know how you're feeling
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| Posted 7/30/10 9:21 PM |
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ME75
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
 it totally sux in the begininning! i feel for you both b/c i've been there. just know in a little while this will become her 2nd home and she will be totally acclimated to it! hang in there!!!!!
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| Posted 7/30/10 9:23 PM |
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aawww
Now my heart is breaking for you and terrified for me
DD is starting daycare next month too
just 2 days a week but
Im sure its going to get better
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| Posted 7/30/10 9:29 PM |
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LulaBell
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
My DD will be starting in September also and I'm having a really hard time with it.
 that it gets better!
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| Posted 7/30/10 9:33 PM |
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organichic
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
it definitely gets better.. once they adjust and have a great time, it makes you feel so much better. Chloe started daycare at 12 months (18 months now) and although she is not crazy about me leaving her (she's a little clingy) she has a great time all day. It's an adjustment for everyone
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| Posted 7/30/10 9:46 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
tons of these it can be hard but it gets so much better
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| Posted 7/30/10 10:03 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
It is difficult in the beginning but it does get easier. Now DD asks to go to school.
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| Posted 7/30/10 10:05 PM |
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babyquestion
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
Thank you everyone! I appreciate the feedback. I'm just feeling like such a bad mommy right now and the guilt is overwhelming
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| Posted 7/30/10 10:31 PM |
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d-h2008
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
First off
My mom owns her own daycare center, I worked with her for years... I have seen so many different kinds of children and how they react.
MY honest opinion.. with her only being in the daycare 2X a week it'll take a little longer for her to get used to it. The part-timers at our daycare always took longer to adjust than the full-timers. Its like once they JUST start getting used to it.. they go home for 3-4 days and when they come back its like they are starting from square 1. I bet when she goes full time you will recognize the difference!
If it makes you feel better we have had kids that scream their heads off and hyperventilate when their parents leave and after a few days/weeks... WOW you wouldnt believe me when I tell you they cry when they have to go home because they want to stay at daycare just a litte longer!!
IT WILL GET BETTER, no doubt in my mind. 
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| Posted 7/30/10 10:31 PM |
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babyquestion
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier (daycare related)
Posted by d-h2008
First off
My mom owns her own daycare center, I worked with her for years... I have seen so many different kinds of children and how they react.
MY honest opinion.. with her only being in the daycare 2X a week it'll take a little longer for her to get used to it. The part-timers at our daycare always took longer to adjust than the full-timers. Its like once they JUST start getting used to it.. they go home for 3-4 days and when they come back its like they are starting from square 1. I bet when she goes full time you will recognize the difference!
If it makes you feel better we have had kids that scream their heads off and hyperventilate when their parents leave and after a few days/weeks... WOW you wouldnt believe me when I tell you they cry when they have to go home because they want to stay at daycare just a litte longer!!
IT WILL GET BETTER, no doubt in my mind.
THANK YOU!!
I know it's tough now because she's only going two days a week - and like you said, once she starts to get the hang of it, she's home again for a long stretch. It's just so rough seeing her upset, even if she's not THAT upset - she's usually such a happy, carefree toddler!
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| Posted 7/31/10 8:19 AM |
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