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preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

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Laura1976

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preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

DD is 4 and is in nursery school.
Over the past 2 months, we've been invited to 3 or 4 birthday parties for kids from her school. All of which, I have gotten a sitter for my 2 1/2 year old twins.

When we have arrived at these parties, I've noticed that all the other moms have their 2 year olds with them. Both house parties and parties at places (my gym, white post). The majority of these 2 year olds are in class with my twins.

Am I to assume that I am able to bring my twins or do you think these people asked or their 2 year olds were actually invited. A lot of the other mothers are in a bit of an "inner circle", so I am wondering if they got a special invite...

Posted 5/17/11 8:14 PM
 
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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

i would not assume they were invited unless the invitation specifically had their names on it. maybe these parents who brought their other children to these parties are close friends with them?

i usually go by who the invitation is addressed for. if it has only ONE childs name on it, then that is who i bring.

Posted 5/17/11 8:24 PM
 

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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

There are some parties where both of my kids are invited and some where they are not. If DD is not invited then she stays home with DH. Sometimes I think it is an inner circle type thing though. Also after I get to parties with DS the mom will say where is DD. I feel that if her name is not on the invite then I don't bring her. I have had some parents ask to bring the younger sibling when their DH is OOT.

Posted 5/17/11 8:33 PM
 

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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

For home parties I might ask when I RSVPed.

For party places, I wouldn't ask since I wouldn't want the person to pay more for my extra kids.

For my own parties-which have only been at home-I write on the invite that siblings are welcome so folks can bring their whole family if they want.

Posted 5/17/11 8:35 PM
 

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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

It is possible that they asked the host to bring the younger sibling because they were unable to get a sitter. We have been to a few parties recently where some parents don't "get" that the younger child isn't really welcome (the parents have asked the host - even offering to pay if it is an issue!). I am friend with the hosts of these parties and I still wouldn't bring my little one unless it was absolutely necessary!
The ONLY time I even asked someone if I could bring my LO was the day DH got home from a business trip to Hong Kong. He thought he would be OK staying home with the little one, he didn't realize how the time change would really affect him. I called the mother the day of the party and asked her if it was OK.

Posted 5/17/11 8:36 PM
 

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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

i leave my 2 year old at home unless the parents have specifically stated she is welcome to come. but i have shown up at parties and people ask, "where is DD#2?" assuming she would tag along. i never assume though, if i am in a bind and "need" to bring her i would ask beforehand...

DD#1 is having her party this weekend and i have specifically invited select siblings of parents who i am friends with. people who bring younger siblings will not be able to participate because the rule is "4 and up" on the gymnastics floor. i am going under the assumption that DD#2 is not going to participate (although depending on situations and parent supervision the rules are bent) and that other younger siblings will join her in the area with the adults.

Message edited 5/17/2011 8:42:28 PM.

Posted 5/17/11 8:41 PM
 

shapla79
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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

I was in a similar situation and just called the other mom asking if it was okay for me to bring the uninvited sibling due to babysitter issues. I figured better safe to ask than surprise the host!

Message edited 5/17/2011 8:42:31 PM.

Posted 5/17/11 8:41 PM
 

Lillykat
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Re: preschool birthday parties and uninvited siblings

I never assume that my 2 year old is invited. We are going through the same thing now - While most of the mom's do leave their younger siblings at home there are a few that always bring them.

If the invite is just in DD#1's name then I find someone to watch DD#2, but occasionally I get one to the X family - so then both girls are invited. I just responded no to one of DD#1's friends b.c my DD#2 will only stay with DH or my mom and my mom will be out of town that day and DH is in a new job with no personal time until the end of June. This mom was really nice and insisted I bring DD#2 which I was uncomfortable with but agreed.

I would say if the sibling is invited bring them but if not then find a sitter or rsvp no.

Message edited 5/17/2011 9:01:06 PM.

Posted 5/17/11 9:00 PM
 
 

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