Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

A friend of my SIL who I do know socially invited me to a Purse party to help out her sister's kid who is starting her own business. I was pretty annoyed since even though I know her, she never invited me to any other occasion at her home.

Rude, right? Or am I over-reacting?

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

I think it's rude, it's like saying you're not good enough to socialize with, but come and buy some of my stuff so I can make money off of you....I would make up an excuse and not go

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With those types of parties there is a lot of pressure from the consultant on the host to invite as many people as possible so they make more commission...trust me I used to do it...I hated it!

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O agree with the pressure to invite people.

I don't think I would invite those people unless I felt they might be specificallyi interested in what was being sold.

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

rude---if i've NEVER been invited to your home before as a party guest--and the first time is a party that raises money for the host......yeah sorry i think that's a little rude.

to each their own--but i wouldn't feel very welcomed--i'd feel like they are trying to make a quick buck off of you

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Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

I am going to be brutally honest here, and this might rub some people the wrong way, but I loathe all of these "parties" that people constantly throw. They are not parties at all, they are simply a way to get you to part with your hard earned money on shiit that you don't want, don't need and never would have bought had you not been "invited."

This person is using you for your potential as a client. I would be annoyed too. You never invite me over before and now suddenly I am on your "A" list? No thanks.

My sister is a consultant for soooooooo many "parties" I have lost count. She constantly invites the same people over and over again expecting them to fund her salary. It got to the point where I told her that if I want jewelry, i'll go to a jeweler, if I want a purse, I will go to Bloomies, if I want cookware, I'll buy it at Bed Bath and Beyond and if I want a damn d ildo, I will go to babes in toyland where they have a bigger selection and way better prices.

I have not been invited to a party since.

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

I don't think of it as rude. I think of it as a business. If someone has a product & you're interested in it, than go. If not, than don't. Or you can go, see what she has & if you don't like it, don't buy it.

Since I have more than enough purses, I wouldn't go.

eta. I hate parties like that also but if I'm not interested in what they're selling than skip it. You shouldn't feel obligated.

Message edited 1/7/2008 4:25:54 PM.

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

I think it's totally rude. I have a "friend" who is forever having a Pampered this or a Home Decorating that...this is how she supplements her income. She literally has one 1x a month. There have been events/parties that I feel I should have been invited to and were not, yet she doesn't forget my address when it comes to the 'buy some crap at my house parties' she has. Too bad I forget her # at the same time

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Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

If I wouldn't be invited to that person's home otherwise, I wouldn't even consider attending. When I attend those parties I always feel obligated to buy something to help my friend out.

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

Rude - if she wouldn't invite you to something with meaning/purpose, why should she invite you to something that is going to take your $$?

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

I find it rude.

Then again, I won't go to these parties even if it's someone I socialize with regularly. I don't lie about it either - I just tell them it's not my thing.

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

i get these invites all the time, sometimes from people that normally would not invite me to a party. i agree that there is a certain amount of pressure to invite as many people as possible. some of them encourage bringing a friend so you get a higher attendance w/o inviting people you normally don't socialize with.

i think they are similar to a pyramid scheme, you only make money from other people buying and having parties too.

i am a sucker though, i almost always go and buy a few small things. most of the time there is food, drink and a relatively good time. i can't say i get upset over these things. either you go or you don't.

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If I was told up front that it was a "selling" party, I wouldn't be offended. If I am interested in the stuff, I go, if not, I don't. In this case though, it seems like you were lured there under false pretenses that would annoy me.

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Eh.. I wouldn't be offended or upset about it unless she was DEMANDING my presence or trying to pull a guilt trip over on me. It's an invitation - I would go if I was remotely interested in purses and I would decline if the party held no allure to me. I don't really think it's worth getting hot under the collar over. But that's just my opinion!

ETA: I would be a little about her attempt to shine you on by making you think it was a regular get together rather than being honest about the purpose. That's just sketchy.

Message edited 1/7/2008 5:25:37 PM.

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Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

Posted by neenie

Posted by nrthshgrl

I don't think of it as rude. I think of it as a business. If someone has a product & you're interested in it, than go. If not, than don't. Or you can go, see what she has & if you don't like it, don't buy it.

Since I have more than enough purses, I wouldn't go.

eta. I hate parties like that also but if I'm not interested in what they're selling than skip it. You shouldn't feel obligated.

I agree.

I almost alwaysw decline these 'parties'.. even when its my good friends throwing them- its just stuff that i dont need. I don't get annoyed at them inviting me and hope they dont get annoyed by me declining

Message edited 1/7/2008 6:18:12 PM.

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Posted by Kara

Posted by neenie

Posted by nrthshgrl

I don't think of it as rude. I think of it as a business. If someone has a product & you're interested in it, than go. If not, than don't. Or you can go, see what she has & if you don't like it, don't buy it.

Since I have more than enough purses, I wouldn't go.

eta. I hate parties like that also but if I'm not interested in what they're selling than skip it. You shouldn't feel obligated.

I agree.

I almost alwaysw decline these 'parties'.. even when its my good friends throwing them- its just stuff that i dont need. I don't get annoyed at them inviting me and hope they dont get annoyed by me declining

I agree that I don't get annoyed at getting invited... I just don't go. They don't ever get upset by it. I'm pretty up front about not liking these parties, but I don't get upset if I do get invited. I do find it rude if I get invited by someone I don't otherwise socialize with.

I think, though, if my SIL had never invited me to her home and only invited me for one of these parties, I would be a little bit miffed. I wouldn't lose sleep over it, but I would find it rude.

Message edited 1/7/2008 6:17:06 PM.

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Posted by CkGm

Posted by Kara

Posted by neenie

Posted by nrthshgrl

I don't think of it as rude. I think of it as a business. If someone has a product & you're interested in it, than go. If not, than don't. Or you can go, see what she has & if you don't like it, don't buy it.

Since I have more than enough purses, I wouldn't go.

eta. I hate parties like that also but if I'm not interested in what they're selling than skip it. You shouldn't feel obligated.

I agree.

I almost alwaysw decline these 'parties'.. even when its my good friends throwing them- its just stuff that i dont need. I don't get annoyed at them inviting me and hope they dont get annoyed by me declining

I agree that I don't get annoyed at getting invited... I just don't go. They don't ever get upset by it. I'm pretty up front about not liking these parties, but I don't get upset if I do get invited. I do find it rude if I get invited by someone I don't otherwise socialize with.

I think, though, if my SIL had never invited me to her home and only invited me for one of these parties, I would be a little bit miffed. I wouldn't lose sleep over it, but I would find it rude.

OH, must clarify- this is a friend of my SIL who has many fun parties at her home that I have NEVER been invited too- then suddenly I get an invite to this purse party. This was NOT my SIL.
IF she read this and thought it was about her I would be so dead!

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

I never go to these things either so don't feel bad. I got invited to one in a couple weeks........it's supposed to be a "spa party". I heard that only one person ends up getting "pampered" though because they ask for just one volunteer to have all the stuff done.

All these "parties" also tend to = rip-off to me.

When I went to my 10-year HS reunion, we had our emails listed and I started getting all these random emails to support this one or that one's Mary Kay business. No thanks!

Re: Random Q- If someone wouldn't normally invite you to a party, should they invite you to one where the person is selling stuff, like Pampered Chef?

If I had never been invited before then found out I was invited only to find out it was a purse party. Yes, I would feel totally used and I would not attend.

I have attented some of them because I was curious or needed things. I decline if I don't want to waste my money and time.