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jams92
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Religion and holidays wwyd?
Dh and I are jewish, had a Jewish wedding and are raising dd Jewish
FIL (is not Jewish but MIL is) came over and gave dd a Santa Stuffed animal last night. When Dh showed it to me fil was already gone. I told him I wanted him to talk to fil and explain we are raising dd Jewish. I want her to get hanukkah gifts not christmas gifts etc. of course she will learn about Christmas etc but I don't want her to come to expect Christmas gifts. Dh thinks there's no need to discuss and if fil wants to give Christmas gifts its no big deal. Am I overreacting? Would you say something to fil
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Posted 10/14/13 11:00 AM  |
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LSP2005
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
We are Jewish too and I would not say something to FIL. It is his holiday and I can understand why he would want to share it with his granddaughter. We celebrate holidays with our friends and family. My kids have received pens and lollipops with Santa on them and I am fine with it. Now if it was a cresh/manger like the little people one, that I would say something but for Santa, no I don't seem him as a religious figure.
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| Posted 10/14/13 11:14 AM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
Posted by LSP2005
We are Jewish too and I would not say something to FIL. It is his holiday and I can understand why he would want to share it with his granddaughter..
This. It's just a gift. Religion is different.
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| Posted 10/14/13 11:16 AM |
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
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Posted by LSP2005
We are Jewish too and I would not say something to FIL. It is his holiday and I can understand why he would want to share it with his granddaughter..
This. It's just a gift. Religion is different.
This is the way I see it too.
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| Posted 10/14/13 11:21 AM |
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alli3131
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Religion and holidays wwyd?
I wouldn't say anything .
Santa is not a religious item.
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| Posted 10/14/13 11:22 AM |
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Religion and holidays wwyd?
You're actually lucky. Your child will learn about both religions and can still follow your teachings. Religion can be shared while still maintaining your beliefs in your own. I played with dreidels and chocolate coins as a kid. Ate latkes and I'm not Jewish. I loved learning what my friends did in their religion. I've even been to a mosque and I'm not Muslim.
I think it's kind of cool that she can learn about another belief system and I don't think it will derail anything. :)
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| Posted 10/14/13 11:28 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
Posted by Maybe-Baybe
Posted by ANewDayHasCome
Posted by LSP2005
We are Jewish too and I would not say something to FIL. It is his holiday and I can understand why he would want to share it with his granddaughter..
This. It's just a gift. Religion is different.
This is the way I see it too.
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I wouldn't say anything. My 4 year old goes to public school and learns about all the holidays, but knows he's Jewish. We talk about it at Temple when we went for high holidays and with Hanukkah coming up. If your LO goes to public school and comes home with Santa stuff it may be cute to teach her that that's something you can give to Grandpa bc that's what he celebrates. When DS made cute Santa stuff we gave it to BIL bc he's Catholic. It's a good way to teach her about all holidays as long as she learns what she is.
Funny, DS2 goes to a Temple for school so he knows more than us sometimes. He does Shabbot every Friday and could say some of the prayer and only 2. LOL
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| Posted 10/14/13 12:04 PM |
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01ellie
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
You're actually lucky. Your child will learn about both religions and can still follow your teachings. Religion can be shared while still maintaining your beliefs in your own. I played with dreidels and chocolate coins as a kid. Ate latkes and I'm not Jewish. I loved learning what my friends did in their religion. I've even been to a mosque and I'm not Muslim.
I think it's kind of cool that she can learn about another belief system and I don't think it will derail anything. :)
i agree with this.
DH and I are Hindu and our girls are being raised in our religion but we expose them to as many other cultures as possible. i want them to know who they are but also know that there are other different religions out there and to be tolerant of those religions.
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| Posted 10/14/13 12:08 PM |
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Religion and holidays wwyd?
I think it's a good idea to keep an open mind about all religions, no matter how you are raising your child. It will benefit her in the long run, esp since she has family that celebrates both holidays.
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| Posted 10/14/13 12:47 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
Hm. That's tough. Initially I think I'd probably agree with you (no shocker there!) and want DH to say something to FIL. But maybe I'd wait to see how the holidays go before he says anything.
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| Posted 10/14/13 1:39 PM |
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AllyMally
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Religion and holidays wwyd?
I would talk to FIl and explain while you appreciate and understand that he doesn't practice Judaism you do and that is the religion you are raising your child in. It's not just a gift. There is a religious undertone. I would never give another person a Christian based gift if they were not Christian. I would also not give a Jewish person a Santa gift or Christmas gift. I would imagine you are teaching your child about the holidays and activities that go with it. He could give Hanukkah gifts. The gift is NOT for him but your child. I think it's very rude. My aunt is an Atheist and yet buys my children adorable bible cd's, collectibles and movies. Not because she wants to but because it's a gift for THEM and they will love them.
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| Posted 10/14/13 2:07 PM |
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AllyMally
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
Posted by alli3131
I wouldn't say anything .
Santa is not a religious item.
No he's not, but I rarely hear or see many Jewish people with trees or taking kids to see Santa. That's the issue. Plus when you talk about things like Christmas and Hanukkah for a lot of people it IS about Religion. Just because so many separate the 2 doesn't mean others don't teach it together.
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| Posted 10/14/13 2:10 PM |
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Re: Religion and holidays wwyd?
Posted by AllyMally
I would talk to FIl and explain while you appreciate and understand that he doesn't practice Judaism you do and that is the religion you are raising your child in. It's not just a gift. There is a religious undertone. I would never give another person a Christian based gift if they were not Christian. I would also not give a Jewish person a Santa gift or Christmas gift. I would imagine you are teaching your child about the holidays and activities that go with it. He could give Hanukkah gifts. The gift is NOT for him but your child. I think it's very rude. My aunt is an Atheist and yet buys my children adorable bible cd's, collectibles and movies. Not because she wants to but because it's a gift for THEM and they will love them.
I agree
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| Posted 10/14/13 2:48 PM |
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JennZ
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Religion and holidays wwyd?
My cousins were raised jewish, (my uncle is catholic, aunt is jewish) they had a tree and celebrated both. They did Christmas with us, and Hanukkah with their other side. I wouldnt say anything.
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