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Katareen
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by Bellaocchi
I added an update because I wanted to clarify that there was no check given. It was a small amount of cash.
Like I said, if I did get scammed, it was a small amount and therefore, I'm not worried about it.
Sometimes I wonder why I post on this site. So many people on here do not read the entire post, respond to it stating false information and then it spirals out of control.
I used to post on here often and I've been on here less and less because of the constant drama.
I have been on this board for years, each year it gets worse.
These type of posters are ruining this site.
Have a great Sunday all!
I get that you are defensive because you were possibly scammed. I would probably be too, and try to convince myself it was legit. But, no one was attacking you, or being rude at all. Nothing has spiraled out of control. People were offering up reasons why it's probably a scam. They were trying to HELP you by saying to stop payment on the check.
Exactly...and if you thought it might be a scam as you stated in your update--what was the intent of your initial post??
You lost a small amount of cash. Lesson learned.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
I'm glad you posted, because if you are not faced with this situation, you probably would not be aware that there is assistance out there for people who have special need's kids and it does not involve having to go door to door for cash.
I agree with whoever posted about going around door to door. I can't really think of anything that seems really legit these days if they are coming to your door to ask for a donation.
I have had people ask me for assistance for autism, and it's always where you can see the link to their site, where you pay there.
I don't think anyone was giving you a hard time and again, I hope this helps someone else out who may be considering giving to a random person who goes door to door.
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Kitten1929
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Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
What they're doing is on them. If it happened to me, and I had given them a small amount of money, I'd chalk it up to a lesson learned. I am not sure why you would offer money then come on here to complain or question it. You did what you did (or your husband did). In the future, decline to donate anything if you think it is a scam.
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
I never give anything to anyone going door to door. I always say, leave the information in the mailbox and I will look it over. If they can only get donations at that exact moment, then I believe they are not a reputable charity.
To the OP, even if you were scammed... They obviously need the money. So you guys helped people in need.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by Katareen
Exactly...and if you thought it might be a scam as you stated in your update--what was the intent of your initial post??
You lost a small amount of cash. Lesson learned.
That's what I'm trying to figure out ... what was the intent of the OP? Just to share that she's a good person and donated to people in need? Or that she was suspicious (but not really wanting to hear that others agree?)? Kinda confusing ... but either way, I think it's an odd way to collect donations but hopefully it was legit!
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I never give anything to anyone going door to door. I always say, leave the information in the mailbox and I will look it over. If they can only get donations at that exact moment, then I believe they are not a reputable charity.
To the OP, even if you were scammed... They obviously need the money. So you guys helped people in need.
ITA. You probably felt pressured because you saw all of your neighbors donations and thought it was legit. You gave the money with good intentions and at the end of the day that's all that matters.
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Diane
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by MichLiz213
Did they say when it was? The walk for Autism Speaks isn't until October.
that is whast I was thinking. I wouldnt even ask a stranger for donations
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
don't all those charity walks suggest NOT going door to door? Don't they advise to only solicit to family and friends? Coworkers? Can anyone confirm? I'm curious.
I'm not saying never donate or help or assume everyone is a scammer.. just be smart. you can donate later, after you investigate and see it's legit. what's the rush, kwim? People who solicit should understand this and back it all up with info, etc. they should provide their license, that kind of thing.
For people who say, well it was only 5 bucks - they could be scouting out your home quickly as you go towards your pocketbook and seeing what you have in your home. you just never know.
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lynnd126
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
I think she posted bc it made her feel sad and also was wondering if anyone else in the area had them come.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by MorningCuppaCoffee
I'm glad you posted, because if you are not faced with this situation, you probably would not be aware that there is assistance out there for people who have special need's kids and it does not involve having to go door to door for cash.
I agree with whoever posted about going around door to door. I can't really think of anything that seems really legit these days if they are coming to your door to ask for a donation.
I have had people ask me for assistance for autism, and it's always where you can see the link to their site, where you pay there.
I don't think anyone was giving you a hard time and again, I hope this helps someone else out who may be considering giving to a random person who goes door to door.
exactly. you could have saved someone here who now saw your post. Don't feel badly..everyone here honestly is just looking out for you & your family
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meloyellow
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by lynnd126
I think she posted bc it made her feel sad and also was wondering if anyone else in the area had them come.
exactly. that's the emotion i got from it...was that this made the poster feel sad for the family and the kids and she was sharing the "sad story". The tone made it seem like the child was terminally ill though. maybe the OP doesn't know what autism is?
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adeline27
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by Bellaocchi
I too, saw that it isn't until October and said to my husband that it was strange that they didn't ask to write a check direct to the foundation.
I thought you wrote a check based on this post. No need to take offense about it
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ElizaRags35
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by Bellaocchi
I added an update because I wanted to clarify that there was no check given. It was a small amount of cash.
Like I said, if I did get scammed, it was a small amount and therefore, I'm not worried about it.
Sometimes I wonder why I post on this site. So many people on here do not read the entire post, respond to it stating false information and then it spirals out of control.
I used to post on here often and I've been on here less and less because of the constant drama.
I have been on this board for years, each year it gets worse.
These type of posters are ruining this site.
Have a great Sunday all!
I get that you are defensive because you were possibly scammed. I would probably be too, and try to convince myself it was legit. But, no one was attacking you, or being rude at all. Nothing has spiraled out of control. People were offering up reasons why it's probably a scam. They were trying to HELP you by saying to stop payment on the check.
Exactly!!
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
There is a girl on my street with Autism and I donate to her family every year. I too live in Lindenhurst, so I wonder if it is the same family.
The donation sheets went out a few weeks ago.
Thanks for donating!!
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by Bellaocchi
I added an update because I wanted to clarify that there was no check given. It was a small amount of cash.
Like I said, if I did get scammed, it was a small amount and therefore, I'm not worried about it.
Sometimes I wonder why I post on this site. So many people on here do not read the entire post, respond to it stating false information and then it spirals out of control.
I used to post on here often and I've been on here less and less because of the constant drama.
I have been on this board for years, each year it gets worse.
These type of posters are ruining this site.
Have a great Sunday all!
I get that you are defensive because you were possibly scammed. I would probably be too, and try to convince myself it was legit. But, no one was attacking you, or being rude at all. Nothing has spiraled out of control. People were offering up reasons why it's probably a scam. They were trying to HELP you by saying to stop payment on the check.
Exactly!!
I think she might be referring to the two posters above who questioned her purpose of posting. One stated the following--
"That's what I'm trying to figure out ... what was the intent of the OP? Just to share that she's a good person and donated to people in need? "
I don't think for a minute she was defensive about people telling her to stop payment on a check.
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GioiaMia
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by meloyellow
when you raise money for something like "autism speaks" the money goes to the foundation for research...not to personal doctors bills. And Autism isn't like cancer...it's not something you go to the hospital and rack up bills for. It's a neural social behavior disorder.
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I just want to say this is not true at all. There are countless doctors visits, hospital visits, treatment consultations, medications and for some families, long term care at a facility. A normal dentist visit can turn into a procedure performed at a hospital with anasthesia.
There are families who need money directly due to autism, and wont just benefit from donating towards a cure.
Sorry to go off topic a bit, just wanted to clarify.
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adeline27
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
I think talking about autism and the "needs" for it is very difficult to talk about. Each case is so different. You can have mild symptoms of it to severe.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by GioiaMia
Posted by meloyellow
when you raise money for something like "autism speaks" the money goes to the foundation for research...not to personal doctors bills. And Autism isn't like cancer...it's not something you go to the hospital and rack up bills for. It's a neural social behavior disorder.
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I just want to say this is not true at all. There are countless doctors visits, hospital visits, treatment consultations, medications and for some families, long term care at a facility. A normal dentist visit can turn into a procedure performed at a hospital with anasthesia.
There are families who need money directly due to autism, and wont just benefit from donating towards a cure.
Sorry to go off topic a bit, just wanted to clarify.
Sorry, From my Friends and family with autistic children It seems to be more diagnosis and early intervention therapy for behavioral issues though, not being laid up in a hospital bed racking up bills. MOST kids with autism are not going to be laid up in a hospital bed for days / weeks racking up hospital bills. That's not *ALWAYS* the case and of course some cases are more involved and include seizures or GI but it seems the majority of family / friends with autistic kids that I know deal solely with EI therapy and finding the right educational setting.
OP said the paper they handed her was for "autism speaks" and in that case the money would not be going directly to the family that was collecting it...unless they didn't turn in their donations. Of course families need money directly...but my point was that by donating it to a foundation it doesn't go directly to that family.
ETA: I didn't mean to generalize ALL cases into one...I just got a little taken aback bc the poster made it sound like she felt so bad for this family she was fighting tears back as if the child was going to die or something. her heart was in the right place. but the way she said the kid "didn't look right" made me think she thought autism was a life threatening disease.
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GioiaMia
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by meloyellow
Posted by GioiaMia
Posted by meloyellow
when you raise money for something like "autism speaks" the money goes to the foundation for research...not to personal doctors bills. And Autism isn't like cancer...it's not something you go to the hospital and rack up bills for. It's a neural social behavior disorder.
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I just want to say this is not true at all. There are countless doctors visits, hospital visits, treatment consultations, medications and for some families, long term care at a facility. A normal dentist visit can turn into a procedure performed at a hospital with anasthesia.
There are families who need money directly due to autism, and wont just benefit from donating towards a cure.
Sorry to go off topic a bit, just wanted to clarify.
Sorry, From my Friends and family with autistic children It seems to be more diagnosis and early intervention therapy for behavioral issues though, not being laid up in a hospital bed racking up bills. MOST kids with autism are not going to be laid up in a hospital bed for days / weeks racking up hospital bills. That's not *ALWAYS* the case and of course some cases are more involved and include seizures or GI but it seems the majority of family / friends with autistic kids that I know deal solely with EI therapy and finding the right educational setting.
OP said the paper they handed her was for "autism speaks" and in that case the money would not be going directly to the family that was collecting it...unless they didn't turn in their donations. Of course families need money directly...but my point was that by donating it to a foundation it doesn't go directly to that family.
ETA: I didn't mean to generalize ALL cases into one...I just got a little taken aback bc the poster made it sound like she felt so bad for this family she was fighting tears back as if the child was going to die or something. her heart was in the right place. but the way she said the kid "didn't look right" made me think she thought autism was a life threatening disease.
I totally understand where you are coming from! I wish that we could look at autism like that, but my nephew is on the severe end of the spectrum so I do see the other side of it. . . where its not life threatening of course but a life long, life altering, and destructive condition and I do cry for him every day. I am not "picking" on you, I just wanted to explain that sometimes it is more than behavioral or social (which I am sure you know)
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by lynnd126
I think she posted bc it made her feel sad and also was wondering if anyone else in the area had them come.
Thank you! This is Exactly why!
I'm done with this thread.
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meloyellow
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by GioiaMia
Posted by meloyellow
Posted by GioiaMia
Posted by meloyellow
when you raise money for something like "autism speaks" the money goes to the foundation for research...not to personal doctors bills. And Autism isn't like cancer...it's not something you go to the hospital and rack up bills for. It's a neural social behavior disorder.
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I just want to say this is not true at all. There are countless doctors visits, hospital visits, treatment consultations, medications and for some families, long term care at a facility. A normal dentist visit can turn into a procedure performed at a hospital with anasthesia.
There are families who need money directly due to autism, and wont just benefit from donating towards a cure.
Sorry to go off topic a bit, just wanted to clarify.
Sorry, From my Friends and family with autistic children It seems to be more diagnosis and early intervention therapy for behavioral issues though, not being laid up in a hospital bed racking up bills. MOST kids with autism are not going to be laid up in a hospital bed for days / weeks racking up hospital bills. That's not *ALWAYS* the case and of course some cases are more involved and include seizures or GI but it seems the majority of family / friends with autistic kids that I know deal solely with EI therapy and finding the right educational setting.
OP said the paper they handed her was for "autism speaks" and in that case the money would not be going directly to the family that was collecting it...unless they didn't turn in their donations. Of course families need money directly...but my point was that by donating it to a foundation it doesn't go directly to that family.
ETA: I didn't mean to generalize ALL cases into one...I just got a little taken aback bc the poster made it sound like she felt so bad for this family she was fighting tears back as if the child was going to die or something. her heart was in the right place. but the way she said the kid "didn't look right" made me think she thought autism was a life threatening disease.
I totally understand where you are coming from! I wish that we could look at autism like that, but my nephew is on the severe end of the spectrum so I do see the other side of it. . . where its not life threatening of course but a life long, life altering, and destructive condition and I do cry for him every day. I am not "picking" on you, I just wanted to explain that sometimes it is more than behavioral or social (which I am sure you know)
ugh, that really sucks. I'm sorry to hear that. I know what a rough time my aunt has with meltdowns and getting her son to speak and socialize and I know others have it way harder than her. You're right...it's not an easy topic to talk about bc there really is such a wide range.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by Bellaocchi
Posted by lynnd126
I think she posted bc it made her feel sad and also was wondering if anyone else in the area had them come.
Thank you! This is Exactly why!
I'm done with this thread.
And that she felt even worse that she questioned someone possibly in need, but gave it anyway b/c she felt it might be genuine. OP, I am sorry the responses you got were frustrating and upsetting.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
Posted by Goobster
Posted by Bellaocchi
Posted by lynnd126
I think she posted bc it made her feel sad and also was wondering if anyone else in the area had them come.
Thank you! This is Exactly why!
I'm done with this thread.
And that she felt even worse that she questioned someone possibly in need, but gave it anyway b/c she felt it might be genuine. OP, I am sorry the responses you got were frustrating and upsetting.
You did what you felt was right in your heart. Don't let that be overshadowed by "possibly" being scammed.
It's happened to me. But I still donate. More cautiously but I still throw a few dollars into a jar on the counter. Buy a raffle for a fund raiser. I like to believe there are more honest people out there than not.
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Re: Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
ita..autism is very close to my heart..if it makes u feel better that it was legit when we did the walk a few weeks ago at citi field when we registered they gave us many of those papers to bring to work,stores etc for donations in case people did not want to donate online or use a credit card
thank you for donating,i think it s a risk worth taking
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KarenK122
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Parents with two little girls walking house to house in the village of Lindenhurst
FYI - there was a walk sponsored by the EJ Foundation
for Autism REAL AID walk that started around Islip on Saturday morning and ended in Montauk Sunday night. People were asked to only walk a certain portion of the route. They may have been fundraising for that event.
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