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Mago
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Rooming with baby?
Did you/Will you be rooming with baby? Or sending baby to the nursery? What were your reasons for your decision. Trying to decide what to do. If it is an especially long/exhausting labor/delivery or c-section I know sending baby to the nursery will help mama get some rest.
No drama or judgment please. Just looking for everyone's thoughts on the subject. We took the tour at Northshore Manhasset and were surprised the nursery was completely empty. Hence, the question. Would you feel weird about your baby being the only one in the nursery? On the plus side maybe it would mean baby would get undivided attention by the nurses...
Please help a first time mom decide! Pros/cons in your experience...
Thanks!
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Mommyx03
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Rooming with baby?
I kept the baby in my room during the day and sent them to the nursery at night both times. My 1st I was nursing but I was exhausted and needed the rest. For my 2nd I was not nursing so I felt more comfortable sending her to the nursery. I feel that after labor and delivery you need to rest to heal and when you get home with the baby that will be pretty much impossible! At night there were quite a few babies in the nursery. During the day most people keep the baby with them.
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| Posted 10/4/15 3:21 PM |
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JDubs
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Wth both of my kids I sent them to the nursery each night but they were with me during the day. For baby #1 I had an exhausting labor so i def needed sleep that night and for #2 I ended up with a c section and it was hard for me to get up so I'm thankful they took the baby to the nursery at night. You shouldn't feel bad whatever you decide.
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| Posted 10/4/15 3:21 PM |
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ChristinaM128
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Nursery at night! You will need as much rest as you can the first few days in order to even remotely function while at home. And no guilt - this is what made me a better mom in the long run.
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| Posted 10/4/15 3:24 PM |
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pumpkinmom
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Rooming with baby?
I kept my baby in the room because I was nursing. I would have wanted to get woken up anyway to nurse. I wouldn't worry about it now. If you want the help, then it is there for you.
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| Posted 10/4/15 3:38 PM |
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With my first, it was a LONG induction process with close to zero sleep in a 2-3 day period for either me or my husband. I still wanted to keep her in the room with me. I was nursing her, and also just really didn't want to be separated at all. My husband did send her out though at one point during the night so that we could get some much needed sleep and I was too exhausted and mentally drained to really notice. lol. But then she came back in just a couple hours later and never left us again. I definitely preferred her there regardless of how tired I was. I plan to keep #2 with me also.
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bunnyluck
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Rooming with baby?
Honestly, I don't think it's something you can plan. You'll know the right decision for you once you're in the situation. I had a CS and we roomed in the first night and my DH (who stayed with me) convinced me to get some rest and send LO to nursery night 2 and 3.
Night one I was in such awe that even going on over 24 hours with no sleep I couldn't send him away :). I BF but had them give him formula nights 2 and 3. No issues with nipple confusion either. He is still a champ at taking bottles or breast at six months.
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phoenix913
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Re: Rooming with baby?
I had c-sections both times and formula fed. I sent both to the nursery at night. They keep them from like 10 or 11pm until about 6am. I felt it was important for me to get some rest while I had the chance. You still don't even get that much rest b/c you have people checking your vitals and asking about pain meds every few hours.
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| Posted 10/4/15 4:02 PM |
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bunnyluck
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Rooming with baby?
Also Im thinking the time of day your LO is born will likely play into it. If you deliver in the evening you may be in "mommy awe" and be more reluctant to send them to nursery. If you deliver in the morning you'll spend all day with your LO and might want/need break. I delivered at 6pm but went straight to recovery and LO had some fluid in lungs so I didn't spend real time with him till about 10-11pm...night one there was no way I was sending him :)
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AngnShaun
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With Hailey i sent her back to the nursery at night. This time i will probably keep the baby with me because i plan to try and breast feed a bit.
ETA: She was born at 6:39am so that may have had something to do with it... My induction went as smooth as possible, but i was up for a long time.
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StaceyWill
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Re: Rooming with baby?
I kept her with the the whole time, but honestly if I could do it over again, I'd have let her go to the nursery at night l. I got NO sleep at all.
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Bebelove
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Re: Rooming with baby?
When visitors left, I kept them with me for 15-20 min and sent them to the nursery each night. First kid they brought back to me for nursing. Second kid they never brought him back ( I slept through) , they gave him 3 bottles and he refused to nurse after that.
Just let the nurses know what you want ahead of time. I believe that nurse (second kid) made the decision for me, she saw me competely melt down earlier 
I kept them during the day. They literally slept all day and stayed up all night
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ElizaRags35
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Rooming with baby?
#1 I kept her the first night. Big mistake. I had just had a 65 hour induction and she was up all night. I got about 2 hours of sleep. The next night, the nurse saw how exhausted I was and asked if I wanted to send her to the nursery. I was so grateful.
#2 went to the nursery every night. I had a c section after an 81 hour failed induction. I could barely move. There was no way I could take care of her. There were a few babies in there. Some nights they were full!
Both deliveries were at stonybrook.
ETA: with #2, I was also taking oxycodone at night that made me so drowsy. I definitely could not care for DD.
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ppm80
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Rooming with baby?
I delivered at North Shore Manhasset kept my son with me the entire time except when I took a shower. Then I would wheel him to the nursery and ask that they return him to me when he woke up. I had an uncomplicated vaginal delivery and felt pretty good other than for the episiotomy wound and general exhaustion. He also barely fussed and when he did, I liked that a nurse would notice and stop by and provide some guidance. I think I was pretty lucky overall.
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| Posted 10/4/15 8:05 PM |
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petvet
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Kept DS with me 24/7 other then for necessary tests. I was bfing and got very anxious when he was away from me. My dd I had accidentky at home and chose not to go to hospital afterwards so obviously no nursery available bit I did get my own comfy bed??
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Mom1234
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Posted by bunnyluck
Honestly, I don't think it's something you can plan. You'll know the right decision for you once you're in the situation.
this is exactly what i was going to say.
its not something you plan ahead of time. I'm all for getting some sleep and letting others help me take care of my babies but i also breastfed and it was easier to keep them in the room more often than not. but it worked out nicely that they had to take him to the nursey for tests etc late at night which was a nice break
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MrsT809
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Posted by Mom1234
Posted by bunnyluck
Honestly, I don't think it's something you can plan. You'll know the right decision for you once you're in the situation.
this is exactly what i was going to say.
its not something you plan ahead of time. I'm all for getting some sleep and letting others help me take care of my babies but i also breastfed and it was easier to keep them in the room more often than not. but it worked out nicely that they had to take him to the nursey for tests etc late at night which was a nice break
Agreed. With my first I was all for rooming in but I had a long labor and delivered at night after over 36 hours with no sleep. They took her for the admissions stuff and I was so happy to get some sleep. They brought her back to nurse a few hours later and I can't even remember if they took her back again or not. I was kind of relieved but either way I was only getting an hour or two of sleep since they were coming in nonstop to check on me. My second went straight to the nicu so that was a whole different situation but I did sleep through her 3am feeding every night and let them give her a bottle of pumped milk. Again, getting woken up by nurses and doctors during the night and early morning you're still not getting a good night's rest.
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islandersgirl74
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Re: Rooming with baby?
During the day I kept the baby with me and about 10 that night I would bring her back to the nursery. There would have been no way I could have kept her with me. I was in labor throughout the entire night and didn't deliver til almost noon the next morning. I had a long and painful delivery. Way too exhausted to have keit her with me and wasn't pressured to do so. I was at Winthrop. Get your rest while you can.
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Pinkisles
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Rooming with baby?
Kept him with me but I had my husband there. He went to the nursery a few times during the day. Once when I was throwing up and once when I needed sleep.
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BsMomma2014
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Rooming with baby?
Kept him with me the entire time. you have to do what is best for you at the time.
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Hoping4baby
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Rooming with baby?
DS roomed in with me because I was EBF and it was the hospital's policy that BF babies room in. I was in labor for a long time, failed induction, followed by a C-section. My milk didn't come in the entire time I was in the hospital and he was HUNGRY. The poor thing wanted to nurse 24/7 and I got zero sleep for 3 days. Anytime I tried to send him to the nursery for a break, they would only take him for an hour. In hindsight, I wish I had him in the nursery for a night just to get some sleep to help my recovery from surgery. However, I hope to BF this one too so I will still probably room in. I'm a glutton for punishment lol.
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Katareen
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Rooming with baby?
Kept baby with me
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Posted by bunnyluck
Honestly, I don't think it's something you can plan. You'll know the right decision for you once you're in the situation.
This exactly.
I had the baby in the room with me for both pregnancies. That being said, at least for a few hours I've sent the baby to the nursery so I could sleep or rest. With my first, I had a c-section and DH went home to set up the apt the last night. DS was screaming for hours and I just couldn't physically stand up to care for him. I sent him to the nursery for a few hours.
With my second, she was up a lot one night and I was having terrible hot flashes then chills. So I sent the baby to the nursery because I didn't feel well enough to care for her and DH had to help me.
In both cases, when baby needs to eat, they bring the baby to you (if you're BFing), so it's not like I took the night "off." I just needed a few hours break. Planning for that ahead of time would've been impossible.
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NervousNell
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Re: Rooming with baby?
Sent her to the nursery every night.
I wanted to enjoy my last two nights of sleep for what would be a LONG LONG time
I am so glad I did too- I didn't sleep through the night again for over a year.
The nurses really didn't bother me over night- I was able to sleep until like 5 or 530 am when they came in for vitals
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jellybean78
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Rooming with baby?
I didn't have the option. DD had to go to the NICU. Honestly I didn't sleep well in the hospital anyway because of all the commotion, nurses in and out etc.
This time God willing if I'm able too I want to keep the baby in the room with me.
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