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LuvMy2Girls
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SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
While i sit here waiting for my company to give me answer if i can consult from home, the comments are already starting from family and friends about being a stay at home mom.
What do you say to these people?
I am already tired of hearing "What's on Oprah today?", "Must be nice to sleep in?", "Don't forget the View is on at 11am?" all sarcastic and condescending of course...
I have always been a worker, but give me a freakin break, it's hard enough for me already to make this decision, i don't need the lSAHM comments.
WHICH all you guys KNOW SAHM"s do not sit around and watch TV all day long. ya i sleep in, til 6:30am when my daughter starts yelling for breakfast!
What do i say back? I have a mouth and are not afraid to use it!
Message edited 1/10/2007 12:52:21 PM.
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Michelle
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
How about f off.
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| Posted 1/10/07 12:51 PM |
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anon
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Message edited 2/9/2007 9:27:20 PM.
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| Posted 1/10/07 12:55 PM |
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iwed2005
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I am preparing myself for the same comments. i have a friend who constantly says "so and so just stays at home with the kids, i work !!" and when this girl makes a comment like that to me I will def tell her were to stick it. some people honestly may just do it out of jealousy. cherish the opportunity you have to raise your child, i know i will.
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| Posted 1/10/07 12:58 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
You want to hear the flipside of this?
Only one person has had b@lls to make asinine comment like this (my Dad's SIL) but boy did I want to punch her in the face.
I went to pick up my son at my Dad's house where he and his wife watch him while I work full time. She was there visiting and said to me:
"Oh what a shame, he's not going to love you. He's going to think she [Dad's wife] is his mommy. You watch, he'll start calling HER 'Mommy' instead of you."
I laughed at her. I laughed and said "Oh really?" as Jake hugged and kissed me, and only wanted my attention. And I pretended that it didn't bother me. I didn't even give her the satisfaction of a comeback... I just didn't want her to think she got to me because I knew that's what she wanted.
When she left my Dad goes "What an IDIOT!" I said yeah, thanks - now why didn't you say that in FRONT of her?!
Anyway, the point is, try not to let them see that it gets to you because that's all they are trying to do. Instead play along. Act like you are reveling in it: "Oh yeah, I can't WAIT to catch up on my soaps!!"
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:00 PM |
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betty
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
SCREW YOU
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:11 PM |
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preciouslove
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Screw you works best...
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:15 PM |
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ckdk
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by Michelle
How about f off.
seriously...
I actually never get those kinds of comments surprisingly.
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:24 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
My family hasn't said anything but when one of DH's colleagues made a comment at their holiday party I said "Yes, it's so nice to be able to have a job where I can sit and watch tv. (They work for a hedge fund and have multiple tvs tuned to financial news.) Thank god for the nanny, personal chef, cleaning lady, butler and driver - otherwise how would I fit in my Oprah and bon bons?"
That shut him up and he appologized to DH the next day at work.
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:32 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by sarahsmommy
My family hasn't said anything but when one of DH's colleagues made a comment at their holiday party I said "Yes, it's so nice to be able to have a job where I can sit and watch tv. (They work for a hedge fund and have multiple tvs tuned to financial news.) Thank god for the nanny, personal chef, cleaning lady, butler and driver - otherwise how would I fit in my Oprah and bon bons?"
That shut him up and he appologized to DH the next day at work.
I love this answer....I'm definitely the sarcasitic type so I would say something like that.
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:39 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by betty
SCREW YOU
Yep that works!!
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:43 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I would tell them to MYOB! Its not there problem anyway, so why get involved......thats what I would say!
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:44 PM |
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computergirl
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I never understood the "what do you DO all day" school of thought.
Um, SAHMs do the childcare that we otherwise need to outsource to nannies/daycare and pay top dollar for.
Does anyone question what the nanny or daycare provider "does all day"?
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:51 PM |
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by computergirl
I never understood the "what do you DO all day" school of thought.
Um, SAHMs do the childcare that we otherwise need to outsource to nannies/daycare and pay top dollar for.
Does anyone question what the nanny or daycare provider "does all day"?
good point!!!!
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| Posted 1/10/07 1:55 PM |
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LisaI
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I ignore the horrible comments and vent to my sister or husband, I got the comments for the first year of my daughters life. After family visited and saw what goes on a daily babsis in my home they NEVER say another word.
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| Posted 1/10/07 2:06 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by computergirl
Does anyone question what the nanny or daycare provider "does all day"?
i like that train of thought!
Thank goodness for DH he never ever would or has said anything about what i do all day! He wouldn't make it through the night!
Sometimes i don't get a chance to do bottles or fold laundry and he'll do it for me when he gets home to give me a break
I am just as exhausted if more at night than i was when i was working.
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| Posted 1/10/07 2:09 PM |
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ddunne2
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
This is not meant to start a debate...even some of my mom friends that work agree that being a SAHM can be way more draining and tiring than going to work everyday!
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| Posted 1/10/07 2:17 PM |
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iwed2005
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by ddunne2
This is not meant to start a debate...even some of my mom friends that work agree that being a SAHM can be way more draining and tiring than going to work everyday!
this is true for me. i work harder now then i ever did at my job.
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| Posted 1/10/07 2:31 PM |
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JD02
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Thank god I have not heard any of those types of comments. Do people think thats what we do all day for real?? My family watches my son for me on occasion so they are well aware that there is no sitting down!
I get the "you have to go back to work because you don't want to waste your education." I just tell people education is never wasted and I will make my own decisions thank you!
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| Posted 1/10/07 2:47 PM |
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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by JD02
I get the "you have to go back to work because you don't want to waste your education." I just tell people education is never wasted and I will make my own decisions thank you!
Oh yes, I have heard this too!
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I wouldn't say anything- I would punch them in the face. How insulting and more importantly- ignorant
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| Posted 1/10/07 2:58 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by Michelle
How about f off.
That sums it up for me!
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Oh, I've heard it all. I just ignore. I know its hard, but truthfully unless they spend a day doing what you do, its hard to understand.
better yet, I like the "F Off" too
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| Posted 1/10/07 4:20 PM |
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LInative
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
OMG how rude! I got the opposite from my mom "I don't understand why you can't take a leave of absence to stay home w/him". Well mom, it's called a mortgage. They typically look for a check every month, and I think the baby would appreciate a warm house to live in.. I think you get grief from people no matter what you choose to do - try not to let it get to you.
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| Posted 1/10/07 4:25 PM |
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2kids2cats
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
People can be SO annoying. I'm with the "f off" response! My MIL who never worked a day in her life raising her 4 boys...says the same thing about my SIL about working (she has no need to financially) and had a comment about me cutting back my hours to 3 days a week. People have some nerve really. Let it go in one ear and out the other. Tell them to go scratch!
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