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alex7-2
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alycia
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by sarahsmommy
My family hasn't said anything but when one of DH's colleagues made a comment at their holiday party I said "Yes, it's so nice to be able to have a job where I can sit and watch tv. (They work for a hedge fund and have multiple tvs tuned to financial news.) Thank god for the nanny, personal chef, cleaning lady, butler and driver - otherwise how would I fit in my Oprah and bon bons?"
That shut him up and he appologized to DH the next day at work.
ohhhhhh i love this one!!!! perfect way to put it...
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btrflygrl
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
how about "you're just jealous"
"at least my kids will be well adjusted"
I STILL get slack from my own family about not using my college degree. MAYBE when the kids will be school age.....but this is what WE Want and what WE think is best for our family....
and darn it....we do a FINE job of handling the finances on his salary.
If you can, then do so....you can ALWAYS go back to working when the kids are older
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| Posted 1/10/07 4:43 PM |
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beachgirl13
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Who is saying this to you???? It's ridiculous! Tell them to bite you.
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| Posted 1/10/07 6:54 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by IrishTracy
Posted by Michelle
How about f off.
That sums it up for me!
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| Posted 1/10/07 6:59 PM |
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cloddy
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Ew!  I can't believe anyone would say anything like this to you. TG no one has tried to say anything like that to me. I'd go off I'm sure. I looooove this response and it definitely sounds like something I'd say if anyone ever did.
Posted by sarahsmommy
My family hasn't said anything but when one of DH's colleagues made a comment at their holiday party I said "Yes, it's so nice to be able to have a job where I can sit and watch tv. (They work for a hedge fund and have multiple tvs tuned to financial news.) Thank god for the nanny, personal chef, cleaning lady, butler and driver - otherwise how would I fit in my Oprah and bon bons?"
That shut him up and he appologized to DH the next day at work.
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| Posted 1/10/07 7:02 PM |
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ExpectingJoy
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by wowcoulditbe
Posted by computergirl
I never understood the "what do you DO all day" school of thought.
Um, SAHMs do the childcare that we otherwise need to outsource to nannies/daycare and pay top dollar for.
Does anyone question what the nanny or daycare provider "does all day"?
good point!!!!
When someone asks me what I do, I always say "I am a nanny- for myself!"....
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| Posted 1/10/07 7:30 PM |
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MrsR
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by Michelle
How about f off.
I swear this was what I was going to write.
Who CARES what they think - you do what is good for you!!!
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| Posted 1/10/07 7:35 PM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I can't believe there are people out there who say things like this. Thankfully I haven't heard any comments. There are many days when I wish I could go to work instead of the work I have at home with DD.
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| Posted 1/10/07 7:35 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
How about "Bite Me"!
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| Posted 1/10/07 9:06 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I would probably say something along the lines of "Well, it's too bad your husband doesn't have a good enough job to allow you to raise your own kids."
I usually go for sarcastic replies to assinine comments and questions.
I always knew that DW was working her tail off as a SAHM, but I was recently home on medical leave for about 2 months. Just following her around for the first few weeks was exhausting! After I started being able to help her out, I got the full impact of what she goes through every day. I'm not sure if I could do it. I mean, I never commented if the house wasn't cleaned, but sometimes I would think "Why isn't the house cleaned?".... well, now I know why... SAHMs get my full and total respect. 
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| Posted 1/11/07 8:22 AM |
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4monkeys
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
I'd also respond with something sarcastic.
Yes, it might be hard to really see how much gets done, unless you step into a SAHMs shoes for a day (or a few hours  ) or a mom with more than one toddler    that's triple time 
but to bash it or say something disrespectful is just ignorant and rude
Luckily, Ive usually gotten "I dont know how the heck you do it" since I went to school at night while being a SAHM. and also had them pretty close in age. Obviously if I couldnt do it, for whatever reason, I wouldnt have, so that comment was annoying too
and now, if anyone sees me even at the Dr's office with 2 toddlers and an infant, I just get the WOW GOD BLESS YOU looks  
But I would NOT hold back from any comments like you've gotten
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| Posted 1/11/07 8:29 AM |
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4monkeys
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Re: SAHM's- What do you say to family/friends that insult your decision to stay home?
Posted by GoldenRod
I would probably say something along the lines of "Well, it's too bad your husband doesn't have a good enough job to allow you to raise your own kids."
I usually go for sarcastic replies to assinine comments and questions.
I always knew that DW was working her tail off as a SAHM, but I was recently home on medical leave for about 2 months. Just following her around for the first few weeks was exhausting! After I started being able to help her out, I got the full impact of what she goes through every day. I'm not sure if I could do it. I mean, I never commented if the house wasn't cleaned, but sometimes I would think "Why isn't the house cleaned?".... well, now I know why... SAHMs get my full and total respect.
How nice of you to say that and for admitting that you thought that way too. Hey Ive admitted it too, and I still will, before I had kids, I did think "what does she do all day" (I see the waterballoons coming my way ) but BOYYYYY did I eat my words up
and as you have more kids the past seems easier and easier. I think having just one is like being on vacation (no offense to moms of one!). Even having two is pretty easy. somehow at 3, youre outnumbered
We appreciate the hubbies too
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