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NewLeaf2012
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Thank you
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KarenK122
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Unless she has guardianship over her grandson there is nothing she can do. Maybe the mother just needs to process something that was told to her and then she will get back on board with the therapies. I would tell your friend to back off a bit and let the mother process what she needs too. I know when we found out DD was autistic my husband wanted to stop everything because he thought they were crazy. Of course I told him to scratch and we got even more therapies, but there are many people that take the hands off approach until the news becomes a reality.
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| Posted 6/1/14 9:25 PM |
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NewLeaf2012
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The mom knows what is wrong with her son. That isn't the problem. The mom didn't want to be held up with the therapy schedule. Kind of interfered with her life. There is more do it all but I won't put it all on here... The grandmother hasn't said anything to her yet. She is waiting to see if there is something she can do while the grandson is with her during the week. Then she will talk to her. It is just said that some "parents" put themselves first!
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| Posted 6/1/14 11:35 PM |
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What PP said.
You can't force anyone to do anything.
I have learned this long ago from my professional life.
I have worked with plenty of people who could benefit from services and the parents won't allow it for whatever reason.
It's sad to sit back and watch as a bystander.
As an aside, I also honestly get the therapy complaint. We've had a really bad OT for DS in the past and really, if she didn't come it really wouldn't have mattered.
Moving forward, I decided to have all of his services at school because it was really intrusive having it at home, especially when it wasn't a set schedule, or she would cancel at the last minute if she called at all.
I too am one of those people who have decided to take a wait and see approach with DS after receiving his diagnosis and I work in the helping professions. All my colleagues I have told too support my decision.
I am fortunate because my family too is on the same page. (At least to my face, some don't even believe there's an issue).
PS if she lives in Suffolk, services should be able to be delivered in Nassau. This was the case with DS. Some people just do not have the ability to stay home for this if they want to keep their job. I'm one of them. It's not interfering with my schedule, but is the actual reality of life and paying our bills.
(A place for DS to live, food on the table and our health insurance btw).
Having it at night was not an option for us either due to family time.
This is actually very common because I see it with my own clients at work. (Not wanting services in the evening or weekend and often we as parents and the kids in need of services are exhausted and not able to put our all into therapies).
I don't want you to take this the wrong way because you obviously posted out of a place of concern, but I would try to take yourself out of it because it sounds like you are comparing parenting styles, and probably don't have all the info about the situation.
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MrsT809
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I do agree with the others posters that she really has to let the mom call the shots unfortunately and in time hopefully she'll come around. If it really is mostly that the mom doesn't want to work around the therapy schedule then maybe she can offer to take him to have his services at the agency during the week when she has him. Again, it's up to the mom but maybe she'd be willing to give that a try.
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| Posted 6/2/14 7:10 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Posted by NewLeaf2012
The mom knows what is wrong with her son. That isn't the problem. The mom didn't want to be held up with the therapy schedule. Kind of interfered with her life. There is more do it all but I won't put it all on here... The grandmother hasn't said anything to her yet. She is waiting to see if there is something she can do while the grandson is with her during the week. Then she will talk to her. It is just said that some "parents" put themselves first!
When he transitions in to CPSE, he may qualified for a preschool setting like Just Kids or Alternatives. That may be a good solution for the family.
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| Posted 6/2/14 11:27 AM |
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donegal419
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Posted by CookiePuss
When he transitions in to CPSE, he may qualified for a preschool setting like Just Kids or Alternatives. That may be a good solution for the family.
yes, i was going to suggest this. She needs to get him evaluated by CPSE since he is no longer in EI now that he is 3. Sounds like he has a lot of delays, so he would probably qualify for a pre-school program. Therapies like speech, OT or whatever he needs would then be provided at school. Also, depending on what school best meets his needs, the district could approve a school in Nassau and provide his bussing.
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| Posted 6/3/14 1:26 AM |
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NewLeaf2012
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I think she would be able to get the daughter back on board if he could go to school in nassau.... They live close to little village.
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| Posted 6/3/14 10:11 PM |
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