Seriously getting annoyed by everyones comments

about us trying for #4 ! DH came from a family of 4 ,as did I. We loved it ! We always get a chuckle and a laugh , and we always get "good luck with that" THANKS !! I think the only person excited is my mom . Sorry I had to vent .. I am so annoyed !

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That is so irritating. Not sure why people think they have a right to say anything! I am not into having a lot of kids myself, but I am always so jealous of people that have a lot of siblings and I am sure your kids will love it!

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im soo sorry!!! i totally know what your going through and i only have 1 dd now! my mother has not been very supportive lately i havent eventold her were TTC because all i hear is.. "i can see abby and chloe (my niece) being my ONLY grandkids" , " i can totally see your family being complete NOW" " you know you should really wait till abbys in school and you get some time in at work before having another" When all is said and done i think she says these things as to not add pressure to me since my frist pregnancy and delivery was AWFUL and very stressfull emotional and physically on me and DH. so she doesnt want to pressure me to have more kids if we dont want them.. but im always saying how i want another and maybe another after that! and now its just becoming hurtful... they mean well but JUST DONT KNOW WHEN TO STOP TALKING!

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Posted by Meggo613

im soo sorry!!! i totally know what your going through and i only have 1 dd now! my mother has not been very supportive lately i havent eventold her were TTC because all i hear is.. "i can see abby and chloe (my niece) being my ONLY grandkids" , " i can totally see your family being complete NOW" " you know you should really wait till abbys in school and you get some time in at work before having another" When all is said and done i think she says these things as to not add pressure to me since my frist pregnancy and delivery was AWFUL and very stressfull emotional and physically on me and DH. so she doesnt want to pressure me to have more kids if we dont want them.. but im always saying how i want another and maybe another after that! and now its just becoming hurtful... they mean well but JUST DONT KNOW WHEN TO STOP TALKING!

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Posted by My3girlsMylife

Posted by Meggo613

im soo sorry!!! i totally know what your going through and i only have 1 dd now! my mother has not been very supportive lately i havent eventold her were TTC because all i hear is.. "i can see abby and chloe (my niece) being my ONLY grandkids" , " i can totally see your family being complete NOW" " you know you should really wait till abbys in school and you get some time in at work before having another" When all is said and done i think she says these things as to not add pressure to me since my frist pregnancy and delivery was AWFUL and very stressfull emotional and physically on me and DH. so she doesnt want to pressure me to have more kids if we dont want them.. but im always saying how i want another and maybe another after that! and now its just becoming hurtful... they mean well but JUST DONT KNOW WHEN TO STOP TALKING!

they definately don't know when to stop lol.

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I'm really. really sorry that both of you are dealing w/this. I would love to have a HUGE family (6 kids) but there is no way whatsoever we would be able to afford it here on the island. Its such a shame that it comes down to $$$$$$ to be a deciding factor as to how large your family is.

I understand your desire to provide your DC w/lots of siblings. It was just my bro & I growing up and I always used to dream about having more siblings. I lost my bro a few years ago and now its just me so I am VERY open about having a large family (DH is hesitant to meet me 1/2 way @ 4 kids ). Anyway what I hear once I announce the desire for 4 (forget about me mentioning 6) is "WOAH.....you'll change your mind once you have 1" (how do you know????) or "WOW your body is never going to bounce back from that." (thanks)



My thoughts.....Ummmm granted I told you so I have opened the door for a response but that does not allow you to lose all ability to be tactful!!!!

Warning ladies, there are idiots every where!!!! I know this b/c its a dominate gene in my family!

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Posted by MrsJFG

I'm really. really sorry that both of you are dealing w/this. I would love to have a HUGE family (6 kids) but there is no way whatsoever we would be able to afford it here on the island. Its such a shame that it comes down to $$$$$$ to be a deciding factor as to how large your family is.

I understand your desire to provide your DC w/lots of siblings. It was just my bro & I growing up and I always used to dream about having more siblings. I lost my bro a few years ago and now its just me so I am VERY open about having a large family (DH is hesitant to meet me 1/2 way @ 4 kids ). Anyway what I hear once I announce the desire for 4 (forget about me mentioning 6) is "WOAH.....you'll change your mind once you have 1" (how do you know????) or "WOW your body is never going to bounce back from that." (thanks)



My thoughts.....Ummmm granted I told you so I have opened the door for a response but that does not allow you to lose all ability to be tactful!!!!

Warning ladies, there are idiots every where!!!! I know this b/c its a dominate gene in my family!

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i totally get it. i'm one of four and my sister did the same thing you are doing... she had 3 kids and then always kept saying her family didn't feel complete, and she always loved that we were four, etc. at 42, she had her 4th baby. and now her family is complete.

i honestly just wouldn't tell anyone. people always have something to say and it's none of their business.

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Posted by Egg

i totally get it. i'm one of four and my sister did the same thing you are doing... she had 3 kids and then always kept saying her family didn't feel complete, and she always loved that we were four, etc. at 42, she had her 4th baby. and now her family is complete.

i honestly just wouldn't tell anyone. people always have something to say and it's none of their business.

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Ummm I'm trying for my 2nd and my mother and grandmother are seriously getting on my last nerve about how am I going to deal with two young kids and that I should wait..meanwhile I'm an only child and so is my mom....ppl will have comments for everything!!!