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MrsBumbleb
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Settle a disagreement...
You go on an interview and discuss pretty much everything like the responsibilities, benefits, pay. You were told a decision will be made by Fri. letting you know.
Now,...if you are offered the position over the phone on Fri. isn't it okay to accept it over the phone? DH says you never do that and that I should say I'll discuss the offer with my DH and get back to you. What's to discuss?????? I know all the details and have already discussed it with him. Isn't it a given that if you had an interview on Monday you would already have discussed it with your spouse?
Am I out of the real world loop or something? When I offer applicants jobs they always accept or decline right away.
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I always accept over the phone.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:49 PM |
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evnme
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
i would ask to have the weekend to think it over and then call them mon to accept or decline.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:50 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by evnme
i would ask to have the weekend to think it over and then call them mon to accept or decline.
really, why?
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:52 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I've always accepted over the phone.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:53 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Eh? I have ALWAYS accepted my positions via phone when the offer is made. The only time I would think that I would hesitate is if I had something else in the pipeline and wanted to find out first if I got the other position before making a decision.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:53 PM |
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Whamtastic
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I always accept over the phone. If I know I want the job and they offer it to me with the $$ I want, I'll accept on the spot.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:54 PM |
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by MrsBumbleb
Posted by evnme
i would ask to have the weekend to think it over and then call them mon to accept or decline.
really, why?
perhaps you were not the only one who got back to them on an offer...or maybe they are waiting for an offer from someone else...maybe they just need time to give it one last thought
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:54 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by Bxgell2
Eh? I have ALWAYS accepted my positions via phone when the offer is made. The only time I would think that I would hesitate is if I had something else in the pipeline and wanted to find out first if I got the other position before making a decision.
Ditto.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:54 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
accept it over the phone if everything has been discussed.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:56 PM |
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LInative
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I am a recruiter and people do both. Usually if they've had time to discuss w/their partner, are comfortable w/the salary and know all the benefits, they'll accept right away.
They can delay a decision for a few reasons:
1. need to talk to partner (re: Salary, relocation, vacation coming up, childcare...anything)
2. plan to negotiate but need to get a strategy together
3. aren't sure of benefits or other costs and need to run #'s.
4. Have other offers or PENDING offers and want to compare the 2 so they're trying to buy more time.
Sometimes they wont accept on the spot so as not to appear desperate (which I find silly). I agree with you, if you have had time to consider the position and are happy w/the offer there is nothing wrong w/accepting over the phone.
Personally I would not give notice until receiving an offer letter though.
Wow you didn't ask for all that huh?!
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:57 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Message edited 11/16/2011 8:31:27 PM.
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| Posted 2/6/08 2:59 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by Shelly
Posted by Bxgell2
Eh? I have ALWAYS accepted my positions via phone when the offer is made. The only time I would think that I would hesitate is if I had something else in the pipeline and wanted to find out first if I got the other position before making a decision.
Ditto.
Tritto.
Also if you knew all of the benefits, etc & told me you had to run it past your husband I would think:
- Why didn't she discuss options with her DH beforehand?
- she can't make the decision without your DH?
- she is stalling until another offer comes in, I better continue interviewing.
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| Posted 2/6/08 4:11 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I would NEVER tell a prospective employer that I wanted to discuss the opportunity with my DH/DW/SO/Parent... it just seems like you are less independent.
I have given a tentative acceptance on the phone and asked if they would be sending the formal offer by e-mail, mail or if I should come in the following business day to formalize.
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| Posted 2/6/08 4:17 PM |
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evnme
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by MrsBumbleb
Posted by evnme
i would ask to have the weekend to think it over and then call them mon to accept or decline.
really, why?
if u're unsure and want to kick the idea around take the weekend.
but if you 100% want the job, then accept on the phone.
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| Posted 2/6/08 4:23 PM |
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MST9106
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by rojerono
I would NEVER tell a prospective employer that I wanted to discuss the opportunity with my DH/DW/SO/Parent... it just seems like you are less independent.
I have given a tentative acceptance on the phone and asked if they would be sending the formal offer by e-mail, mail or if I should come in the following business day to formalize.
ITA! I would never say that I need to discuss the decision with my husband or significant other...its just weird...I mean if you're going on an interview, you're obviously interested in the position and with the hope of landing the job. The interview is to ask questions and find out more about the position...and thats what it should be used for...it should be double-sided...
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| Posted 2/6/08 4:35 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by LInative
3. aren't sure of benefits or other costs and need to run #'s.
Personally I would not give notice until receiving an offer letter though.
Ditto. This is usually my deal. I always make certain that the benefits offered, along with salary, are going to work for me.
And I ask if they can send me a fax or .pdf of an official offer. No one has ever given me a hard time.
Good luck!
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| Posted 2/6/08 6:52 PM |
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JennasMom
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by Shelly
Posted by Bxgell2
Eh? I have ALWAYS accepted my positions via phone when the offer is made. The only time I would think that I would hesitate is if I had something else in the pipeline and wanted to find out first if I got the other position before making a decision.
Ditto.
Same here
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pugmama
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
DH and I usually discuss the interview and the details the day of the interview so that I do have my mind made up when they call me so I can answer on the phone.
Only in one instance did I answer yes right away and wished I didnt. I didnt really factor in all the details and wished I negotiated the salary better.
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| Posted 2/7/08 9:15 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I would never say, " I will talk to my DH and get back to you" - I would accept the offer and follow up with a formal acceptance letter.
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| Posted 2/7/08 1:53 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
In the past, i have accepted jobs over the phone.
In the future I would ask to get back to them so I could negotiate further. I wouldn't say I had to talk it over with my husband. I think that is getting too personal and its unecessary.
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| Posted 2/7/08 3:04 PM |
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leese
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I'm different but even if I discussed it on Monday, talked it over with DH - if I got the offer on Friday I would definitely take the weekend even if I was pretty sure I'd take it.
But all the times I've been offered, I've always tried to up the ante on salary or other benefits.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
I have always accepted over the phone and then the offer letter was sent to me later on. only after you sign the letter it is considered official.
eta: any negotiating I have done was over the phone when the offer was made to me - before the offer letter was sent.
Message edited 2/9/2008 10:44:14 AM.
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igottabeme
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
the only time i havent accepted on the phone was when they tried to negotiate my starting salary. in which i said i need to discuss things with my husband and get back to them. other wise, if everything has been discussed and nothing has changed then go for it. accept away!
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| Posted 2/9/08 12:57 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Settle a disagreement...
Posted by rojerono
I have given a tentative acceptance on the phone and asked if they would be sending the formal offer by e-mail, mail or if I should come in the following business day to formalize.
Same
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