So tired of "well meaning" people

I know she means well, but I wish sometimes that people would know when to give something a rest. One of my coworkers who knows about my recent loss keeps coming in to my office and saying things like "I don't mean to pry, but how are you doing." When you have to preface something with "I don't mean to pry", it means that that's exactly what you're doing!

When I tell her I'm okay, she'll keep pushing and say things like "are you really okay, or just as okay as you can be?"

I know she means well, but if I wanted to open up to you, I would. Clearly, I don't, so just let it go!

So tired of

It is perfectly ok to pull her aside and say thank you for your concern but i have friends and family i can talk to, also id appreciate you not reminding me on a daily basis. People unfortunity can be pretty brainless sometimes.

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Well, she already struck again. She knows I started going to hot yoga a few months ago. Today, she was asking how crowded classes were at certain times. Then, she asked if I've been back since, "ya know." I just gave her the stink eye and said yes. She then follows up with, "Isn't that traumatic for you?" So I asked why, thinking it would shame her (and because my blood was boiling too much to say anything else and still be civil). She actually answered that it might be traumatic because I wouldn't have been allowed to go if I were still pregnant. I was shocked. She also had the nerve to ask repeatedly if it was physically okay for me to do yoga now.

I'm seething mad right now. And I'm also mad at myself for not being able to find the words to put her in her place.

Do you think it would be okay to send her an email asking her (as nicely as possible) to stop doing this?

So tired of

Wow...how incredibly rude!!! Unless she's a complete moron, she HAS to know how insensitive she sounds.
If it makes you more comfortable to write an e-mail, then that's what you should do.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

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I dont think shes well meaning, she sounds like an idiot. I think you need to tell her to stop asking or have someone else at work say something to her directly. Very very rude she is, Im sorry.

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Thanks, everyone! She actually has been okay yesterday and today. After her comments the other day, I was on the phone with DH. I thought I saw her walk past my door towards the hallway and I vented to him about what she'd said. I wasn't very loud, but I don't know if she heard me. If she did, I hadn't planned to be so passive aggressive about it, but at least for the moment she's keeping her nose in her own business.

So tired of

If it happens again and it's hard to tell her, I don't think sending an email is a bad idea. Glad she has let up for the moment. Hope it stays that way!!